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Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 01/13/20 03:12 AM
What exactly does marriage mean to you guys and ladies? I was reading through a thread I created and discovered most women want marriage, most men do not. Maybe I did not get enough responses to have a balanced gender opinion... If you are courageous enough men, tell me why marriage is not appealing to you? Or is marriage appealing to you?

Seamus Joined Mon 07/15/19 Posts: 3365	Mon 01/13/20 03:17 AM
My personal circumstances don't really allow for marriage or even living together. Ignoring the facts that I'm dirt poor and "visually impaired", which really don't help, I have responsibilities that come first.

Lisa B Joined Mon 01/13/20 Posts: 1	Mon 01/13/20 03:35 AM
Hey y’all

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21249	Mon 01/13/20 03:47 AM
Well... Since i did post in your other thread... :bigsnile: I'm not a huge fan of marriage, for the sake of a facade... As some tend to be. But... For the right reasons, with the right woman, I could truly appreciate marriage.

Freebird Deluxe Joined Sun 12/23/18 Posts: 4637	Mon 01/13/20 03:54 AM
Mine failed after 43 years and being together 7 before that , I don't want any of the stress again

Essentially Joined Sat 07/13/19 Posts: 1115	Mon 01/13/20 03:55 AM
What exactly does marriage mean to you guys and ladies? I was reading through a thread I created and discovered most women want marriage, most men do not. Maybe I did not get enough responses to have a balanced gender opinion... If you are courageous enough men, tell me why marriage is not appealing to you? Or is marriage appealing to you? Can I know your major at college lol

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 01/13/20 04:01 AM
What exactly does marriage mean to you guys and ladies? I was reading through a thread I created and discovered most women want marriage, most men do not. Maybe I did not get enough responses to have a balanced gender opinion... If you are courageous enough men, tell me why marriage is not appealing to you? Or is marriage appealing to you? Can I know your major at college lol Ha ha. I was kicked out of home at 14 by my father, so I never went to College. I learned life on my own

delightfulillusion Joined Fri 06/24/16 Posts: 119332	Mon 01/13/20 04:04 AM
I wouldn’t get married again. I was with my ex for 38 yrs and I’m enjoying the single life now

Essentially Joined Sat 07/13/19 Posts: 1115	Mon 01/13/20 04:05 AM
What exactly does marriage mean to you guys and ladies? I was reading through a thread I created and discovered most women want marriage, most men do not. Maybe I did not get enough responses to have a balanced gender opinion... If you are courageous enough men, tell me why marriage is not appealing to you? Or is marriage appealing to you? Can I know your major at college lol Ha ha. I was kicked out of home at 14 by my father, so I never went to College. I learned life on my own I like your humor sis

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1709	Mon 01/13/20 06:44 AM
As a man who has been married and divorced several times the last together over 30 years, the only long term positive thing I can say is I love my daughter. I really doubt I would ever consider it again or recommend to very many couples and here is why: 1. Divorce laws are created to benefit the least productive member of the couple. 2. There is always an attempt to force your partner to see life and lifestyle as you do. 3. One person's independence is usually compromised. 4. Seldom is there equality in a relationship especially when married. 5. The financial system rewards the financially irresponsible member of the couple. 6. People have a difficult time discussing and accepting situations in a relationship that they disagree with. 7. Often times there is a lack of honesty between a couple especially leading up to marriage. You find out the bad s*it after the "I DOs". I'm sure there is an honest, lovable lady someplace but the only few I know have a very loving husband.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 01/13/20 12:25 PM
As a man who has been married and divorced several times the last together over 30 years, the only long term positive thing I can say is I love my daughter. I really doubt I would ever consider it again or recommend to very many couples and here is why: 1. Divorce laws are created to benefit the least productive member of the couple. 2. There is always an attempt to force your partner to see life and lifestyle as you do. 3. One person's independence is usually compromised. 4. Seldom is there equality in a relationship especially when married. 5. The financial system rewards the financially irresponsible member of the couple. 6. People have a difficult time discussing and accepting situations in a relationship that they disagree with. 7. Often times there is a lack of honesty between a couple especially leading up to marriage. You find out the bad s*it after the "I DOs". I'm sure there is an honest, lovable lady someplace but the only few I know have a very loving husband. Some really honest points there. I don't know what to say, it bought tears to my eyes

NotPay4Play Joined Fri 06/24/16 Posts: 5330	Mon 01/13/20 12:42 PM
Hum well my views on marriage are simple. Been there. Done that. Got the combat patch. Not reupping for another tour.

Cosmic Charlie Joined Tue 08/20/19 Posts: 1315	Mon 01/13/20 12:50 PM
Ive had a couple of wifes.Neither of them ever worked. Both of them stung me. I've not long got rid of the last one. What would I want another one of those things for? Twice bitten thrice shy

Essentially Joined Sat 07/13/19 Posts: 1115	Mon 01/13/20 05:12 PM
Is it more a blessing to give than to receive

Bastet127 Joined Wed 06/12/19 Posts: 967	Mon 01/13/20 05:42 PM
Just look at the divorce rate, it’s scary. These are couples that were supposedly once in love and how many divorces do we know that end with the couple happily parting ways? For the future, I’d want someone that wants to be with me, and vice versa, out of the sheer joy of it not because we’re are legally bound.

darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Mon 01/13/20 05:48 PM
I can't have a significant other because of travel and the really bad places I have to go at times. And.... and, they would never tolerate me leaving for six months to five years, with a one day warning, let alone, just a four day jaunt in the wilderness with no warning. My freedom to do these things is a luxury to me, and I never take it for granted.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 01/13/20 07:18 PM
I can't have a significant other because of travel and the really bad places I have to go at times. And.... and, they would never tolerate me leaving for six months to five years, with a one day warning, let alone, just a four day jaunt in the wilderness with no warning. My freedom to do these things is a luxury to me, and I never take it for granted. Are you or were you a soldier?

darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Mon 01/13/20 07:19 PM Edited by darkowl1 on Mon 01/13/20 07:22 PM
I was private. sometimes though, I just needed to "go fishing".

notbeold Joined Sat 06/01/13 Posts: 2406	Mon 01/13/20 07:47 PM
I'd like to try it with a good woman. I've been looking for a good woman for decades. No luck so far. I've never lived with a partner before, so that could cramp my style, of being a messy bachelor with lots of hobbies and stuff. A cheap registry office job or notary public, small party after, and a camping and traveling honeymoon, probably coastal so I can surf and fish, and my supermodel bride can selfie herself to her heart's content.

bobtail76 Joined Mon 02/10/14 Posts: 6935	Mon 01/13/20 09:52 PM Edited by bobtail76 on Mon 01/13/20 09:53 PM
Amen brother oldkid, You miss the part where 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Those are bad odds. She was wondering the disparity between why women want it and men don't. I think the easy answer is men get the shaft 75 % of the time