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Topic: What's more important, love or...
SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 02/23/19 02:29 AM
Is finding love really a nr 1 priority for you?
Or are you in a stage in life where you are more career focused, building that up, possibly getting a house. Maybe love isn't on the menu at all, or not a priority, just a nice extra?

If nothing really is a priority as you got it all sussed, except for having that partner, are you really going for finding love? Or not doing much other than waiting for it to happen?

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 02/23/19 02:33 AM
For me, finding love is not the nr 1 priority. There's other things I want to manifest, dreams & goals. I am looking for a partner, but it's not priority.
I do make sure I can be found and that I'm doing something towards it, like investing a bit of time in being on dating sites. But not putting my all in it as it isn't priority.
It was quite a relief when I realized this!

Dodo_David's photo
Sat 02/23/19 06:15 AM
Topic: What's more important, love or...


. . . bacon!

no photo
Sat 02/23/19 06:51 AM
Love is but a fleeting emotion, it waxes and wains with the wind. Honesty, understanding, stability, and commitment to work through the bad times are much more important.

JustBeHonest's photo
Sat 02/23/19 08:36 AM
Well since I’m older, I’ve done all that stuff, career, kids etc.

Now I’ve decided that it’s time to enjoy myself as much as I can considering I’m caring for an adult grandchild.

So my priority is to have fun and it’s better shared. So I did put effort into finding someone and I am surprised But he found me and it’s awesome.

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 02/23/19 09:20 AM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 02/23/19 09:24 AM
Finding love is not at the top of my priorities. If it comes along that's fine.
I'm not really looking, I have had three marriage proposals in person.
Unfortunately, they weren't the right men for Me.

I have had a good career. Now enjoying Life doing whatever things I enjoy.


Totage's photo
Sat 02/23/19 09:40 AM

Is finding love really a nr 1 priority for you?
Or are you in a stage in life where you are more career focused, building that up, possibly getting a house. Maybe love isn't on the menu at all, or not a priority, just a nice extra?

If nothing really is a priority as you got it all sussed, except for having that partner, are you really going for finding love? Or not doing much other than waiting for it to happen?


I'm just looking for someone that can watch the kids while I'm at work. Maybe help out a little so I can get a nap in after work.

Isaac's photo
Sat 02/23/19 09:46 AM
I always seem to find things I'm not looking for. Right now, I'm not looking for love, just friendship, but if that changes... welp...

luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:22 AM
Or are you in a stage in life where you are more career focused, building that up, possibly getting a house


Ok so when I first read that, I thought it said possibly getting a horse!surprised oops laugh

Lets just say, im more inclined to buy a pony, then get married at this point in my life. winking

Doesnt every girl want a pony? :heart: love

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:25 AM
I first understood "love" to refer to the magic force in the universe that caused all those Disney style princesses to be so attractive to the various princes who carried them off. And to whatever it was that made all the people in the stories and films I saw on TV to end up fabulously happy no matter what happened to them.

As I entered what I now call my Twenteens (the period from about 14 to about 25), the idea or definition of love took on a lot more complexity, as everyone around me started talking about how they LOVED this person, but that they were IN LOVE with that one, and how that made all the difference (especially in who they would sleep with).

I noticed towards the latter end of that life stage, that peoples' opinions of the SIGNIFICANCE of "love," started to shift. They were beginning to see from direct experience, that unlike all the stories we were slathered in until then, by hollywood especially, that "love" by itself didn't do very much at all, to see to it that life worked out for anyone.

Most people still seemed to be looking for love, but things had shifted noticeably from defining "love" by the warm, gushy sensations that people felt for someone, to being more about what they could expect from each other, what they were willing to do to make each other happy, and the like.

By my age, the definition of "love" that most people seem to go by, is a lot more complex. Often, to the point where so much of their own lives and their sense of the world and of existence itself, is built into it, that they don't really even call it "love" any more.

But I think the essence of what we always INTENDED love to be about, is still very much at the heart of it all. And what I've seen happen in my life and others, isn't so much that "love" stopped being important to them, as that we very logically recognized how complicated it was to find our more complex understanding of it.

I don't know anyone in my age range who is still looking for their Twenteen understanding of love, with all the attendant risk of saddling themselves with someone who "turns them on," but who also often damages the entire rest of their lives. Except maybe as a short term fling, anyway.

I for one, would still LIKE to find that love. I know that it's unlikely at this stage, owing to how complicated it really always was, but I am very much, still looking for it.

I'm just not willing to take a chance on anything LESS than real love now, as I was when I was so young and ignorant of it's real implications.

luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:29 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Sat 02/23/19 10:29 AM

I first understood "love" to refer to the magic force in the universe that caused all those Disney style princesses to be so attractive to the various princes who carried them off. And to whatever it was that made all the people in the stories and films I saw on TV to end up fabulously happy no matter what happened to them.

As I entered what I now call my Twenteens (the period from about 14 to about 25), the idea or definition of love took on a lot more complexity, as everyone around me started talking about how they LOVED this person, but that they were IN LOVE with that one, and how that made all the difference (especially in who they would sleep with).

I noticed towards the latter end of that life stage, that peoples' opinions of the SIGNIFICANCE of "love," started to shift. They were beginning to see from direct experience, that unlike all the stories we were slathered in until then, by hollywood especially, that "love" by itself didn't do very much at all, to see to it that life worked out for anyone.

Most people still seemed to be looking for love, but things had shifted noticeably from defining "love" by the warm, gushy sensations that people felt for someone, to being more about what they could expect from each other, what they were willing to do to make each other happy, and the like.

By my age, the definition of "love" that most people seem to go by, is a lot more complex. Often, to the point where so much of their own lives and their sense of the world and of existence itself, is built into it, that they don't really even call it "love" any more.

But I think the essence of what we always INTENDED love to be about, is still very much at the heart of it all. And what I've seen happen in my life and others, isn't so much that "love" stopped being important to them, as that we very logically recognized how complicated it was to find our more complex understanding of it.

I don't know anyone in my age range who is still looking for their Twenteen understanding of love, with all the attendant risk of saddling themselves with someone who "turns them on," but who also often damages the entire rest of their lives. Except maybe as a short term fling, anyway.

I for one, would still LIKE to find that love. I know that it's unlikely at this stage, owing to how complicated it really always was, but I am very much, still looking for it.

I'm just not willing to take a chance on anything LESS than real love now, as I was when I was so young and ignorant of it's real implications.

hardBNhard's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:35 AM
Just wanna girl who will hold my head from falling in the toilet after tequila night ! And give me the score to the hockey games i missed bigsmile

luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:45 AM
Edited by luv2roknroll on Sat 02/23/19 10:46 AM

Just wanna girl who will hold my head from falling in the toilet after tequila night ! And give me the score to the hockey games i missed bigsmile
HOLY CRRRRRZZZAPPP!

YOUR MY DREAM GUY!surprised laugh

hardBNhard's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:48 AM
Can i get you some tequila babydoll ? drool bigsmile drinks

luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:50 AM

Can i get you some tequila babydoll ? drool bigsmile drinks
BE RIGHT THERE...

my heads in the toilet right now.sick laugh

YASSSSSSS...I WILL TAKE A DOUBLE!drinks

hardBNhard's photo
Sat 02/23/19 10:53 AM
Ill hold your hair back so it doesnt go in the toilet smokin
Heres your shot(of tequila) ...salt is on my neck and lemon slice is in my mouthtongue2

luv2roknroll's photo
Sat 02/23/19 11:07 AM

Ill hold your hair back so it doesnt go in the toilet smokin
Heres your shot(of tequila) ...salt is on my neck and lemon slice is in my mouthtongue2
surprised

Alrightyyyyyyyy thennnnnnnn!smokin

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 02/23/19 12:28 PM

Or are you in a stage in life where you are more career focused, building that up, possibly getting a house


Ok so when I first read that, I thought it said possibly getting a horse!surprised oops laugh

Lets just say, im more inclined to buy a pony, then get married at this point in my life. winking

Doesnt every girl want a pony? :heart: love

I didn't, and still don't.
I once sat on a pony, I'd rarely been so uncomfortable. WAY too close to the ground, haha. I got off, and got my bum on a proper horse. Much better!

no photo
Sat 02/23/19 12:36 PM
Pizza is the answer. What's the question?

Poetrywriter's photo
Sat 02/23/19 12:39 PM
Edited by Poetrywriter on Sat 02/23/19 12:41 PM

Or are you in a stage in life where you are more career focused, building that up, possibly getting a house


Ok so when I first read that, I thought it said possibly getting a horse!surprised oops laugh

Lets just say, im more inclined to buy a pony, then get married at this point in my life. winking

Doesnt every girl want a pony? :heart: love


Here ya go luv2..........


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