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Topic: What part of.... don’ You understand?
MsLeeHM's photo
Wed 11/14/18 05:25 PM


They think they can change your mind about what you want. I think by the time you're in your 40's or 50's, you know what you like.


Telling me what *you* think I really want..or *should* want is the quickest way to "Bye Felicia"...



That isn't something I would do but oh so appropriate right now.

I try to be polite. Tell them no. I am not interested. In 5 emails he is ready to drop everything, drag his kid out of school, move to another country just to be with me. I am not sure whether to laugh or just shake my head. So the last stand -- I AM NOT INTERESTED and then I blocked him

livingsingle15's photo
Wed 11/14/18 07:11 PM
How old are you?
Where do you live?
Are you married or single?

Aren't those questions everyone has at the top of their profile?

MsLeeHM's photo
Wed 11/14/18 07:45 PM

How old are you?
Where do you live?
Are you married or single?

Aren't those questions everyone has at the top of their profile?


well unless they don't answer them. Mine are all answered. They just choose to ignore it. They all make such good little narcissists. They want what they want and the social norms don't matter or what you say. I don't know. I think this is really clear:

Definitely between the ages of 58 and 78. If you live outside of Canada or are younger than 58 save your time. I will not respond and simply block you.

Maybe they are just busy amusing themselves because they have no way to deal with their own issues so they just try to stir things up a bit. I suspect a good number of the women here get the exact same messages from several men. In fact a different guy today did a copy and paste but he copied part of the message that someone else sent him telling him she wasn't interested.

Did you forget your shirt? You might need to update your photo to match the season unless you travel down to much warmer climates. I suspect Ohio is a little chilly for sunbathing at this time of year

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Sun 11/18/18 05:42 AM
why it is ignored. So ossicle reasons:...
Got any others to add to the list?

- the profile writer typed things like "So ossicle" instead of "Some possible" so what they think their profile says is not what it actually says or is up to interpretation.

- The person that seemingly ignored the specific information doesn't understand english, so skipped the parts that google translate skipped.

- The profile is "too long" as judged by the reader. They might not be able to retain all of the information as they go through it, and through their email decision making process.

- They are using the phone app and part of the profile is cut off so they didn't see the specific information.

Of course it might not be ignored any more than anyone else ignores any other part of the profile.
Then:
- They aren't attractive or the profile writer is looking for any excuse to feel justified in judging and rejecting them. Sometimes because of something like "if that's the type of person that's attracted to me, and the hot ones aren't, what's that saying about me? I must have a disproportionately negative response to put them in their place." IOW "I'm a 4, I think I'm an 8, when a 2 hits on me I have to respond how I think an 8 would respond to a 2 hitting on them. That validates that I'm an 8."

- The profile writer really doesn't want to date, or meet anyone, they just want to feel desirable, wanted, valued. Given attention.
So they put their profile up to troll (in the fishing sense) for responses. But they create a huge amount of limiting conditions and walls and whatever they can to justify rejecting everyone. They want the attention, they just don't want to do anything about it. It gives them a sense of righteousness and control. Then they can complain about it, feel all victimized, and get attention from other people (like forum participants) without really having to do that scary meeting or talking or face to face interacting and can rely on shallow pseudo relationships.


There's a couple that could be added to the list.

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Sun 11/18/18 06:54 AM
What part of Don' ....you understand?

How about the Don' ?
Without the letter "t", seems like you might be talking about Don Quixote...or maybe Don Rickles, Don Knotts?

oops devil made me respond....smokin pitchfork

MsLeeHM's photo
Sun 11/18/18 09:12 AM

What part of Don' ....you understand?

How about the Don' ?
Without the letter "t", seems like you might be talking about Don Quixote...or maybe Don Rickles, Don Knotts?

oops devil made me respond....smokin pitchfork


My phone does some bad edging for me. I missed that one and it was too late to go back in and edit it

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 11/18/18 01:13 PM
One man contacted me recently , and I know he was Real because. Of what he said.

Women don't really realize there are dozens of Real men here.
NOT ON FORUMS


Unfortunately most live Miles away from me. But I am still. Chatting.

:smile:

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Mon 11/19/18 04:52 AM


What part of Don' ....you understand?

How about the Don' ?
Without the letter "t", seems like you might be talking about Don Quixote...or maybe Don Rickles, Don Knotts?

oops devil made me respond....smokin pitchfork


My phone does some bad edging for me. I missed that one and it was too late to go back in and edit it

Understand now.....:banana: slip

Acquired Taste's photo
Sun 04/04/21 03:03 PM
Edited by Acquired Taste on Sun 04/04/21 03:29 PM
could be there are in a hurry and were looking at the pic and really dazzled by it and didn't take time to read you didn't date pirates or aliens....or zombies...etc...or like i just did they read really quickly more concerned about what they wanted to say and not what u wrote and forgot they did read no i don't date (insert your own derogatory remarks here) and actually i did hit on a common communication problem being more concerned about what you want to say that listening or reading what someone else wanted to say or wrote...i would venture 5 bucks that is the number one reason...

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Sun 04/04/21 04:38 PM
It is an international site ., for many English is not their first language ...

For some it is an ego thing .. they believe they will change your mind about your preferences

Perhaps they enjoy the thrill of rejection


It certainly is not worthy of frustration. Set your filters high to limit who can contact you .. especially age filters .. that should cut down your messages . Best of luck waving

Mike6615's photo
Sun 04/04/21 05:00 PM
Lots of desperate men here...

Up2youandme's photo
Tue 04/06/21 10:36 AM

As we're all neighbors, in the forums...
Some may occasionally contact others,
in regard to forums posts.
Be it, a pat on the back, or a proverbial whack
to the noggin.

It's generally done, without regard, to profile content.
It's called, "communicating", "networking", "being a neighbor".


If, on the offhand, the email is of a romantic nature,
and not from a bot, i politely decline, and wish the sender
luck in their search. If it is a bot, or an obvious scammer,
I simply block.


There is absolutely nothing on the internet, worth allowing
yourself to become upset about.




Certainly the last statement makes the most sense. Geez people can't we behave like adults in here.

Kenzie's photo
Mon 05/03/21 08:31 AM
I've blocked so many people today because they don't read and understand I'm only interested in people I can feasibility meet. IE in the same country as me.

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