What is true ? What is right? What is fair? These are questions we ask ourselves in loving someone we don’t like. Loving is a choice and not liking them or what they do is part of loving. We put aside our own feelings to do what is best for them and not ourselves....
Heard from instagram.
What do you guys think?

Lots of questions there. True is hard to define, it is not just that which is proven(to me) because what is true is true even before others may know it.


Right is dependent upon where ones standards and values come from. What is right to me is in line with how Jesus lived and what has come to be validated in my own life experiences.

I believe when we love someone we have to do what is best for BOTH of us, there is no separation. (for me) there has to be compromise that will, at the end of the day, be good for our relationship, and neither for just me or just them.

I believe people are all fallible and imperfect and that it is not necessary to like everything about a persons looks, actions, or words in order to choose to love them.

I find it dificult to love someone i don't like. Like and love are not the same, if i don't like him love is far. Some men like that have came to me but i said no. I may like someone just as friend but not to love. Except the love of God which i can share with everybody

Well, Soul...in my opinion,
If you are in love with someone... you automatically like them. Love in a relationship over time has hills and valleys, ups and downs as it were.

I guess that the part of the marriage vow that really rings that bell.

For better or worse. In Sickness and health. For Richer or poorer.... Until death do you part.....that...is true love. Loving thru the faults.

I guess they put that in there to give them a last minute escape clause...heeee heeee..

I know I ramble, but I hope this helps!!
Ciao bella!
;^)

I think you are confused.

Perhaps you meant tolerate someone you don't like?

Love is the crux of like.

Think of a ladder with hate at the bottom, intolerance next, tolerance next, then like and at the top love.

To love you must pass thru like to get there.

With family, its different.
You can care for their well being but not love them or like them.

I have a daughter in law I can't stand but I care for her well being because her well being directly impacts my son and my grandchildren.

As long as she remains wife and mother to people I do love, I tolerate her. If something were to happen to that relationship, I would not care about her at all.

I promote harmony because my son loves her and I love my son.

Been in love to people I don't like.. not that I don't like them for their character but I don't like them to love more than a friend (for some reason)... If I can choose, I won't love them more than that but like what other people say, you can't choose the one that you will love.

Love will come unexpectedly and when it comes your heart will beat fast... you will keep on thinking them

Anyway, at the end of the day, you will still do the right thing... you will choose to do what's best for all.. you will prefer not to tell what you feel and you will be contented that you are friends.. you will realize that somehow you are still grateful because they came and taught you how to love...

When it comes to a partner, I couldn't be with someone I don't respect. Like and respect are hand-in-glove in my book.

If he simply does things I don't like? I'm not so critical and I'm going to do plenty that annoys him too. Physical harm, mental cruelty and cheating would all be a one time experience for me. I would never be able to respect them again. But those would go way beyond dislike.

When it comes to family, I can and do love people I don't like. They are my family and my blood and I would do everything in my power for them, with the exception of suffering physical abuse.

I think you are beautiful and I could fall in love with you...
Kisses,
Billy

sorry ss but loving someone, anyone that i don't like is not gonna happen. tom's ladder is a fair way to describe it. about the only exception i could see would be, for instance... i love that guy's music but nope i don't like him as a person.

cant love somebody you don't like

What is true? An accurate agreement between two or more people.

What is right? The agreement of morals between two or more people.

What is fair? The agreement of equality between a select group of two or more people.

These are questions we ask ourselves in loving someone we don’t like. Only when we are confused.

We put aside our own feelings to do what is best for them and not ourselves.... For people we don't like? What could ever give you that idea?

Loving is a choice and not liking them or what they do is part of loving. No, it really isn't.

Heard from Instagram. Ah, clarity. Because people on Instagram are wise and have everything about the complex idiosyncrasies of life figured out.

What do you guys think?
What I think doesn't matter. I live under my own methodology of sociology. I do not 'fit' with society. Most likely because I don't try to make simple things complicated.

If I choose to help a stranded motorist it isn't because I love them. It is because my own convictions and morals direct me to help those that need it, when I am able.

I don't love everybody. I don't hate everybody either.
There are those that I can't tolerate and those that I can.
There are some people I like, sometimes quite a bit, but I don't love them.
The people I love are few and far between but when I love them, I do like them too.

I can show compassion for someone I don't like but can tolerate.

For those I can't tolerate, I avoid. No use putting myself in an untenable situation for no reason.

Loving is a choice, I can love a person because they are a human being, and it has nothing to do with whether I agree with their views or their character! However, I don't have to associate with them.

Wow, that just cheapens my whole idea of love.
Might as well say I love this rock because it is part of Earth and I love Earth because it is where I live and it keeps me alive. However, I don't have to go stand in a volcano.

If I don't like someone.. that's it.. I don't like them And I sure as hell could not love them.

"Heard from Instagram," eh? I think maybe what whoever wrote this was talking about, was situations where someone finds that they are already in an official love relationship, where their main squeeze shows flaws of various kinds. And they are asking where people draw lines in such situations.

My first thought, is something like a guy who is in love with a woman, and after falling in love, finds out she's a scam artist. Or she's a racist and he's not.

In short, do you let your emotional connection or desire for someone, establish or change your personal principles or standards? Does "love conquer all," in THAT WAY?

If someone you have come to love, turns out to have serious character defects, do you change yourself to accept them? Try to change them? Or just walk away?

I've run into a few such situations. Each one was different. In cases where I was just starting to be attracted, I usually backed away, grudgingly. In cases where I was "in too deep," I sometimes tried to coax the person away from the problem behaviors.

And as someone else mentioned, family is separate. If what they do is nasty enough, I will fight them on it to the grave, but I will never desert them.

I agree. You can't like or love someone who lies.and I don't. But I also couldn't love someone I don't like...
Billy

life is choice we make for our own happiness. do what makes you happy & happiness will follow

Love and Like are two different and separate feelings but could coexist, I’m a living proof of that in both ways

Love and don’t like
Like and don’t Love

Since I got separated of my only wife I decided to break the wheel an go against my curse

It wasn’t been bad at all, and I’m talking before I got married and my desire is not to fall again in that circle

My problem is I had living with persons I didn’t love but desire more than a lot and viceversa

I don’t how some women feels irresistible attraction to me and the desire to posees me, and viceversa

Those are questions we ask during jury duty.
Those are questions we ask when we catch our children doing something wrong.
Those are questions we ask when we get our hospital bill after part is covered by insurance.
Those are questions we ask all the time for different situations and reasons.


Not really.
Left or right is a choice.
Expressing behavior that denotes "loving," or attempting to manipulate our lives and situations that could potentially lead to "loving," is full of choices.
Actual "loving" isn't a direct choice.
It's not a simple feeling you can choose to be on or off, to be or not.


...it can be, but it doesn't have to be, and it's a part of a far more complex conceptualization.


Again, more complex and complicated than this.
There's a presumption that one person knows what's best for another.
And inherent to what's quoted is kind of the idea that we victimize or sacrifice ourselves for the sake of others.
Sacrifice is a social virtue.
Lots of people love to do it when it's not really necessary as a means of propelling themselves higher in the hierarchy, to feel better than others, to excuse wrongs, self flagellate, as a means for "brownie points" against future wants, all sorts of reasons.

Putting "aside our own feelings" for others and not ourselves is rarely to never altruistic.
Working to maintain situations where those feelings don't arise so don't have to be put aside is altruistic.


I think at best it's just specious ramblings from a mangina that wants to curry favor with women about how sensitive, caring, and in touch with his emotions and relationships he is.

At worst it's a woman trying to sell some kind of crap article to cosmo.