Hope I'm phrasing this right, but usually everyone on here says "Just be yourself". I don't think anyone is their normal average self in matters of love. Because the other will make us feel different. We might have more spring in our gait, butterflies in our stomach, just feel different, and also behave different.'

So guys, what do you do? How do you approach her, try to get something of the ground, and so on. What do you do, how do you behave? What is it you do that shows her you like her?

Hey Crystal...In real life or on a dating site?

Can this thread be for women too please?

Ok, well...when I am interested in a woman in real life. I stare at her boobs, lick my lips and play with my hair.

Feel free to reply.
But there is a similar thread for women, about 'if you like a guy would you make the first move?'.
I would also like to know if a man would make the first move if he liked a woman.
But more so, since everyone says 'be yourself', what do men actually do, feel, say and so on. So slightly different from the women's topic, hihi.

I approach her slowly, and try to get something out of my pants.

Well I meant my wallet, to ask her for a change

Oh, us Minglers are in a cheeky mood tonight. Please forgive us Crystal I will start another messy thread

Too early for me to feel cheeky, even though it's 13:00. I usually don't get really active until 2 hihi.

It depends on the individual.

The timing.


The place.

I get nervous and blabber like a baby

I guess what you just said it through, I think so

I generally walk up to her like a normal guy. Stick out my hand and introduce myself. Then make a very funny comment to get the convo going... if she laughs, I think half the battle is won.... then I ask her to have coffee and if she agrees... I am on my way to her heart.... lol!!! So far I have not been shot down after this first move!!!

I agree with you Crystal..we are all on our best behavior
in the presence of prey.

Logical, and good that you can be flexible :) Few things in life require that so much as love I think.

Haha, but you know, that can be endearing!
And also perfectly fine to be nervous. Aren't we all?

So you're quite confident? Or still have some nerves going on inside when you do this? I mean, you never know if you're going to be rejected or not?

Dammit woman, I almost choked in my coffee, hahahaha.
And yes, maybe that's why we also get nervous, cos if we get rejected when we are on our best behaviour it likely hits home, unless you're super duper mega confident.
Prey, haha, I'm gonna giggle about that one for a while

I just run a bit slower. And hope they arn't hunting in packs.

Prexactly, if you cannot hook them showing your best,
what hope if there? hahaha

Still it can be a wee embarrassing sometimes, even if none of us is perfect