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Topic: Reading profile before messaging
I_love_bluegrass's photo
Thu 05/02/19 07:57 AM

I'm thinking for the most part is to save time.
Going thru all the possibles and maybes on the profile and striking out on the first inning is a major bummer.
So to save us ...us meaning me and whoever. ..let's jump in and test the water..none of these toe testing stuff. .

That's just me tho .... I don't speak for all men.


"I'm thinking for the most part is to save time."
????
Because if a guy (legit guy, not scammer) messages me, and mentiones nothing about my profile (like, "I see you are into x, y, z too....cool"), i will ask him some pointed questions, which, *had he* read the profile, i would not need to to..
I have no interest in or patience for the kind of non-conversation that goes "hi"....Hi..."how u"..Good..."wassup"...Nothing...

Like someone else dais:
"I can understand your idea, but if they're too lazy to read a profile, or think they're so irresistible I would change my parameters --- I wouldn't want to meet them."

I *love* a lengthy, informative profile...it gives me an idea of what, if anything we'll have in common, if we see eye-to-eye on key, core issues...aside from having conversation starters..
If it is just one line...can't do that..mad

To each their own.

oldkid46's photo
Thu 05/02/19 08:27 AM
While I appreciate an informative profile and have one, I don't bother writing much more than a greeting in the first email. When 99% won't message back, I'd rather spend my computer time doing something a little more productive.

Greenerpastures's photo
Thu 05/02/19 09:17 AM


frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa


I do... And majority of the time I don't message them because of no profile, or just to picky for me...

Of course most run when I mention"disabled"....


As we grow older more are "disabled", it does not mean they are dead! I'd much rather have a man physically disabled than mentally! It takes a special kind of person to have a relationship with a person with a disability. Usually that person has gone through some kind of physical pain themselves. I for one agree with your statement because of the ignorance of others. I have a disability, it can't be seen or noticed most of the time. Finding someone with a disability does not prevent me from looking further at the individual. I say, what is on the inside is much more important than what we see in the mirror.

no photo
Wed 08/07/19 08:01 PM
My hypothesis is they are lazy and seeking instant gratification. They are not interested in getting to know that person, they just want a quick hook up without putting in any effort so they only look at the pics like a toddler lol.

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Thu 08/08/19 07:06 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Thu 08/08/19 07:09 AM

My hypothesis is they are lazy and seeking instant gratification. They are not interested in getting to know that person, they just want a quick hook up without putting in any effort so they only look at the pics like a toddler lol.




TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 11/20/19 08:02 AM
Some do read them some don't...Myself I do read them mainly to see if they are married or just looking for a one niter which I by-pass like the plague...

Actually it does not matter how much they put on a profile it is all about if they can actually carry on a conversation or not..

But profiles do help at times to eliminate those that you know you would not have anything in common with..

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Wed 11/20/19 09:48 PM
Edited by Unknow on Wed 11/20/19 09:49 PM
Would you like cheddar or Swiss with your whine? Just kidding, but yeah internet dating can be frustrating.

mysticalview21's photo
Thu 11/21/19 09:26 AM
Edited by mysticalview21 on Thu 11/21/19 09:30 AM

This site has went to hell in a hand basket. It was bad enough when there were just scammers but now camgirls. I'm not interested in either. WHY THE F*** is it so hard to find someone whose real? This site is ********!!!




I always read ...before I message ...
rofl don't let it get you down ...
to many cool people here in the forums ... and some are not here to scam u ...
look at our posts No. most scammers don't have those no. ... waving

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Fri 11/22/19 01:25 PM
I always read the profiles of women that I might be interested in. I'm not sure if anyone reads mine, given the number of young women who match with or just view me.:laughing:

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Fri 11/22/19 01:40 PM
oh come seamus i read it and i think you're the bees kneeslove only i'm on the wrong side of the pond

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Fri 11/22/19 01:45 PM

oh come seamus i read it and i think you're the bees kneeslove only i'm on the wrong side of the pond
you're too kind.:thumbsup:

Let'sDoThis's photo
Mon 11/25/19 03:45 PM
I'll read if, it's short and informative.
Otherwise, they might tend to talk as much as they write.

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Mon 11/25/19 05:52 PM
I think the really young guys, in their 20's, couldn't care less what your profile says. If they see anything about you are not looking for a relationship, they take it to mean you are looking for casual sex.

Mike's photo
Thu 11/28/19 10:16 AM
Agree..so dang frustrating.:angry: frustrated

Gregory Pook's photo
Fri 11/29/19 10:45 AM
Hello

Gregory Pook's photo
Fri 11/29/19 10:46 AM
agreed

PrincessRobin's photo
Mon 12/02/19 10:56 PM

frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa


i know the feeling... they ask you questions that are clearly listed on your profile... when guys to that to me i allways say "my profile has alot of information about me"... lol...

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