If the dumb azzes hadn't made such a poor choice in choosing a spouse then 99% of the time they wouldn't be in their pathetic situation. Tough $h!t.

I totally disagree with you!! Spent nearly 10 years in one before the divorce. Should have gotten divorced after the first year and counseling didn't do any good!! Some things just can't be fixed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're right!! Should have never gotten married!! Would now have more money, better health, more fun and more sex over the years. There are exceptions and some make good spouses but they are in a minority.

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This is crap too. Sorry you've made bad choices and have a negative attitude about marriage and women, but that's your look out. Don't even bother replying. I know what you'll say and it's blah blah blah. Why the hell do you bother?

Well..hmmmm.. I don't think stepping out on a sexless marriage... is all that cut and dry.... you can be loya emotionally to someone you can love somebody you can care deeply for them.. without the physical if it just does not work...for example.)..
You have had children early on together but now have lost interest in each other physically...now!.. you love each other immensely you would do anything for each other...but sex is just not an option...or it's not very fulfilling...... now you have to Bare in mind the physical part of a relationship is just one part of a relationship... if it is broke and cannot be fixed should you throw out the whole relationship because of it?. Leave your children your home.?..your life.. or do you find some safe discreet way.. to fulfill that part of you that needs forfeeling.. and return to the relationship better off for it...
And yes.. having sex outside your marriage.
Should be something.. that the married couple talk to each other about.. needs to be out in the open. . if not!! then you're cheating

That's the thing...it's usually the guy whining about how "she doesn't understaaaand meee", or they've grown apart, or she has "mental issues" and now hates sex (gee, wonder what caused that *last* one..surely has nothing to do with him, right?)..

But, when you say "OK, sure...if she's OK with this, do you mind if I chat with her a bit first..?"....then they turn tail and run....
Because he's doing shady sh**...

Then there's this..
*IF* he can truly separate love from sex...and can get his rocks off without geting emotionally involved with some other women, that's one thing...
But if he starts to share little confidences with her..talks about the wife and tells/ blabs her secrets/ flaws...he's also committing emotional infidelity...and in some case that's WAY worse...

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Well.. I can only imagine there would be some exchange of information between the parties having sex together it just natural... you would need to have a reason why you're doing what you're doing..right?..
Unless the person just goes and gets a hooker

And what's wrong with that?
Sex workers exist for that purpose..

If he loves his wife, but just needs to get laid (i.e; "sexless marriage")..what's wrong with hiring a sex worker?

Otherwise, it seems to border on a type of relationship with the other woman..

"Sexless" doesn't mean they aren't close emptionally, sharing little bits of affections, and so forth..

*Some* marriages are sexless.
But, that still doesn't change the fact,
that *cheaters* still use *sexless marriage*
as a crock of chit line.

Thank you....I always have you to come here and straighten **** out I mean the question and answer was pretty easy I don’t see any room for another interpretation

And where can you do that in the US other than a couple counties in Nevada? Anyplace else and you will probably get arrested!! That isn't in my bucket list!!

There are multiple reasons for sexless marriages and a number of solutions. Until both in the relationship are willing to find and accept a solution, one person in the relationship is going to be unhappy until something in the relationship changes or the relationship ends.

Everyone has different values and expectations when it comes to marriage vows ... if you believe in the religious or moral institution of marriage then likely you will be biased when it comes to not only yourself but how others in a marriage should behave .. realistically you can only impose your beliefs on yourself and your relationship . Most Dating sites are impartial .. and do not exclude those already married (whether sexless or not) , or those in a relationship . Modern relationships are becoming more complex . Marriage is no longer seen by many as a life long monogamous commitment ., rather a time limited contract which can be broken and dishonoured .

I'm right here right now

Bars rarely work late or early

Dude, I went through that for almost the last 10 years of a 22 year marriage. In my case, she had an episode of mental illness brought on by the stress/fear of 3 people murdered in our neighborhood (one behind my house) in 6 months time. It was weird. She see any speck of dust or dandruff or lint as a little animal that wanted to bite her.

I would never leave her for that, she couldn't help it. I loved her enough to stick through it. But during that time she also developed a germ-phobia and I couldn't touch her without being sanitized, which killed all spontaneity.

So I bought a new house and moved, which seemed to fix that.

Then she started pre-menopause, menopause, then post menopause and peri-menopause (whatever the hell that is?) and suddenly she started complaining that I hurt her...and I'm not "that" big? She simply stopped enjoying sex and avoided me. I travel constantly in my job and only got home 4 or 5 days per month quite often so it was easy for her to find other things to do when I was home (vet, shopping, visit her sister, etc). And it was hell to feel like I was forcing myself on her.

After a while I really believed she was trying to force me to commit adultery so she would have moral grounds to divorce me. (she's very religious). So my choice was the stigma of a divorce.....or adultery. We've been divorced almost 2 years now. I still love her but just could not go through that anymore. I've had a lot of anger about it, feel betrayed after all those years of being faithful and good to her. Having trouble trusting women now, and swore off "old ladies" because of her. Just starting to get over all that.

But now I've got a connundrum. I have old fashioned values...but not living like it. I want to know that my next partner LOVES sex all the time before I get married again. Raised 2 families already so it's all about the bedroom now. I can get companionship and friendship elsewhere if I have to.

I don't really like that...but it is what it is until some girl convinces me otherwise. There went all my chances of finding a date here, eh??

Let's hook up!!!!

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T.Roy - oh how I recognize so much of that story!! It seems like women go through menopause and some come out with a great desire for sex while others come out just the opposite. Mental health issues really cause even more of those problems.

Not my business what they do