Apparently women have a “universal “ flirting sign ..,

Do men know this ???

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perhaps it is a secret

It's a secret from me.

Well, tell us the secret, Blondey..

With everyone social distancing and wearing masks this could really help me out!!

Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this followed by this

Rock and Devo .. I don’t think it will be much help .. The jerky eyebrows sounds a little unnerving lol

Certainly if a man did that to me I would back away quickly

Yes the swift jerky motion of the eyebrows while opening the eyes wide and smiling sounds like something I'll have nightmares about later tonight...

making me laugh .. especially if she has razor long nails like Freddy .. .. seriously though .. I think there may be some truth to the second part .. I know I have certainly used the “look away “ when attempting to flirt with someone I find attractive .

Yes the coquettish slow closing of the eyes and look away is always hard to resist. But i don't know about that first part...

perhaps it is the description they have used .. sounds over exaggerated .

And then there is this ...

“Today in parts of Greece and the Balkans, some men carry their handkerchiefs in their armpits during festivals and offer these odoriferous tokens to the women they invite to dance: they swear by the results.”

Blondey, I don't know what you're talking about. That happens in movies.

well cat .. you may be right .. this is just one researchers interpretation of flirting . If you think about when you are attracted to someone ..and you are flirting ., what is your approach ??

I don't really flirt. I see a guy I like, and look a bit and that's it.

Haha, I'm not sure about the jerky eyebrow motion, but looking back I do all of the other things. It's not something I consciously think of doing, so maybe Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt is correct about it being innate.

I agree the description sounds a little exaggerated, maybe the jerky eyebrow motion is just a nervous twitch?

I seem to have this part of the flirting down pat, maybe because it just come natural. It's after this part where I struggle and the whole thing generally comes to dead stop. I don't seem to be good at consciously flirting.

The last couple weeks at the store, I've been exchanging the smiling thing with a male customer, but it's starting to fizzle out because neither of us seem to know what to do next, lol. There's also the part where he told my co-worker she's looking beautiful today, but only seems to be able to smile and blush with me. I guess I can take it as a bad thing or perhaps I just make him so nervous he's speechless, haha.

Either way, the whole flirting game frustrates me, most likely because I lack the confidence in my ability to do it effectively, I seldom get the results I'm hoping for.

there is the more direct sign,

I also haven't a clue what exactly it is I do. It's not something you think about, it's something that just happens. I don't do premeditated and fake stuff, so I just don't know.
I do think that part of the charm is being a bit shy and blushing, although in some cases it's the opposite and I feel strong and in control and not shy but playful and enjoying it tremendously.