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I am very good at talking to people, like lady's , just think of them as just friends, and give them alot of compliments and carrying words
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That works for me both ways
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Edited by
cleve
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Sun 01/03/21 02:41 PM
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be genuine, by being who you are.....with out honesty you can not have safety and of course no safety no passion....... |
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I’ve received the grossest and most inappropriate msgs on here and my advice to guys would be as follows:
- Stop automatically greeting them with “Hey sexy” and kissy faces it’s so slimy and ungenuine. - Stop presuming that her silence means rejection- she has a life she will get back to you when she wants to. - If she says she is not interested don’t be a tosser about it by sending a rude or nasty response - there’s no rule saying that she must like you! - If you have been rejected in the past or if you have met time wasters in the past don’t automatically assume that every girl is like that. - Also take the time to read her profile if she has filled it in as the info will help with the conversation. |
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Remembering that they are all "Sugar and Spice" works well, sometimes. 
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If men would take some time to think of good things to say and great questions to ask, it could make a lot of difference.
Most come up with question that have to do with looks and actions, and do not lead to a good conversation nor create connection. Asking things like, "What do you want us to do on a 1st date?" only gets a sigh. So does, "What kind of holiday do you prefer?" (camping, all in, luxury hotel blablabla) We've heard that kind of meaningless, superficial stuff a gazillion times as almost all men ask the same stupid chit. Now if the holiday type is important, say something like "Last weekend I had a great time. I went hiking, camping. It's good to be out in nature. I love to take photos of/or.../or... What about you?" Then you got something a woman can work with so you have a real conversation, and... it can create connection. It can even create space for some fun. But most people don't do this, can't do this. It's like they get brain-freeze when they try to talk to a woman. We don't want to be bored to death in the very first exchange. |
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Edited by
Mike6615
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Mon 01/04/21 06:44 AM
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If men would take some time to think of good things to say and great questions to ask, it could make a lot of difference. Most come up with question that have to do with looks and actions, and do not lead to a good conversation nor create connection. Asking things like, "What do you want us to do on a 1st date?" only gets a sigh. So does, "What kind of holiday do you prefer?" (camping, all in, luxury hotel blablabla) We've heard that kind of meaningless, superficial stuff a gazillion times as almost all men ask the same stupid chit. Now if the holiday type is important, say something like "Last weekend I had a great time. I went hiking, camping. It's good to be out in nature. I love to take photos of/or.../or... What about you?" Then you got something a woman can work with so you have a real conversation, and... it can create connection. It can even create space for some fun. But most people don't do this, can't do this. It's like they get brain-freeze when they try to talk to a woman. We don't want to be bored to death in the very first exchange. /quote] I agree with you fully. So many times we can tell why many men are here. They haven't a clue about relationships, but they think women are going to flock to them just by joining. |
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If men would take some time to think of good things to say and great questions to ask, it could make a lot of difference. Most come up with question that have to do with looks and actions, and do not lead to a good conversation nor create connection. Asking things like, "What do you want us to do on a 1st date?" only gets a sigh. So does, "What kind of holiday do you prefer?" (camping, all in, luxury hotel blablabla) We've heard that kind of meaningless, superficial stuff a gazillion times as almost all men ask the same stupid chit. Now if the holiday type is important, say something like "Last weekend I had a great time. I went hiking, camping. It's good to be out in nature. I love to take photos of/or.../or... What about you?" Then you got something a woman can work with so you have a real conversation, and... it can create connection. It can even create space for some fun. But most people don't do this, can't do this. It's like they get brain-freeze when they try to talk to a woman. We don't want to be bored to death in the very first exchange. I agree with you fully. So many times we can tell why many men are here. They haven't a clue about relationships, but they think women are going to flock to them just by joining. Yes, and what I also see a lot on dating sites is that many men expect us women to bend over backward and jump through hoops to get through their test. They want to know what you're going to do for them, what you have to offer them, and they forget that building a connection is a two-way street. Give and take, not just take. And I know not all men are like that, but it's not easy to find these great guys. |
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If men would take some time to think of good things to say and great questions to ask, it could make a lot of difference. Most come up with question that have to do with looks and actions, and do not lead to a good conversation nor create connection. Asking things like, "What do you want us to do on a 1st date?" only gets a sigh. So does, "What kind of holiday do you prefer?" (camping, all in, luxury hotel blablabla) We've heard that kind of meaningless, superficial stuff a gazillion times as almost all men ask the same stupid chit. Now if the holiday type is important, say something like "Last weekend I had a great time. I went hiking, camping. It's good to be out in nature. I love to take photos of/or.../or... What about you?" Then you got something a woman can work with so you have a real conversation, and... it can create connection. It can even create space for some fun. But most people don't do this, can't do this. It's like they get brain-freeze when they try to talk to a woman. We don't want to be bored to death in the very first exchange. I agree with you fully. So many times we can tell why many men are here. They haven't a clue about relationships, but they think women are going to flock to them just by joining. Yes, and what I also see a lot on dating sites is that many men expect us women to bend over backward and jump through hoops to get through their test. They want to know what you're going to do for them, what you have to offer them, and they forget that building a connection is a two-way street. Give and take, not just take. And I know not all men are like that, but it's not easy to find these great guys. One of your points made me remember...when I used to tour the country camping on a motorcycle, for a joke I would say that I'd erect the tent on the motel's bed...in the mornings, climb out and get into the shower...it would have some semblance of "real" camping! |
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If men would take some time to think of good things to say and great questions to ask, it could make a lot of difference. Most come up with question that have to do with looks and actions, and do not lead to a good conversation nor create connection. Asking things like, "What do you want us to do on a 1st date?" only gets a sigh. So does, "What kind of holiday do you prefer?" (camping, all in, luxury hotel blablabla) We've heard that kind of meaningless, superficial stuff a gazillion times as almost all men ask the same stupid chit. Now if the holiday type is important, say something like "Last weekend I had a great time. I went hiking, camping. It's good to be out in nature. I love to take photos of/or.../or... What about you?" Then you got something a woman can work with so you have a real conversation, and... it can create connection. It can even create space for some fun. But most people don't do this, can't do this. It's like they get brain-freeze when they try to talk to a woman. We don't want to be bored to death in the very first exchange. I agree with you fully. So many times we can tell why many men are here. They haven't a clue about relationships, but they think women are going to flock to them just by joining. Yes, and what I also see a lot on dating sites is that many men expect us women to bend over backward and jump through hoops to get through their test. They want to know what you're going to do for them, what you have to offer them, and they forget that building a connection is a two-way street. Give and take, not just take. And I know not all men are like that, but it's not easy to find these great guys. One of your points made me remember...when I used to tour the country camping on a motorcycle, for a joke I would say that I'd erect the tent on the motel's bed...in the mornings, climb out and get into the shower...it would have some semblance of "real" camping! You're making me laugh! 
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I talk to people with the same respect and reverence I have for myself.
I remove assumptions based on gender unless that person focuses on gender. For women, I respect their role in society and respect their individual traits. I listen twice as much as I talk and I reserve my assumptions to only the ideas and actions they share with me. I don't see their world because I don't live behind their eyes. Each person is a unique take on how life exists and I have no idea the life they led which made them the person I am talking with so I allow them to be them. |
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When guys write message after message and get no responses they are likely getting frustrated. I usually look for something in their profile to make a comment about. However if she does not speak English as a first language i will simply introduce myself. I live in Cambodia and i am aware women here are conservative. I figure that i am going to get further by a nice introduction stating that i am looking for a serious relationship and that I would like to get to know her . Usually i will ask her about her favorite food.
I think of online dating as the first date. By the end of the first date I want to know what type of relationship someone is looking for, what their favorite foods are. what kinds of activities they like, what their occupations and education level is and whether they have children. With this information i would have no problem planning a date and will know if we are going to be compatible before we meet. It is also ideal to do a video chat. Usually after all these things as long as the person you are meeting is who they say they are the relationship will likely work out. I treat dating like a fulltime sales job. I anticipate out of 10 women i contact one will answer. As i like in asia those numbers are normally higher |
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how to talk to girls 1. Open mouth 2. Grunt with style |
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Compliments from an Online stranger is not what I'm looking at.
Good Conversations impress me. I get compliments from guys I already know in town. |
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