Everyone does have a right to their opinions too!

Your first paragraph makes very good points!

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I think setving is putting your life on the line in the course of yoyr enlistment.
However, spouses and family members sacrifice a lot in dealing with tge absence of their loved one.
In being the support and caregiver, nurse etc in staying strong with each other in dealing with ptsd, amputees and other disability which occurs as a direct result of their loved one's time serving.

Speaking as a veteran I totally agree with you..

Thank you for your service

Well a base is like a self contained town really, isn't it. So it makes sense spouses feel part of the community.

I feel the answer is yes. To sign up with someone 'serving their country' is a commitment unlike others in the sacrifice that will be asked of you, the support you give enables them to serve, and in that sense you are a partner in their commitment to the country.

I would say they serve. My daughter married her husband 3 days before he left for basic training. His first station was fort Lewis. Almost 3000 miles away. She had to leave her family and change schools. No family was there to help when the baby was born. When he went to Iraq, she would sent packages of food and anything else he wanted. The next baby was born at fort Irwin without any help from the family. He would have to go out in the field for weeks and she had everything to do alone. Thank goodness they are finally home.

well, if she's serving him sandwiches...then she's doing her part as a woman, wife, and to her country... especially if he has his army buddies over for sandwiches...

Having served in the Marines and having been married at the time, I don't consider the spouse to have served. They supported, but they didn't serve. Spouses didn't get yelled at, they didn't run physical conditioning at 4:30 AM every morning, and they didn't have to deal with some of the day to day insanity that we had to put up with.

I do give them huge kudos for putting up with and supporting those who did! Military spouses are amazing!

Semper Fi, fellow Marines!

I agree...they have put up with more than an average married couple, but way less than the enlisted partner...

The spouse may get the honor of
sucking up military dependents benefits.

But, they aren't servicemembers.
And, the only thing they're serving,
is their marriage.

Some spouses don't even do that much.

I would say the Military spouse is a partner for sure , she or he might not be on the battle field ( unless they were and retired) but I believe they should be considered serving as support staff.

Who do you think mows the lawns , shovels the snow especially if she pregnant as the husband is deployed?

Who do you think sits on the other end of the phone, or emails to raise the spirit of the deployed soldier .

Who do you think holds the family together during holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, kids graduation when the spouse is deployed.

And when they relocate from base to base or country to country who is doing all the planning, moving, packing and unpacking etc.

The spouse, so yeah they do serve but in a different way a strong partnership, motherhood and fatherhood is difficult enough , try keeping family together when one of them is deployed.

anyways my two cents.

Wouldn't it make more sense to marry after you finish serving in the Military?

Actually many save the government from paying sspousal benefits.

I had family., Who served in the Military. My dad was one , he was in the Navy.

However, he married my mother. After he got out of the Military.


Just a thought.

better benefits now, especially if the service member dies, the spouse is taken care of

I think so

I think marriage is about sharing life with someone and should occur when people want to make that commitment to do so, whatever their career of choice.

Otherwise, people could wait until retirement from ANY career, and save someone money on the benefits, but the motivation to 'share life' with someone kind of decreases, the more life is behind you, not to mention that having children has a time limit for women, that is usually right around the same time someone may be becoming eligible to leave their career.

The military, like any occupation, should be a way for the income to support your family. I dont feel it should be any other way.

I think marriage is about sharing life with someone and should occur when people want to make that commitment to do so, whatever their career of choice.

Otherwise, people could wait until retirement from ANY career, and save someone money on the benefits, but the motivation to 'share life' with someone kind of decreases, the more life is behind you, not to mention that having children has a time limit for women, that is usually right around the same time someone may be becoming eligible to leave their career.

The military, like any occupation, should be a way for the income to support your family. I dont feel it should be any other way.