Topic: Dating with a disabled person
WheelieGoodGuy's photo
Thu 03/26/20 09:20 PM
How many ladies out there would consider dating someone with a disability ?

no photo
Thu 03/26/20 10:19 PM
<not a lady, but our temporary state is the least consideration

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Thu 03/26/20 11:43 PM
It would depend on the extent of the disability , Just a hint maybe change your occupation from disabled to retired
Good luck

Fiddlemaker's photo
Fri 03/27/20 12:14 AM
In my experience, none.

JulieABush's photo
Fri 03/27/20 02:03 AM
Well FM don’t be so sure. I know 2 women from work who are married to wheelchair bound handicapped men, one died a few years back and is a widow and the other is still happily married. I have a learning disability myself but you wouldn’t know it by looking at me but I was diagnosed when I was a child and thus held back a year in school. To me I would as long as he could get around on his own or with the help of a caregiver.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Fri 03/27/20 02:47 AM
When in my 30s, after my divorce, I have dated a disabled guy. He tricked me, he hadn't said anything about it. I wasn't amused.
Going about it that way is not right.

As for your question, no, I would not consider it.

Nancy's photo
Fri 03/27/20 04:37 AM

It would depend on the extent of the disability , Just a hint maybe change your occupation from disabled to retired
Good luck

Please do not hide from your disability on your profile.
For me, at this time in my life, any significant health issues would probably be a No. Other women will surely feel differently, but they need to make that choice. For the last 15 years of my marriage, my deceased husband's health and mobility limitations significantly impacted our daily lives, what we could do, and where we could go together. I am taking this opportunity to experience some of what I missed during those years. For now, I intend to date only men who are reasonably healthy and mobile.

no photo
Fri 03/27/20 06:11 AM
Edited by cybert19 on Fri 03/27/20 06:32 AM
IF you dont let your disability stop you no one else worth knowing will care. Most people have no idea I have any disability but I do tell women IF they indicate there is a chance of being more than friends.

Stay active. Try meeting local in person. Be friendly NOT a creep or perv. Friendship will help you meet other friends. Ask your nurse at doctors office IF she has friends. Hire a house keeper be friendly and talk to them. They have friends and many have single mothers. Hire a care giver IF you can afford.

I am a disabled vet and no one knows unless I tell them, hearing loss, kidney infection and skin condition. All can be controlled except hearing. High frequency Tinnitus, ringing in the ears. If a fan is on across the room I hear the low frequency motor. I have trouble hearing or understanding a women voice about 5 feet from me.

1991 I was rear ended for the 3rd time in my car, by a woman, at a stop light with a police car in the next lane. Back and neck pain (2nd time double whip lash)I was forced to retire eight yrs later. I had back surgery Dec 2005. I had surgery by noon Friday and back home Sunday and mowed my lawn. I do ALL my outside home maintenance to stay active. Forced retirement gave me a lot of opportunity to learn how with the Internet about any subject, lawn care, weed control, PCs, networking, selling on-line ect.

oldkid46's photo
Fri 03/27/20 06:33 AM
It very much depends on how the disability would affect your chosen lifestyle. Another point, today there are very good ways to compensate for a disability. For instance a runner with only 1 real leg. It is a matter of if the disabled person allows their disability to destroy their life or finds ways to overcome it.

JulieABush's photo
Fri 03/27/20 07:26 PM
Yeah, I agree with Nancy that it’s your choice to date a disabled person. Sorry that you where lied to SC but that was stupidity on his part which adds another disability to him, the mental kind.

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Sat 03/28/20 02:15 AM


It would depend on the extent of the disability , Just a hint maybe change your occupation from disabled to retired
Good luck

Please do not hide from your disability on your profile.
For me, at this time in my life, any significant health issues would probably be a No. Other women will surely feel differently, but they need to make that choice. For the last 15 years of my marriage, my deceased husband's health and mobility limitations significantly impacted our daily lives, what we could do, and where we could go together. I am taking this opportunity to experience some of what I missed during those years. For now, I intend to date only men who are reasonably healthy and mobile.

My comment was not intended to hide anything as he has already stated disabled ,disabled is not a good description of occupation ,many disabled folk can do some sort of work and if you don't have any maybe unemployed or retired would be a better description ,also would the OP in return date a disabled person ??? good luck

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 03/28/20 02:55 AM

Yeah, I agree with Nancy that it’s your choice to date a disabled person. Sorry that you where lied to SC but that was stupidity on his part which adds another disability to him, the mental kind.

It is indeed a naf thing to do as you are left to deal with it in the moment. What are you to say? "Oh you're disabled, I'm gone!"
You actually should as their behaviour is just that kind of rude too. But I think such people are counting on you being overwhelmed and too polite to leave just like that.

Jedstaff's photo
Wed 04/01/20 06:23 PM
Oh my I'm sorry to hear that you had a not so good experience with your disabled date. May I ask ... have your views changed from earlier times ? special souls find each other and share Light and love.