Hi everybody. Very Few people I know love living a miserable life. They are happy about it.Even if you tell them that,they plainly deny it. Of the very few of them, they just make your life miserable and feel happy about it. I dont know why it makes them happy. May be it is just that they give extreme priority to their happiness. May be not. What do you think about this? Any view is welcome

It depends if they were happy before being miserable or miserable before being happy , making you miserable because they are miserable, maybe if you pretended that you are not miserable because they are miserable ,they may pretending be happy or miserable

Lots of miserable

I think people that are miserable and making others miserable around them have a narcissistic warped sense of being. They thrive on chaos. I had an ex like that. Harassed me for years after our divorce; the sad thing is, he put our son in the middle of it all.

I think there is a play about that. I don't really know much about it, just the title.

Alot of people are miserable today. I think our environment plays a big part of this. I tend to stay away from people who are and live my life happy.
Stress is more harmful to our lives than any other health or environmental issues. Just my opinion.
Environment means political and employment etc

Yup. Thats the word-narcissistic. Is their a difference with miserable?
In other note, I am deeply sorry for your son. Know how it feels

There is always good and bad days. And if you are always miserable, you make people happy, who wish misery on you.

Meh...
It's an entire demographic to be made fun of.

I know people who are miserable most of the time. It's almost as if they don't know how to enjoy life. Misery loves company so they try to make others miserable too.

I have come to realize that I need to enjoy my life so I don't need miserable people around me.

My health makes me miserable.
I'm in constant pain now and my meds make me feel sick causing me to have no appetite.
I feel miserable but I don't display my misery to others.
I am cheerful, quirky and weird.
I like making people laugh when they are down.
I tend to not complain to others about how I feel.
I can laugh at my own misery.

There are people that try to make others miserable.
I believe they are miserable and need to make others miserable so they can feel better about their misery.

There are people that see someone miserable and start to feel miserable themselves. Like empathy on steroids.

There are people that see someone miserable and are entertained by their display of misery.

Most of the time, misery is caused by expectations not being true to their expectation.
I'm supposed to be rich, I'm not...makes me miserable.
I'm supposed to be loved, I'm not...makes me miserable.
I'm supposed to be healthy, I'm not...makes me miserable.
And so on...

im one of that i felt miserable empty inside for the past two years because i do love in 1 person with all my heart.️

You just said love makes you miserable?
Might wanna have that checked?

Come again??????

That situations and people are generally more complex than can be simply labeled as "miserable people," at least in describing them to others (e.g. internet strangers).


So maybe they aren't miserable people?
Which is more important. You being able to label them as "miserable people living a miserable life" or how they feel about their own life and selves?

How exactly are you identifying "living a miserable life?"
Or what exactly makes someone a "miserable person?"

Other than that people can use being "miserable" for all sorts of things.
Emotions/feelings exist to motivate action/behavior towards establishing homeostasis.
If you wallow or use one particular emotion/feeling more than others as your main motivation, that can become your new baseline from which you seek or measure accomplishment.


Yes. They're two separate words and concepts entirely.

If anyone has had the pleasure to live around a narcissist, they are far from miserable ( on the outside at least). They get pure joy from causing others misery.

There are a multitude of ways to be miserable in life. Health, mental issues, family woes, money. We all have potential to wallow in it, but most try to rise above.

I do think some people enjoy feeling repressed by life, like they enjoy being pitied or feeling like a victim.

Life is too short for that.

yes love makes me miserable that time because he broke my heart into pieces. my life my world belongs to him but his worls not belongs to me and it was so hurt i felt dumb.. but after years i realized that love is all i need.... and it begins to my self.
i think that the most painful things inlife is losing the one you value. the truth is the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of valuing someone too much and forgetting that you are special too...️

So, basically, love didn't make you miserable?
It was your own expectations of love which made you miserable, right?
So, if you are/were miserable, it wasn't love it was you making yourself miserable?
Erm, is that right?
Help me understand...

Ya. You are right. Two contradictory things I read. So help us understand, dear Rin