It really makes having a relationship real hard

Whatever you do, don't leave the baby alone with her.

See a mental health specialist, the both of. You.

Mine had this and after a 43 marriage and knowing her for 7 here before that, we separated ,I am now here looking for a light friendship, for anything more I would have to dig deep into my hart to even try

Silly, that is how you will know it is time.
You will WANT to make something happen ;-)

Patience mon ;-)

Is she diagnosed with that or is it your own conclusion because you don't know how to deal with a woman?
If it's a real photo and she's had a baby, maybe it's just hormones rebalancing after pregnancy. Support and understanding is what a woman needs, especially in such cases, not her man posting and complaining about her on an international forum.
What are you doing on a dating site anyway if you have a partner and a new baby? Do you think THAT is normal?

It depends on the actual mental illness. Some are much easier to deal with than others.

One of my ex-gf had a personality disorder, but she was a great partner.

Another ex-gf had a minor TBI, but she was also great.

I've known women with Bi-Polar, and their boyfriends....and those were rocky relationships, but they stuck together anyway. At least one of those couples has now been together for almost 20 years.

I'm new here and went through a breakup recently. I hate to sound like a man basher but it really irks me now when men say women are unstable mentally or call them crazy. Its really derogatory. I would hold things in and then end up crying over a small-ish issue when really it was a pile up of frustrations. He had anger and controlling issues but never wanted to admit it. I got so depressed from his labeling and judgements alone. Then I was labeled depressed! I wish men could be man enough to not blame women for everything and label them.

I spent nearly 30 years with a mentally unbalanced woman. Many trips to counseling both as a couple and her alone. Many different meds. I'm now single yet have to help her manage some of her things. Among other things her depression causes her to drink too much and she is a shopaholic. Add to that, her many pets. Spend a couple years trying to find her help to get better and if that doesn't make a huge difference, move on with your life before she destroys you!!! Bottom line: YOU CAN'T FIX HER YOURSELF and she may not be fixable!!

THIS ^

Generally when guys complan about "mental" women, it's because she dares to disgree with him, or expresses an opinion he doesn't like, or isn't happy with the way he treats her...
many women learn to be non-confrontational, because they fear for their personal safty...they don't want to get hot/ beat...

Yep, very good observation!
I've been through similar stuff with my ex, who turned out to be a narcissist. So he was the one with the problem. Apparently they tend to tell their partner is nuts. I guess one of their strategies to break her.
Contradictory things like you say, "You aren't crying, so it isn't real." In other words, I was faking my feelings. When I did cry he knocked me for that.

Not all men are narcissists of course, although the number of 'em is scary, but many men aren't empowered and then react from their imbalanced inner feminine (called the Anima) and knock and blame women.
An empowered man takes responsibility for his own chit.

yea
ask your self.easy to label mental issues as a way of not dealing with it.

It's tough on women after a baby. her whole life has changed. A woman or man needs time to come to terms with it.
you're a daddy now mate, you've just moved down one in the things that are most important in her life. You will just have to come to terms with that.
Cut her some slack, bring her some flowers out of the blue, cook, wash up.shop.
And at the same time, smile and laugh.
do it.
motherhood straightens out many mental problems.
be easy on her,

Depression in women: Understanding the gender gap

About twice as many women as men experience depression. Several factors may increase a woman's risk of depression.


https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/in-depth/depression/art-20047725

Conclusion: a significant portion of women suffer from mental health issues