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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else?
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not at all unless the platonic relationship becomes more important than the romantic
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Not in my book. It seems people think that a man and woman can't "just" be friends, or that's been my experience anyway.
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does being friends with someone of the opposite sex while you are romantically involved with someone else qualify as cheating?
different words but we asked the same thing. it really depends on you and your significant other tho |
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I wouldn't consider it cheating. MY definition must involve sexual intimacy, or kissing and fondling ...etc...cheating is a physical thing.
However, deception does not require a physical element. I believe any relationship that is being hidden is deceptive, and potentially a problem. |
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? This depends on viewpoint in my opinion. I can understand let's say your boyfriend (just saying you have one), not being too happy with you seeing another guy on your own even in a platonic way, a little bit of jealousy maybe, but guys are only human. However, what if your boyfriend forbade you from seeing the guy and you ignored your boyfriend, would this be cheating? Maybe not in the true sense of the word, but I think you would be close to the boundary in doing so, this is only my opinion and I am perhaps old fashioned in my views. |
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? Each of us certainly has a unique pool of experiences...For me, My personal experiences uncovered past baggage, major insecurities, low self esteem, low self confidence and lack of trust as the bases for my companions' beliefs that men should only have male friends... I have incredible friends both male and female who have my back in times of need...if a potential companion requires that i toss them to the curb, not happening... |
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? It's not cheating. As long as you know who you are and as long as you're faithful.. your relationship to other guy is pure friendship (no feeling more than a friend and no sex) it's never a cheating. It's ok to be a little jealous (that's part of loving) but not to the point that it's too much.. to the point that you are not trusting your partner anymore... a good relationship is built on love, trust, honesty, sincerity and respect. If one of those things are missing, it's better to let the person go. |
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no, not at all. I have many female friends that are just that.. fiends. If my special woman had a problem with that then it would be her problem only.
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? Maybe. Did the platonic relationship to an opposite sex exist before the romantic involvement with someone else? During the romantic involvement did the person go to online dating sites, or social media, and specifically search for someone of the opposite sex to establish a new relationship? They specifically avoided any attempts at making same sex friends? Or was the development organic? Like their coworker they see every day? Is the platonic relationship kept separate from the romantic relationship with strict boundaries? Such as refusing to spend time all together? Did the person hide or lie about their platonic relationship from the person they are romantically involved with in any way, for any reason? What's the nature of the relationship? The opposite sex friend sends a christmas card every year and they post on each others facebook? They're a customer that comes in every day? Or they hang out every weekend getting drunk and blacking out in each others bedrooms? But really, all that matters is does the person they are romantically involved with consider it cheating? If you are friends with someone of the opposite sex and the person you are romantically involved with feels/thinks your platonic relationship is "cheating" playing word games of "well, technically" or "well, the people I asked on the internet don't think so," isn't guaranteed to change their mind or judgment. |
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Edited by
Duttoneer
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Wed 01/17/18 02:40 AM
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? It must depend on the nature of the relationship. Do they work together, belong to the same sports club, like badminton, attend the same nightschool classes, choir group, etc, and are always meeting in these or similar circumstances with others, is what I would call plutonic friendship. If you meet someone frequently on their own, for a coffee, a chat, a drink, visit the cinema, the park, a day out together, is another kind of friendship and I would question whether this is a plutonic friendship, seems to me this is to all intents and purposes dating, and these kinds of friendships only develop and are the cause of breakups or divorce in my opinion. Why would anyone want to spend so much alone time with someone other than their romantic partner, doesn't make sense to me. |
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Does a platonic relationship to an opposite sex considered and or categorized as a form of cheating,while you're romantically involved with someone else? Yes! Because a romantic relationship is emotional as well as sexual. |
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GREAT post by ciretom. Lists pretty much what I was thinking. Toodygirl5 added a pertinent note as well.
I chanced to be thinking about this earlier today, because another often complained about idea of "cheating" got mentioned and briefly discussed by the local sports talk guys. What they were triggered by, was the old idea that looking at porn is cheating, in some peoples' thinking, and from there they started mentioning various other non-intimate things that people complain about and call "cheating." I've tended to at least start from the idea that if the mate says it's cheating, then it is, but I've become dissatisfied with that, since it opens the door to too much manipulation and eventual possessiveness. So maybe there's another approach to take. A new thought I had, is along the lines of, if it concerns you enough to ask, you are probably crossing your OWN lines. And if you start looking for other people to support you in your argument justifying what you want to do, it's VERY troublesome. In this question in particular, the choice of including the word "platonic" catches me up. It reminds me of my younger days, when I realized that if a girlfriend reassured me that some guy she was talking about was a "purely platonic friend," it usually mean that she wanted to jump his bones big time. She had to be THINKING ABOUT SEX, in order to feel the need to include the term "platonic" along with the word "friend." So all in all, I would say that if your significant other has gone to the trouble of building a relationship with someone else of the same sex as you, AND feels the need to get support from others to argue that it should be okay, AND they have to include the word "platonic" in their argument... ...it all adds up to your relationship being in big trouble. |
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If you're truly just friends, then no.. If you have romantic feelings toward the friend and are simply not acting on them, it could be considered having your cake and eating it too. "The cake you have" being the platonic relationship. Lol!
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Edited by
Duttoneer
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Sun 01/21/18 12:23 AM
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^^^^ I would consider that must be about as much fun as eating a toffee with the paper on. (No offence meant, to each their own)
I would not want to be in that situation. |
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GREAT post by ciretom. Lists pretty much what I was thinking. Toodygirl5 added a pertinent note as well. I chanced to be thinking about this earlier today, because another often complained about idea of "cheating" got mentioned and briefly discussed by the local sports talk guys. What they were triggered by, was the old idea that looking at porn is cheating, in some peoples' thinking, and from there they started mentioning various other non-intimate things that people complain about and call "cheating." I've tended to at least start from the idea that if the mate says it's cheating, then it is, but I've become dissatisfied with that, since it opens the door to too much manipulation and eventual possessiveness. So maybe there's another approach to take. A new thought I had, is along the lines of, if it concerns you enough to ask, you are probably crossing your OWN lines. And if you start looking for other people to support you in your argument justifying what you want to do, it's VERY troublesome. In this question in particular, the choice of including the word "platonic" catches me up. It reminds me of my younger days, when I realized that if a girlfriend reassured me that some guy she was talking about was a "purely platonic friend," it usually mean that she wanted to jump his bones big time. She had to be THINKING ABOUT SEX, in order to feel the need to include the term "platonic" along with the word "friend." So all in all, I would say that if your significant other has gone to the trouble of building a relationship with someone else of the same sex as you, AND feels the need to get support from others to argue that it should be okay, AND they have to include the word "platonic" in their argument... ...it all adds up to your relationship being in big trouble. I paused at the need for the word "platonic" myself, but assumed it was for clarification so readers would not assume "friends with benefits". What do you say poster? Which is it? |
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