His volcano will soon be spewing something, for sure!

Dude women have always had control in relationships. They just always Jedi Mind trick us dudes into thinking we have it.

In my relationship, neither of us are "In Charge" of anything but ourselves.
It works because we are in "alignment" with each other.
I don't own her and she doesn't own me.

Different strokes:

Stumbled on a profile in Mingle where a woman was seeking a man to fit "nontraditional roles." She said she had a domineering character.

Also, there's a book, Subversive Thoughts...(Can't recall full title now), written by a woman who thinks a man and wife should lead independent lives under the same roof.

I lent the book to a female friend whose fiance soon began accusing her of becoming rebellious.

I understand this and could be comfortable with this idea.

All very well.but what happens when there is a spider in the Kitchen??

in charge of what.. financially?

I kill the spiders. I can't count on someone else to do it.

Trust and commitment matters alot

I don't want to be in charge, personally, except of my own choices.

I prefer a spouse who, as the bible says, loves me as he loves his own body and as Christ loved the church. That husband will make decisions that are not about controlling me, but benefitting US, being a provider, protector, and companion.

Brother if you like her to be in charge say that to her at the beginning of relationship and enjoy the ride