Topic: Never had much luck online
2legitk's photo
Sun 04/05/20 11:54 AM
I'm never had much luck period. Especially online though. I avoid it most of the time because it'll just wreck my self esteem. I'll be in a good place, feeling good enough about myself to think i'm ready for a relationship and it just tears me down.

It's more like, I never get these types of responses in person. Never. Not one single time in my life has anyone told me to "dont message them again" or "you're crazy". But online, wow, yall just let anything fly huh?

So when you are used to people being generally friendly with you and smiling at you, its weird to get online and have someone not be excited to talk to you or not to talk to you at all. just weird.

Ive tried everything, like being on all the sites and apps, this is the only site im on now. Ive tried writing serious profiles, funny profiles, sexy profiles, and nothing seems to work, at all. Like I get it. I mean, if im a female and there are 20,000 messages for me everyday, why would they even read mine?

I do take the time to write a personalized message, but with a 1/100 response rate like, you get annoyed with it. So i'm just here not really GAF. like really.

I'm probably going to end up deleting this too, its just too much for my ego, Iill be fine until like the 100th girl ignores my message, which again, I get it. But im not really interested in investing time into something that probably wont result in anything.

like statstically, lets say about 3 out of 100 women respond, what are the chances of any of those three escalating into a relationship? not likely.

Im at a point in my life that I know what works and what doesnt, I know what I want and what I dont want. I just got out of a very long relationship because I tried to settle. You just end up unhappy, forget that. I'm not doing that again. My standards are not high at all, but they are there atleast.

So im probably not going to be messaging anyone, im just going to let whoever is interested message me. There is literally no point in messaging everyone, atleast if they message me I know they are interested.

Saddest thing is to, I know a large majority of the women on this app would probably be interested in person and are at home alone, reading messages from guys that they arent even interested in. Im packing too, like 10 inches, I know alot of guys exaggerate, but it's legitimate. Im not here to brag, this is not a personal ad. I was just pointing out the saddest fact in this whole scenario.

I really dont care if you know me in person, cause if you knew me in person you would know I really dont care.

Curious how much luck anyone else has had?

soufiehere's photo
Sun 04/05/20 12:06 PM
If I were you, I would concentrate on enjoining the forums,
everything you want to know about women/man relationships
is discussed.

Great first start here though.
I had perfect luck, myself ;-)

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 04/05/20 12:15 PM
Luck has nothing to do with it IMO. When compatibility and mutual attraction happens, it happens. Sometimes it takes years. Just don't give up...:smile:

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Sun 04/05/20 05:19 PM
Curious how much luck anyone else has had?

I don't believe in luck.
For me believing in/blaming luck is mental laziness and/or a means of avoiding responsibility for my own problems/choices. So I try to avoid using that crutch.

Other than that, I'm satisfied with the results based on the amount of effort, focus, attitude, give a fub, and etc., I've put into OLD sites/apps.

Sunzy Sankilo's photo
Wed 04/15/20 08:52 PM
i never meet serious relationship , only people who are not serious comes me way

Tom4Uhere's photo
Wed 04/15/20 10:39 PM
I had luck once I used the tool as a tool.
It took some courage to actually go meet someone in real life and I had to abandon my expectations and accept her as she is and not who I want her to be but yeah, the tool worked.

Arry's photo
Sat 04/25/20 10:15 AM
good for you..

Smith's photo
Sat 04/25/20 11:07 AM
Yeah that's true can we chat privately

lallyn861's photo
Sat 04/25/20 12:39 PM
Hi I’m sorry to hear that ,and your sadness . You know , do not focus your mind online. Ofcourse if your home you can have fun with your computer chatting or writing to somebody . But if you expect too much you will only be disappointed. Open your mind and think positive. In my opinion , it is better to travel around to any countries soon when everything okay again. that way you will learn other cultures , have a good conversation personally to other people exchanging thoughts .

If you want a friend, somebody to talk to. You can message me.

Do not worry about finding someone now. What is most important is your healthy this time of cresis.

Take good care.

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Sat 04/25/20 12:42 PM
too little too late lally, he has already deactivated