She has not wanted anything sexual or even affectionate with me for years. If she has kissed me a total of 10 times our whole relationship. I don't know what to say she has horrible nightmares but when she wakes with me she said it's worse than her dreams. I try and tell her how much I love and want her.Most woman would think a man that desired only her and wanted her as much as the day I first laid her down the first time. She is all I want she says we shouldn't be together because I bug her for sex. BUG HER!!! THIS HURTS AND LEAVES ME FEELING LIKE SOMETHING SHE WISHED SHE HAD NOT STEPPED IN. I can get her to do anything with me and she won't talk to me about anything she is content to just go on like this. I should be the happiest guy in the world. But she won't have non if that. I just keep trying and hoping it will get better.. it has to right? It can't stay this way. She is the most amazing lady if she ever remembered what it was to be in love with me. She don't even seem to like me alot of days. Ok thanks for listening to me crying about my sad little life. I hope you guys are having a lot of fun on here and maybe even find someone to share your time and bed with. Good luck from Anthony in San Fransisco .

She sounds ugly to me and I will refrain from saying what I think about you other than get a drop of self respect.

Anthony, let her go. or leave her. Your situation is very unhealthy. It is obvious that she doesn't even like you. Why continue punishing yourself? Doubtful that your situation would get any better. So get out now while you still have some self-respect. You still do, right?

(1.) So, why are you on a dating site if you guys are still married?

(2.) Surely this wasn't something that happened all of a sudden. you MUST have seen this while you were dating.

(3.) Have you guys considered counseling?

(4.) Re: "bugging her for sex".....are you affectionate at other times, do you show interest and care and concern to her other than when you want a roll in the hay?

Why has she stayed with you if she says she dislikes you so much, maybe you should suggest to her that you both go and see a marriage/relationship counsellor, they may provide some help for you both.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I guess it sucks to be you Tony.

Seems to me you both made choices which were not made wisely and now, you both regret it.

You have to realize you can't MAKE someone love you.

Its probably not a good idea to seek guidance from people using dating sites. As suggested, seek actual counseling.

Perhaps YOU have changed so much from the person you were that she is no longer attracted to you or your personality. Its not always the other person's fault the spark goes away.

If the relationship is so important to you, you can try making some personal changes but you should realize the damage may already be done.
Try talking with her, honestly and listen twice as much as you talk.

Physical intimacy needs a physical attraction but also needs a personality attraction. Clean up and lighten up.

If everything you can try is fruitless, end the relationship (marriage), THEN and only then, start dating again.

There are many variables to any situation. If children are involved even more. Maybe you need to allow whatever she's going thru to run its course. Ya know, if you love someone set them free. Back off and let her come to you.

Entering and having a relationship based on sex is fine for a little while but not a good foundation. There has to be something more for it to stand the test of time.

Allow her to be her. Don't punish her for loving you. Look in the mirror.

If a gal is turned off by sex there is not much you can do about it,
it is a self-awareness kind of thing, resting solely on her shoulders.

So, do you love her enough to hang in..hoping?
Or is the sex now such a big thing that neither of you can get past it?

Love can be stronger than sex.
Have you ever tried leaving her 'alone' until SHE comes to you?
Might be worth a shot, no matter how long it takes, with the
pressure off, perhaps changes can take place.

Sounds like something written while drunk, or in a creative writing class.

Humm have to agree with this.. I get the idea that you went into this relationship knowing she had issues being with any man it seems..

Instead of always asking for sex ask for cuddle time and no more just the connection would make her feel safe..

To me, it sounds like she had been abused. And the fact you have been with her this long and have not realized that makes me wonder???

Antony I don't think she love you

god that sounds really bad...omg...i had trouble letting go twice...but holy cow...you could delete the thread or your profile and start over?

for pete's sake....grow a pair....

great questions and my sentiments exactly.