Oh, I don't give a toss about fashion and changing hair-styles either.
Last few years the fashion over here suxed big time. I'm not going to buy any of the stuff. Same with a specific colour blue and yellow ocre. Neither look good on me and thus I don't feel good in it, meaning I don't buy it whether it's fashion or not.
I usually manage to find some nice thingies from a post order shop.
I got my own taste and my own style and I only buy if I find something that matches that.
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If I changed my hairstyle, I would definitely want someone to notice it. If nobody noticed it, there goes my $100. If my kids said, mom what did you do with your hair? well, not exactly the response I was expecting but at least it was noticed. And if someone says "Nice hair!" then it will be all worth it.

so for me, if I changed something about myself to look better (IMO), I would like my friends and family to notice it.

That's funny what Crystal said about not following fashion. I don't follow what's in fashion for clothes and hair style. I do what I like.

I like the way you said that rosie, it puts a different perspective on the OP. In that sense, I agree, it's nice to get noticed from our friends and family when we do change something about ourselves.

Reading about what rosie wrote about a new hairstyle. A woman in town, who I hadn't seen in a while, said to me, "oh, you're letting your hair go gray. Looks good!" Not really what I was wanting to hear. I know I have hair.

I have gray hair. I don't need it pointed out. She is a nice woman, so laugh about it.

I couldn't help laughing Cat, but you're right, it's not something we want to hear. I'm sure she meant it as a compliment though.

Interesting responses.

Can't tell you how many times women have told me that I should dress up, or change myself in some way, shape, or form. Ask them to? Prepare to duck. If you don't want change, it's fine by me. But I also won't do anything on my behalf, to initiate interest in you. I'll be cordial, that's all.

Well we can't see you here so you're safe... we won't ask you to change a thing

Just kidding... those are the women you don't need around you. If they can't accept you for who you are, then you're better off without them. :)

I think it is common for both sexes to want to present themselves to be their most attractive self .. especially when they have chemistry with someone . This need not be a change and can be as simple as a spray of cologne or perfume . Something that enhances the senses . Attraction makes us look at ourselves and gravitate towards what makes us feel desirable . Sure there are some who claim not to give a toss but on the whole I feel many want to be considered desirable by someone they like.

As for me .. I do consider him and his tastes in how I dress and present myself but mostly it is my tastes that I put first .

thanks River

There are instances that we make changes in our lives for the better, like losing weight, that we would want at least our friends and family to notice it, wouldn't we? And we certainly would feel good about them noticing it, wouldn't we? And we would certainly want to buy new bikini to show off our new perfect body, wouldn't we?

My mistake I thought this was a forum.

Yes... we would Thanks rosie... good points indeed!

so what did you say, cat?

I don't really enjoy when someone points out my gray hair. I guess I have to color my hair more often, until I just give up.

The OP would've graduated high school in about 1961. The world was much different back then.

Whether you realize it or not we do change. Look through the past 50 to 100 yrs. Fashion changes our look anyways. It maybe small changes you dont notice. But its still there. Unless you make your own clothing then you can wear what you want. I wear what i like to. Im a very simple woman

I agree 110%....(and apparently Riverspirit doesas well)

I wouldn;t presume to tell a random stranger they should "fix themselves up"...I either find them interesting, or I don't.
*I* myself can see through/ overlook someone sloppily dressed, and if I think they might be interesting..I'll talk to them anyway.

But we know there are *certain* people here in the forums that say that women should fix themselves up *just* to run errands and grocery shop, because you never know when you might run across some man who, if you *weren't* dressed like a slob (or just like anyone else who didn't bother to "fix up" before running to the store for something they neded for dinner or whatever)..he might find you interesting and come up and taLk to you..


Honey, i fix myself up when I go places where I think I should/ am expected to...cultural things, events, get-togethers, etc...

I'll be dam**d if I'm going to change my clothes and fix my face just because YOU think I should or some random man might prefer me that way...
Sorry.
My personality, intellect, and downright decency and good things about myself are there whether I am "prettied up", or look like I just rolled out of bed..
I am worth knowing either way, and..if I have to be "fixed up" for you to even want to talk to me..you can keep moving..wouldn't be interested in you anyway...

P.S I met my late husband at the laundromat, when I hadn't slept well the night before (got some bad news, and actually called in work to have a "mental health day LOL), looked wretched, and was dressed like a slob.
I was leaned back in my seat in the car (waiting for my clothes to dry) listening to "Bluegrass Breakdown" on the radio when I hear a voice at my window..."whatcha listening to?"
We were s]till talking 2 hours later...and had 12 good years together.

a gentleman won't cat. just like the age discussion.
unless of course you are already close and comfortable.
then there might be some teasing

Yeah, eric, I'm good with someone I've known a long time and want to tease me.