Been married 24 years Zero intimacy left in my marriage. 3 times in 2 years... Am I being unreasonable. ? Please I would like some insight.

Good luck.

It could be argued that you have fair grounds for a divorce , sexual starvation or abandonment of love and affection for the other party serves as just cause IMO.... I would cut the cake down the middle and look to start over.....

Life is short, get your life the way u want it , talk with her and if there is no discussion , like someone said below , cut your losses and get planning what u want in life

''SOUND'S LIKE NOT MUCH OF MEETING OF THE MINDS''....IT TAKES

TWO PEOPLE REALLY LISTENING TO EACH OTHER TO HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP OF THERE

DREAMS...MOST OF THE TIME WE HAVE TO TURN DOWN THE NOISE IN OUR OWN HEADS

JUST LONG ENOUGH TO HEAR WHAT THEY SAID AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND HOW THERE MIND

WORKS.......FOR MOST WOMEN INTIMACY IS A LOT MORE PERSONAL THEN IT IS FOR MOST

MEN...WITH GOOD THERAPY AND TIME IT IS POSSIBLE..P.S. A WOMAN ABOVE ALL NEEDS

SAFETY (HER FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS MUST BE IN GENTLE HANDS) ''SHE CAN NOT HAVE

PASSION WITHOUT SAFETY''....

You’re way beyond unreasonable. Can’t tell you why she’s just not that
into you, but you two should either figure it out, continue to live in a
sexless marriage, or move on.

You have left it a bit late, but it's time to take her on that second Honeymoon and rekindle the flame, she just needs a jump start, and it will see her back to normal maybe even better if it was a long cruise.

Been there, done that..She hates boats..

It takes two, and there are always two sides to the story. You need to sit down somewhere neutral and discuss your feelings and listen to each other, and above all else hear what you are each saying. I have to wonder why you are on a dating site? Does this mean you have given up on your relationship? If you still love your wife, analyse how you would feel if you found out that she had signed up to a dating app.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

She actually told me I should find a girlfriend after stating she was attracted physically to me and doesn't have any desire..Last ditch effort here.

Very well stated, Cleve.

Hi David

Intimacy is not limited to sex .. do you kiss , hold hands , cuddle , share vulnerable moments etc . If your relationship completely lacks intimacy why would either of you tolerate that for so long ? How have you contributed to that dysfunction? Why do you remain married ?

lWhy would she tell you to find a girlfriend ? Sounds like that is most likely a defensive response, one which may drive you both further apart .

Time for a reality check .. Lack of sex is not the biggest problem you are facing.

I think if she is physically attracted to you but has no desire , it maybe time to give her the female version of Viagra... which I believe is called ... diamond something something!!!!

I think you mean 'Spanish Fly', and it say's on the internet -

"According to its manufacturers, Spanish Gold Fly is a "100 per cent natural and herbal" female aphrodisiac, which leads to "a volcanic eruption of ultimate passion and a feeling of intense sexual desire and lust"

He will need to strap in with that stuff!!

that possibility certainly exists ... Spanish Fly ... hmmmmm!!!
there you go... it should take care of the problem.... let us know now you hear !

Are you suggesting I Bill Cosby her?.. lol

Ty

Maybe try romance, remember what she liked when you both were excited to see each other, for most women sex is more about fore play and the fun romantic things that lead to sex, get out of the rut of work and boring daily stuff, ... what got her excited years ago? That lead to sex, don't focus on just the sex part, ... women use sex to get love, men use love to get sex

DO IT!!

Perhaps it has something to do with menopause. It sounds like she loves you enough to even allow you to find a girlfriend who can meet you in an area that she cannot. I would surely arrange for a medical appointment for her and perhaps counselling if you are unable to discuss such a sensitive topic, because for both of you, there are underlying emotions and feelings of rejection and inadequacy. Fight for your marriage until the bitter end. Divorce is not the solution here. Never forget the commitment you made to eachother. I wish you the best.