No matter how perfect a relationship, there will be disagreements. When they come up in a public situation, how do you deal with it?

Personally, I feel like arguing with your partner in a public place is extremely disrespectful, not only to them, but the people who have to witness it. I'm one for waiting until I get home to voice a complaint or discuss an issue.

But as often as I see it, it seems like many couples simply don't care who sees/hears their spats.

Do you think views on whether or not it's acceptable to argue in public is something that differs regionally? What about culturally?

I don't like arguing at all, but disagreements do happen.

Definitely in private!

It really bothers me when I see others arguing in public. And it doesn't feel very good when someone is yelling at you in public either, it's pretty humiliating.

I have heard so many couples arguing lately, I was beginning to think I was the only one who feels this way.

Agreed...
Private...
If your partner feels the need to berate you in public, then there is a problem upstairs...
Immaturity or just plain dramatic...

I think people are people whatever regional or cultural, when it comes to arguments. It maybe in another language but it is still an argument.

I do not like agruing in public I prefer to have a disagreement with my husband or man friend in private. Wait til we get home.

Open forums are public and I see agumentive conversations here over and over on Some topics .

I've heard quite a bit as well, and no I don't care to be around that energy at all.

When I lived in Florida and took the bus home, I would hear people getting on their phones just to yell at someone. My thoughts were always "thank God I don't have you in my life"

But I did have a family member in my life down there who did the same thing. Didn't care who was listening when she was screaming at someone, justifiable of course , or who was listening when she was doing it to you.

I tend to avoid an argument at all cost, if I have to step away until I am able to discuss things without it becoming heated, then I will say so and handle it later. Little babbles are fine, but if you're really angry, I feel waiting until things cooled down is best.

If they argue in public, the making up part will be rather limited.

Always a good idea to cool down first. I have to admit to being very upset with someone, but after considering their viewpoint for a while, realized I was the one being unreasonable. It's nice not to have to eat words when that happens.

arguments happen if it's in public control it and limit it.
if it's gonna be the end of days, then take it home.

but always always make up in private

I've run into a few topics here that got a bit heated and thought to myself...just keep walking Annessa...just keep walking.

Unless you want to be banned from the Woolsworth.

actually it was the grocery store

No, that's never fun. I've lost my temper a few times, even though I try to avoid conflicts. I use those times as opportunities to learn from it. Looking at how I reacted, owning it, and thinking about how I would have liked to have handled it help me to do things differently the next time I'm faced with intense emotions.

You can't do THAT in the produce section!

that's what the manager told them

I don't know that anyone has made me lose my temper yet, but I'm not shy about letting someone know they've hurt my feelings. I can be a bit sensitive at times. Like you said...we learn by the embarrassing moments, so it's probably good to have a few behind us.

NO WAY!

to this day they both swear to it

I'm not sure how far back my aversion to arguing in public goes. It may have been triggered by my being upset when my parents argued in front of us kids. I have horrible memories of that.

Since then, I've seen a lot of public arguments, and I've noticed a couple of unrelated things.

One is that some people pick fights with their "mate" in public on purpose, as a manipulative technique. Sometimes they just want to embarrass the "mate" into giving in, to shut them up, and sometimes it's an attempt to artificially gain allies in a weird way. Kind of like in forums,when someone posts an argument, not to sort out their own thoughts, but rather to enlist allies that they can then fling in their "mates" face.

Another, is the thing about arguing over a cell phone. Frankly, I think fewer people have mentally caught up with how cell phone conversations work, than realize it. Lots of people talk on the phone, the same way they talk when they are wearing headphones. The have no sense of the fact that everyone around them, hears them even better than the person on the other end, that they are yelling at.