Does anybody get past a meetup and get to know someone through dating before sex?

Why?

That's what "social media" and texting and online interaction is for.
Anyone can "get to know" millions of people and millions of personalities at any time.
Debates, opinions, comment sections, forums.

People are slinging their personality all over the internet on a constant basis. It's all in the news and politics and cults of personality and entertainment.

...Why get to know "you?" (general you, not "you" specifically).

Are you (general you, not you specifically) "better" than the millions of others they "get to know" through youtube, facebook, online forums, dating site profiles, etc.

Wasn't that the whole point of the internet, and internet freedom? To bring people and cultures "closer" together conveniently?

Now everyone is "closer together" and surrounded by millions of personalities on a daily and consistent basis.

Why is your (general, not personal) personality, life experience, situation, different or better than anyone else's?


Not to mention...what do you usually get on the first few dates?
What do most people advise for job interviews and going out on dates?
"Put your best foot forward!"
So more having to wade through the BS before getting to the "real" personality.

What's the point? Why bother?
Why build a bookshelf if you'd rather be fishing, and you can get one at Wal-Mart that fulfills the same function? Why bemoan its disposability when you can easily afford to just get a new one?

When people say "get to know me!" do they really think there's anything all that special to "know" especially compared with the personalities available via t.v. and the internet, and having constant exposure to individuals and new and different and deep personalities all over the place?

Or is what they're "really" saying/asking by "get to know me!" is "value me! Find me and my personality more important than the billions of others! I'm not all that special but I want to feel like I am! I need my ego stroked! I need a higher level of emotional gratification! I need to be the star of my show, no more just a background character! I need you to be my emotional gratification system for my self importance!"

IMO it is.

Personally, I see people that say "get to know me!" as no different than people that are just looking for a one night stand.
IMO they're both ultimately looking to use others for selfish ends.

So:

Sure. But there's little point to it anymore since most people are trained via constant consumption of different and varied personalities via technology to be able to "get to know" someone and cut through the BS pretty quickly.

Might as well ask "Does anybody do their own car repairs and maintenance and engine rebuilds and modifications on their cars anymore before driving?"
Sure. But the population is dwindling. Most people are seeing and using driving as a tool to get where they want to go.

oh wow! Beleaf, I hope ^^^ has answered your question and more.

if you are talking about dating sites ... . Those who I know who met either had no chemistry or no interest in meeting again . There was no sex and no second date . I am sure there are lots of exceptions .. very much depends on expectations and attraction .

Personally, if I don’t feel an attraction and want to have sex
with you (eventually), then we aren’t going to be dating, long.
But, I get where you’re coming from, some interest in things
together outside of sex are necessary too. I think. :)

Just my two cents......
Having sex is just that, making love is a process. A process that involves time, energy and commitment. Getting to know the person from the inside out. Failing in love with the whole complete person. Yes, there is always 'skin hunger' but that is pretty empty. There was a saying 'men give love in order to get sex, woman give sex in order to get love'. Unfortunately time hasn't changed much. Just a matter of how much you value yourself, and what you want out of a relationship. Good Luck.

I don't trust dating sites, i prefer meeting people irl.

Sure if you wanna get scammed, or talk to people who won't "truly meet up with ya" i guess you could try all the sites out there.

Also most dating sites now a days cost 20 - 60 dollars a month for membership.

Not the best way to meet people... You spend money, have 1 or 2 emails, and the person disappears.

I've learned the hard way, and i don't really think i'll ever find true love, I have issues, and a mental problem irl, and well girls now a days they want men who are Rude, Punks, or Rich or something.

I mean i hate to say it but i really don't think anyone really has enough common sense to even wanna care about another person...

I could be wrong but.. I've been single my entire life, and no matter how good, friendly, positive, or whatever it is i do, Girls just don't wanna know me. Their loss, but I dunno dating now a days is just a waste of money. But if you truly believe it's still a good thing, good luck to you all.

As was asked before... Why?

We didnt get the answer for the "why" question.
In case you didnt see it
WHY,WHY, WHY?

WHY?!?

By the way I heard sometime ago, there is a WHY? movement some place

Can we

Yea... if it's stupid and restricts the rights of individuals you can be sure it'll turn into a "movement".
I'd prefer a "HOW" movement. At least we'd find out how the powers that be have conned so many billions of people into believing that governments were the keepers of Democracy.

Is it safe to come here unknown?

If you're looking for safety, barricade yourself in your home and never come out in public either irl or online

A thread I post into always has the potential of turning explosive

First challenge- does anyone get past-

"Does anybody get past a meetup and get to know someone through dating?"

I haven't. I'm sure others never get past that obstacle. It's pretty insurmountable, as I see it. That's one of the few "Can't" I'll admit to. Most know me as a person who will tackle challenges pretty well. Makes my work look like a breeze.

Dating. No way. Far too much frustration goes with it. So I just don't bother anymore.

Does anybody get past a meetup and get to know someone through dating before sex?

Member for four years and this is only post. I'm guessing this is another "men only want sex" rant.

Hi All, I kinda prefer real dating. I'm new here by the way... This is my first comment on this platform.

Hi All, I kinda prefer real dating. I'm new here by the way... This is my first comment on this platform.