my ex called herself part domme. now i see bdsm in all sites, what's up with that?

What not go to a BDSM site and ask there? Or find a website on it and read.
Also, didn't you ask your wife?

They need it their way and they need it NOW?

BDSM has been a thriving sub-culture for many years. As with many other sub-cultures, it is now coming out in the open more often, instead of staying hidden in private.

Some live it as a lifestyle with like-minded partners, some are merely wannabe’s experimenting, and for others it is to spice-up sexual playtime.

As with everything else, in general it matters not if one accepts or rejects this activity as right or wrong; it is only important if CONSENTING ADULTS decide it is right or wrong for themselves.

Er nothing! Has someone said it is wrong?

Nothing positive.

Repent!

Or be punished .

I do think the rubber and latex face mask lovers are having a ball at the mo.