Topic: Flirting ...
Rock's photo
Fri 09/18/20 02:24 AM
Edited by Rock on Fri 09/18/20 02:25 AM

Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:


So, a woman starts giving me her
Lizzy Borden eyes, it means she's flirting?

scared

ivegotthegirth's photo
Fri 09/18/20 02:51 AM


Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:


Haha, I'm not sure about the jerky eyebrow motion, but looking back I do all of the other things. It's not something I consciously think of doing, so maybe Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt is correct about it being innate.

I agree the description sounds a little exaggerated, maybe the jerky eyebrow motion is just a nervous twitch?

I seem to have this part of the flirting down pat, maybe because it just come natural. It's after this part where I struggle and the whole thing generally comes to dead stop. I don't seem to be good at consciously flirting.

The last couple weeks at the store, I've been exchanging the smiling thing with a male customer, but it's starting to fizzle out because neither of us seem to know what to do next, lol. There's also the part where he told my co-worker she's looking beautiful today, but only seems to be able to smile and blush with me. pitchfork I guess I can take it as a bad thing or perhaps I just make him so nervous he's speechless, haha.

Either way, the whole flirting game frustrates me, most likely because I lack the confidence in my ability to do it effectively, I seldom get the results I'm hoping for.






Aww River as cute and sweet as you are........................well this brings so many things to mind I'll just let out a few thoughts in no specific order; if you've given this guy all these signals with no results he doesn't deserve you, perhaps he can't make a decision about himself like is he gay or not or does he want to start to cheat on his partner or not? Etc., etc. I'd say there's something involved that you don't know about. I used to know this couple about 25 years ago who were very happily marred and they were both exotic dancers and were such regular people you'd never guess about their profession, I kept running into them and in about a years time got to know them pretty well. Rick told me that he was always amazed at how poor women were at judging if guys were gay. He went on to say that among his peers (male exotic dancers) about 90% were gay and the women stuffing their panties full of bills almost never caught on.
I'm not saying that's the case with your possible squeeze just a could be combined with one of my flashbacks. Get more aggressive if you really want him to get the idea. Or...................

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Fri 09/18/20 07:07 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Fri 09/18/20 07:07 AM

Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:


Sounds like something a little girl would do..

*I* certainly have never "covered my face and giggled"..over a guy..not since I have been an adult...whoa

Thommo188169's photo
Fri 09/18/20 07:28 AM
Hi gorgeous

cajunman59's photo
Fri 09/18/20 07:37 AM
The ones that make eye contact are usually the young ones, practicing flirting maybe. The strange ones are the ones that rub my upper arm and then disappear into the crowd. IDK LOL Then there was a friends sister that just walked up and grabbed a handfull and said what she had on her mind, sadly she just didn't light any fires. My luck LOL

Riverspirit1111's photo
Fri 09/18/20 11:44 AM



Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:


Haha, I'm not sure about the jerky eyebrow motion, but looking back I do all of the other things. It's not something I consciously think of doing, so maybe Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt is correct about it being innate.

I agree the description sounds a little exaggerated, maybe the jerky eyebrow motion is just a nervous twitch?

I seem to have this part of the flirting down pat, maybe because it just come natural. It's after this part where I struggle and the whole thing generally comes to dead stop. I don't seem to be good at consciously flirting.

The last couple weeks at the store, I've been exchanging the smiling thing with a male customer, but it's starting to fizzle out because neither of us seem to know what to do next, lol. There's also the part where he told my co-worker she's looking beautiful today, but only seems to be able to smile and blush with me. pitchfork I guess I can take it as a bad thing or perhaps I just make him so nervous he's speechless, haha.

Either way, the whole flirting game frustrates me, most likely because I lack the confidence in my ability to do it effectively, I seldom get the results I'm hoping for.






Aww River as cute and sweet as you are........................well this brings so many things to mind I'll just let out a few thoughts in no specific order; if you've given this guy all these signals with no results he doesn't deserve you, perhaps he can't make a decision about himself like is he gay or not or does he want to start to cheat on his partner or not? Etc., etc. I'd say there's something involved that you don't know about. I used to know this couple about 25 years ago who were very happily marred and they were both exotic dancers and were such regular people you'd never guess about their profession, I kept running into them and in about a years time got to know them pretty well. Rick told me that he was always amazed at how poor women were at judging if guys were gay. He went on to say that among his peers (male exotic dancers) about 90% were gay and the women stuffing their panties full of bills almost never caught on.
I'm not saying that's the case with your possible squeeze just a could be combined with one of my flashbacks. Get more aggressive if you really want him to get the idea. Or...................


Awww, thanks Girth for your encouraging words. Nope, he's not gay! He's 61 yrs old, single, owns his own home, is originally from Italy, half Sicilian, half Portuguese, and very excited about me being single, lol.

I took your advice and got a little more aggressive in initiating conversation today! bigsmile laugh Though I'm not sure I'm going to let him off the hook for telling my co-worker the other day that she's looking beautiful when all I got was a "You have a nice smile". grumble tongue2

But back on topic, I feel the same as Crystal... it's not something you think about, it just happens. When it comes naturally to me, it does feel good and is much more effective than when I try to think about consciously flirting. That's when it's a disaster and most likely why I end up feeling I'm just not good at it. And I'm not, I can't purposely be flirtatious, it seems phony to me somehow and always ends up backfiring on me.

Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 09/18/20 12:21 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Fri 09/18/20 12:21 PM
Men know when a woman is Flirting, if he's Witty.

ivegotthegirth's photo
Fri 09/18/20 02:43 PM

Men know when a woman is Flirting, if he's Witty.


:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

mysticalview21's photo
Sat 09/19/20 04:09 AM


Blondey, I don't know what you're talking about. That happens in movies.
well cat .. you may be right .. this is just one researchers interpretation of flirting . If you think about when you are attracted to someone ..and you are flirting ., what is your approach ??



I don't have a approach laugh I am kinda stupid to it lately...

I notice men ... but seem to just get into ...what i need to be doing ...

this may be weird... I notice this one person lately...but have not had the chance to see if their are any rings ... tho he may not wear it being in the department he is in... not sure yet smile2

mysticalview21's photo
Sat 09/19/20 04:10 AM
Edited by mysticalview21 on Sat 09/19/20 04:13 AM


Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:


So, a woman starts giving me her
Lizzy Borden eyes, it means she's flirting?

scared
rofl

prometheus's photo
Sat 09/19/20 11:20 AM
yes

Molli's photo
Sat 09/19/20 12:13 PM
yes dear I know very well

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Sat 09/19/20 12:36 PM

Universal flirting sign ......

“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.

Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.

Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."


I think it is a little like this drool followed by this :angel:

that has to be the worst possible description of it but yes i have seen it and even noticed it when it happened and responded by puffing up my chest tipping my hat and beating my buddy about the shoulders and saying check it out dude, she likes me.

actually handed her a tissue and offered to help her get whatever was stuck in her eye out. then bought her a drink and got to know her.

bobtail76's photo
Sat 09/19/20 01:09 PM
Dudes are dopey....Some (like me) miss the subtle flirting hints, other dudes think when a girl says "hi" she wants to jump their bones. It's a product of the game that men and women play

Ghuha Priyan's photo
Sat 09/19/20 08:38 PM
Yes we know it very well

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Mon 09/21/20 08:28 AM
I don't flirt, don't know how and the few times I've tried ended up with my face turning beet red and embarrassed. And I'm usually clueless when someone flirts with me .

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Thu 09/24/20 01:21 AM
yes

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Sat 09/26/20 06:14 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sat 09/26/20 06:18 PM
I like to think I have perfected the most effective way to deflect any flirting attempts..... I call it the "blank look" now for some people it takes no effort but for others 1 you must keep your facial expressions as neutral as possible , no smiling, talking or even mouth breathing
2 though it appears you are looking straight at the person , really you are looking beyond them .
3 at no time do you blink, ever



I guarantee the person you are "blanking" (lol) will think wow I was just trying to start a conversation , maybe flirt a little but they look like they forgot to take their psych meds today.....Works for me

MAORIBYNATURE's photo
Mon 09/28/20 06:48 AM
I'm just here to meet some lovely lady's and share some good memories together :)

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 09/28/20 11:50 AM

Apparently women have a “universal “ flirting sign ..,

Do men know this ??? biggrin :wink: tongue2





Some MEN don't know how to take a Hint!:smile: