Topic: How real are you and I?
Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 09:47 PM

Mostly. For my own safety I hide my nonbinary identity from parents, who call it 'in style'


I am guessing you are male/female? That must be very hard for you in a Muslim family.
I am pleased you can be yourself on the net.
Blessings :smiley::rose::sunflower:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 09:53 PM


Mostly. For my own safety I hide my nonbinary identity from parents, who call it 'in style'


I am real. However, I am not stagnant. I adapt. In this forum, the threats from the unstable amongst us are not so pressing or immediate, so I am less reluctant to give a less popular opinion for fear of social or physical retaliation.

In person, I do not rock the boat, aggravate anyone, because you just never know and there seems to be alot more of the emotionally unstable sorts of folks these days. I kind of just remain agreeable or silent as my default positions.



Oh wow, I never get the nutters messaging me very much. I am sorry you have to deal with that.

I think Mingle2 is a platform to express yourself and never mind the unstable, blocking is great, unless you mean on the forums?
I find it difficult to believe that you are a quiet human being.
You have very strong opinions on Mingle2 :sunflower::rose::smiley:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:11 PM

100% truth ,no fillers.

As Riverspirit points out nuance is missing when writing for strangers around the world on the internet.Polite and non confrontational in the forums.We all want to fit in.So I guess I do pull my punches.

An email would get slightly more specific and perhaps personally revealing. I don't text.Still formal though.

Back to polite and avoiding conflict in a face to face w/ a stranger in day to day small talk stuff...retail clerk, mailman, neighbor etc.

Person to person at the kitchen table I'd feel more comfortable exposing more truthful personal info and the language may or may not include profanity and sarcasm. Eye contact and tone of voice very helpful.But still no BS.

Embellishing or trying to deceive is WAY bad karma.We all hate to be lied to.
Nearly every woman's(completed) profile here states that.

Summary:
I won't insult your intelligence by lying.

& lying to me tells me you think I'm stoopid. A deal breaker.

"Just gimme some truth".






I wish we still had the add friends things going on here. You and I are friends, you have zero say in the matter :smiley:
Me, I am confrontational, but I choose my battles, in a gentle but firm way. I can not be the person who watches injustice, ever.
Lying is ridiculous
Like River said, it is easier to be yourself.
:smiley::rose:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:35 PM

In real life I am part of an inter-dependent society. I act like my place in society and I keep personal stuff to myself, unless explanation is needed in order to function. Here online I am more open about myself.


Who would of thought?

I want to know more. Personal message coming soon. :rose::smiley:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:38 PM

For the most part yes. Although in here i have to keep it with in the PG-13 rating. grumble And i do call people retards a lot less in the forums. drinks


Um, I know. I post in several groups, where the humor is wickedly evil.
Thanks for posting, you don't post all that much here :smiley:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:40 PM

As I've gotten older I learned to speak my mind. When I was a teen or my 20's, I was too timid. I will tell it how I think and feel on here and in my everyday life.


Love it Cat. Keep the faith gf:heart::rose:

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:42 PM

I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:

notbeold's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:42 PM
I'm not real. I'm a caricature of a cartoon world person.
It's not real, it's only entertainment and games.

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:45 PM

I am more cheerful in real life. I very seldom swear .. when I slip on icy street, or hit my finger with a hammer, I say "Chit"!!! with an S, of course.

I don't really push people off the cliff.. people who annoy me I avoid like the plague.

I am not sarcastic in person.. I am not that smart lol.

ok, that's all I can think of right now.

Happy New Year, Ladywind flowerforyou drinker








Oh, ha ha, your cheerfulness is very apparent and very addictive online. After reading your posts, I feel light in spirit.
I think you represent yourself amazingly.
Happy New Year to you too :heart::rose::smiley:

Rock's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:53 PM


I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh


Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 10:54 PM

What you say in a forum, like Mingle2, is it what you would say to people in day to day, face to face living?

Yes and no.
Online forum is not offline day to day, face to face living.
The situation/conditions dictate a lot.

Do you feel you represent yourself accurately, as much as can be, when on the internet?

I didn't think that was necessary or even desired.
I would think that would only really matter if "on the internet" is pretty much your entire reason for existing and/or your only means of social interaction/support.

Other than that, IMO, the internet only facilitates your ability/desire to develop a shallow avatar to avoid having a deeper personality.

Would you say what you say on the forums, in real life?

Yes and no.
If someone came to my house and posted "why don't older women like younger men? Isn't age just a number?" on my door, I would take it down and while eating my morning cereal sit there and come up with something to say off the top of my head, write it down, then throw the post away, and think about or do something else until I was done with my cereal.

Otherwise, it would be a conversation, and those have a tendency to be far more interactive and fluid.


So why are you here and why do you post if you think this is the only interaction some people have?
Most of us have real lives. But mental stimulation comes from hanging out with like minded people on the net.
Or does that judgement of yours only apply to others, not yourself?
Post a pic, btw and be real.

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:01 PM



I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh




Lol, where do you guys go? You know about my last disastrous escapade laugh

Rock's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:13 PM




I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh




Lol, where do you guys go? You know about my last disastrous escapade laugh



Regional road trips.
They love riding in the car.

Darshan 's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:15 PM
True. But one needs to safeguard his or her identity and interests

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:23 PM

True. But one needs to safeguard his or her identity and interests


You can do that and chat :smiley::rose:Giving too much personal information about your profession or anything that gives a stalker too much information is mandatory to surfing the net.

Ladywind7's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:26 PM





I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh




Can I come? I love road trips. Be warned, I have my feet on the dash, my hand out the window and the music needs to be good. Oh, and we stop at every antique shop. :smiley:

Lol, where do you guys go? You know about my last disastrous escapade laugh



Regional road trips.
They love riding in the car.

Rock's photo
Sat 12/28/19 11:42 PM






I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh




Can I come? I love road trips. Be warned, I have my feet on the dash, my hand out the window and the music needs to be good. Oh, and we stop at every antique shop. :smiley:

Lol, where do you guys go? You know about my last disastrous escapade laugh



Regional road trips.
They love riding in the car.




Radio stations in this area SUCK!
So, you'll have to bring CD's for music.

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/29/19 12:15 AM







I'm pretty much the same
wherever I go.



You go places? I imagine you a recluse with many fur buddies :smiley::heart::rose:


I take them with me.
They're a-holes, too. laugh




Can I come? I love road trips. Be warned, I have my feet on the dash, my hand out the window and the music needs to be good. Oh, and we stop at every antique shop. :smiley:

Lol, where do you guys go? You know about my last disastrous escapade laugh



Regional road trips.
They love riding in the car.




Radio stations in this area SUCK!
So, you'll have to bring CD's for music.


Yeah, I bet our music is way different. I like every genre besides electric and Death metal :smiley:

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/29/19 12:19 AM
Edited by Ladywind7 on Sun 12/29/19 12:21 AM

I'm much much much worse offline. Think taking 1000 goody powders with no water.
Just being honest.
I wouldn't even be allowed on line, much less here.

Many Years ago, I was at one time, too wild-silly for most towns, and been told to leave a few that were conservative in the past. Frankfort Michigan was one, Traverse City Michigan, was another one. There were a couple in the outskirts of Chicago. I was never drunk or on drugs. That just wasn't for me, but I'd climb buildings and do other slapstick stuff. This was WAAAY before Parkour as a sport.

I also sound like the hick from hell. I have a thick raspy cross accent, Louisiana-Chicago-Alabama-Florida with Russian and Morocco touches now and then.

I sound extremely unintelligent,(because I'm not intelligent) and I'm also very slow thinking. (I have tons of time to think before I write here)

Funny thing.... I can write similar to Samuel Clemens if I put my mind to pictures, and be channeled... it's weird that it flows, so I have a hard time thinking it's actually me doing it. No thesaurus, nothing. I find this very strange.
So it must not be. I refuse to give myself credit. I would if I thought I deserved it. I do like the result though, I can't lie.

I NEVER bother people. I let them be. I will help if needed or asked, but disappear immediately after when their head is turned. I'm very scary looking in person also, so I'm amazed that people ask me anything.

My life is brutal very very heavy work, very long hours, then sleep, then dream that I'm working even more brutally in my sleep, then I get up and go to work... That's it.


Just why Darkowl? :frowning2::rose::heart: Your post breaks my heart. I am actually bought to tears. Get a grip and realize you are more than work please.

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/29/19 12:49 AM

I'm not real. I'm a caricature of a cartoon world person.
It's not real, it's only entertainment and games.


Nonsense. But ok....:heart::rose::smiley: