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Topic: Would you consider this a red flag?
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Tue 07/27/21 11:31 AM
I asked a simple question about something this lady mentioned in her profile and she starts yelling at me for asking it. My question is how would you folks handle something like this?

Kevin's photo
Tue 07/27/21 11:35 AM
No clue about the context of your post!

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Tue 07/27/21 11:38 AM
Opps, I forgot to mention that part. Here it is in short. She mentioned she lived near me in her profile and when I asked her if that was the case she went off on me.

Larsi666 😽's photo
Tue 07/27/21 11:46 AM
I suggest to move on. All these con artists don't like to be challenged about their location, age ... anything really

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Tue 07/27/21 11:46 AM
Well... she clearly stated where she's located and you go asking her if it's true. Basically means you're questioning her and her honesty. No one likes that. I certainly wouldn't either.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Tue 07/27/21 11:56 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž on Tue 07/27/21 11:57 AM


Well... she clearly stated where she's located and you go asking her if it's true. Basically means you're questioning her and her honesty. No one likes that. I certainly wouldn't either.



Well, if that's your attitude towards dating, good luck.
Bad English says enough, then there's no reason to start asking questions.
but I regularly get asked "Where do you live" while my profile states that. Such dumbo questions are annoying, and if someone questions my honesty -suggesting I'm a liar- it's even worse because I am honest.

So to answer the OP's question: men asking such questions are a red flag.

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Tue 07/27/21 12:03 PM
That's kind of tricky actually because when she sent me her phone number it came from another state, hence the reason I originally asked. In your opinion am I in the wrong for asking?

cleve's photo
Tue 07/27/21 12:30 PM

I asked a simple question about something this lady mentioned in her profile and she starts yelling at me for asking it. My question is how would you folks handle something like this?


IS THE AMOUNT OF ANGER JUSTIFIABLE FOR THE FOR THE SITUATION.????? I CAN NOT

ANSWER THAT I WAS NOT THERE.....ITS A JUDGMENT CALL ONLY YOU CAN MAKE....GOOD

LUCK......


SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Tue 07/27/21 12:32 PM

That's kind of tricky actually because when she sent me her phone number it came from another state, hence the reason I originally asked. In your opinion am I in the wrong for asking?

If there's a mismatch in information it would put me on guard too. Then I would ask for clarification as well. And if the answer wouldn't make sense I'd break contact.

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 07/27/21 12:58 PM

I asked a simple question about something this lady mentioned in her profile and she starts yelling at me for asking it. My question is how would you folks handle something like this?


Exactly how did you approach the subject?


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Tue 07/27/21 01:00 PM

I asked a simple question about something this lady mentioned in her profile and she starts yelling at me for asking it. My question is how would you folks handle something like this?


She's a scammer. Delete, block, report, and move on with your life.

Joseph's photo
Tue 07/27/21 01:00 PM
one asked me for nudes later to find out it was a man just like me
:sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob:
I really needed a gun
:joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy:

Mike6615's photo
Tue 07/27/21 01:14 PM

one asked me for nudes later to find out it was a man just like me
:sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob:
I really needed a gun
:joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy:


If you mean you need the gun to shoot him, the judge will say "You really need a long prison sentence, and I'm giving you one right now."

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Tue 07/27/21 01:27 PM
Edited by haro on Tue 07/27/21 01:28 PM
cleve: I wouldn't be lead to believe it was out of anger based on it being a simple question.



SparklingCrystal: That was first reaction as well and even followed it up by asking her why she was so upset at me for asking but haven't heard back. Needless to say it set off alarms for me to the point I had to start a thread and ask for advice in case I ever ran into another situation like this again down the road.


Dodo_David: I actually approached it calmly and inquired to her about it but haven't heard back since it incident. To be honest I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.


motowndowntown: Pending on what her reply is that's my thinking as well.


Joseph: Actually that's never happen to me but I have been propositioned while walking the trails where I live. OMG, now that was rather a bizarre experience to say the least.





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Tue 07/27/21 01:50 PM
You can't know where a person lives based on their phone number. People do move. I've lived in several different states with the same cell number.

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Tue 07/27/21 02:06 PM
i understand that but do you feel my question was out of line?

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Tue 07/27/21 02:12 PM
I don't think the question was out of line because, as I said, people do move. I think some may forget to change their location on dating sites.

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Tue 07/27/21 02:25 PM
Edited by haro on Tue 07/27/21 02:26 PM
Considering the way I presented it would that question offend you? I'm just trying to get a better feel on how to handle things of this nature in the future.


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Tue 07/27/21 02:43 PM
If someone didn't believe that I live in The United States, I may roll my eyes. I don't know what to tell people. People shouldn't get so angry.

moomin's photo
Tue 07/27/21 02:46 PM
I don’t personsally like to give out my
Location , but then I’m not looking to meet up with people . But I still wouldn’t give it out to someone even if I was unless I had some kind of good connection with them and had known them for a while etc

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