What kind of relationship would actually improve your life? So many people get married into a generic relationship and are stressed out, have no privacy, and have even less time available. Compatibility is important and not everyone is the same. What would a relationship be like to actually make you MORE successful and happy, yourself?

I've never relied on another person
to improve my life.

Improvement comes from within.

Improvement does come from within, that is true.

For me the only relationship I know of would something minimalist, maybe just people watching.

A relationship where we could discuss anything and everything and support each other in whatever we do in good and bad times. If the lady is happy, that would in turn make me happy. Communication is a key. Can't loose that or a relationship is doomed.

I'm not seeking a relationship for me.
I'm seeking a relationship with a woman.
A relationship which benefits both of us as individuals and as a pair.
One that has the flexibility to change as each of us changes during life.
One that matures into an intimate bond that surpasses trials and tribulations.
One that strengthens the trust we feel for each other.

I'd love to be able to say to her...
"I can't tell where you end and I begin anymore and I don't want to. Being here with you, right now, just feels ... Right."
Then, being able to say that no matter the circumstances.


You can't 'find' that kind of relationship.

You have to build it with honesty and communication.
You have to be able to think of someone besides yourself and really mean it.

Most important, it has to be both sides with the same feelings.
You give them strength where they are weak and they make you strong where you are weak and it happens automatically.


I had that with my X at one time, then... we broke it.

I do believe that a person can enrich your life....make you a better person if you will. You have to be able to be happy with you before you can appreciate that though.

I can see the reasoning in that.
The people in our lives DO affect us and our sense of worth.
We get wisdom from all of them, good and bad.
When ya care about someone that cares about you we tend to be the best we can be.

Example: By myself I swear like a truck mechanic but in the company of women and children I curb my language.
The longer I do it, the less I swear, even when I am alone.

I totally agree but, the other part of that is your partner must be happy with themselves as well. Being accepting of each other as you really are will enrich both partners. Even in bad times just like the good.

An honestly supportive and motivating respectful one?

It's actually fairly simple for me:

I want to be with someone who is with me, because they want to be with me.

The trick about that is, that lots of people want someone to fill a collection of roles, or to perform a collections of tasks for them. Then they marry or otherwise link up with someone, and find out they really don't like the complete person enough.

That's why I try to be open about my defects, rather than "on my best behavior" with potential mates. If something about me is going to put someone off, I'd like that to be easy for them to see before we invest so much that a great emotional mess occurs that has to be cleaned up.

Oh, and that means that I have no interest in anyone, no matter how attractive, who sees relationships as temporary experiences, like carnival rides. That current day fad notion that a good relationship lasts a year or two and then both people cheerfully move on, is about as empty and unappealing as it gets.

I sign this. And would like to add mutual acceptance, trust and understanding. We need a solid emotional bond, before it comes to the more psysical aspects. JMO

A female best buddy to share the fun things in life with!

Like I've said elsewhere..
Most people don't do due dilligence when they meet an new person.

I have had several guys on other sites say, either literally or figuratively "all that msatters is I am attracted to you...everything else will work out/ none of that other stuff matters"..

"Other stuff"...like commonalities, shared world and social views and beliefs, goals..etc...

So...all they have going for them is sex/ hormones...and those will wane some when the "new" wears off, ebb and flow over time....
And, when they wane...and you have nothing else that interests you/ in common with you partner....then comes the "fell out of love"..
(like you said.." temporary experiences, like carnival rides. That current day fad notion that a good relationship lasts a year or two and then both people cheerfully move on")

*If* you have shared commonalities and so forth..you have things that keep you close during *those* periods..

Just my opinion, based on my first marriage, in the 80's....and what i have observed in others in the past 30 years.

I *am* aware that, for some, they *like* the he does his stuff with his friends, she does her stuff with her friends...they basically live separate lives, only sharing a roof over their heads..

For some, that fine...but, that's not for me.

Great question.
What would improve my life doesn't fall so much on whether I'm in or out of a relationship. Relationships aren't the be-all and end-all of life.
But if there were some kind of relationship that would make me more successful - and that's relative of course - besides friendship, it would be the Friends With Benefits kind of relationship.
There's nothing more annoying than a low-self-esteem broad who craves attention 24/7 while you're working to better your social and financial status.
The kind of relationship where she has her own place and friends, we don't see each other every day but when we do it's sparks and fireworks. That would be ideal for me.

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Me? Or in general?

PERFECT!!!!!

I guess you weren't as intrigued as you made out.

Older financilly secure Gentleman, with a sense of humor and Morals.l