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Topic: How to identify a serious woman
Christopher's photo
Sat 08/21/21 05:52 PM
Hi I'm new to this site
I'm a single man seeking for a serious woman and I'm having a hard time to know a serious and sincere woman
they might sound serious at first but later change

no photo
Sun 08/22/21 01:08 AM
I ran into this problem myself and what I've learned is that you just have to talk to them.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sun 08/22/21 01:54 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Sun 08/22/21 01:57 AM
What do you mean by 'serious'?
Serious in character or seriously looking for a relationship & love?
If the latter, most women want that but cannot find a man for that.

As for the rest... we don't know who you approach, how you do that, how you communicate, nor if you take the initiative or wait. So we cannot really tell why it isn't working without that info.

One thing I can say is, have some depth and don't just go for looks and a very young thing, don't be sex focused, have something to talk about -for which you need to have something going in life.
In other words, be the love & relationship focused guy.
And if conversation is difficult for you, think about good things to say or ask or talk about upfront. Write them down even.
Read her profile, there might be things in there to ask about. And if the profile is crap wonder if you really should try to talk to her.

You don't even have a profile yourself?! And then you whinge???
How serious are YOU? Sort out your own profile first.

Kevin's photo
Sun 08/22/21 02:06 AM
As @SparklingCrystal said, please sort out your profile first. And I feel, you seeking #IntimateEncounter doesn't go well with wot you are saying here. You have justjoined this site, so take it easy, you'll find your mate!
Happy mingling

delightfulillusion's photo
Sun 08/22/21 02:08 AM
If they’re not smiling in any of their photos then I think it’s fair to say they are serious :smile:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sun 08/22/21 02:31 AM

If they’re not smiling in any of their photos then I think it’s fair to say they are serious :smile:

laugh

no photo
Sun 08/22/21 03:38 AM
If they’re not smiling in any of their photos then I think it’s fair to say they are serious :smile:

lol:smile:

cleve's photo
Sun 08/22/21 03:43 AM

What do you mean by 'serious'?
Serious in character or seriously looking for a relationship & love?
If the latter, most women want that but cannot find a man for that.

As for the rest... we don't know who you approach, how you do that, how you communicate, nor if you take the initiative or wait. So we cannot really tell why it isn't working without that info.

One thing I can say is, have some depth and don't just go for looks and a very young thing, don't be sex focused, have something to talk about -for which you need to have something going in life.
In other words, be the love & relationship focused guy.
And if conversation is difficult for you, think about good things to say or ask or talk about upfront. Write them down even.
Read her profile, there might be things in there to ask about. And if the profile is crap wonder if you really should try to talk to her.

You don't even have a profile yourself?! And then you whinge???
How serious are YOU? Sort out your own profile first.



AMEN ! GREAT ADVICE....

soufiehere's photo
Sun 08/22/21 06:16 AM

If they’re not smiling in any of their photos then I think it’s fair to say they are serious :smile:
Then look for the little infra-red light on your body.

no photo
Sun 08/22/21 06:27 AM
Happy hunting.

In the 11 years that I've been online, I found out many things.

1. Women won't message you, first. I've had about 6 actually do that. Two actually did send me messages that were longer than 25 words. But after that, they won't send you another, on their own. You must send anything after that, and never expect replies. In both cases, their replies got shorter, and shorter.

2. IF you actually can get them to a meetup, don't expect to see the woman in the photo. Three that did, I couldn't recognize them from their posted photos. In an odd twist, they did recognize me. So that did save the meet.

3. In all of the meets I did, I found out if they couldn't string together any sort of long message, then you won't get more than two sentences spoken to you during the entire meetup. And make sure you brought your crowbar for prying out any sort of talk from them. (Suggestion- practice talking to manikins. A great help if you like talking to yourself)

4. Working hard on your profile will net you nothing. I changed mine dozens of times. I changed photos, took new ones, its all wasted effort. Dropping your old profile in less than a month, then renewing under a new name only works one or two times.

5. If in a years time, you've gotten nowhere, you won't-ever. Pick dating sites with forums. That gets to be somewhat entertaining. If you're lucky, you might get a few of the regulars on forums to acknowledge you. Keep in mind, even a forum is cliquish. You MIGHT get let in, or not. I stay on this one only because I can toss the occasional turd in a conversation. This isn't, or will ever get nearly as interesting as the POF or the DateHookup forums were.

If you get choosy, you'll get nothing. That's the way it works.

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 08/22/21 06:37 AM
I took a "serious" woman to a comedy club once.

She didn't get any of it.

And I didn't get her.

delightfulillusion's photo
Sun 08/22/21 06:43 AM

Then look for the little infa-red light on your body.


Mine is broken. What’s a girl to do? sad2

Kevin's photo
Sun 08/22/21 06:57 AM

If they’re not smiling in any of their photos then I think it’s fair to say they are serious :smile:

rofl

Patricia's photo
Sun 08/22/21 11:00 AM
I am new here too and all i get are messages from guys "stationed overseas" why when youare looking for a long term serious relationship you get scammers or rude people??? I just want a decent guy to share.my life with

delightfulillusion's photo
Sun 08/22/21 11:03 AM

I am new here too and all i get are messages from guys "stationed overseas" why when youare looking for a long term serious relationship you get scammers or rude people??? I just want a decent guy to share.my life with


It would help greatly if you set your email filter to who can contact you. You can do that here https://mingle2.com/inbox/filters

Larsi666 😽's photo
Sun 08/22/21 11:05 AM

I am new here too and all i get are messages from guys "stationed overseas" why when youare looking for a long term serious relationship you get scammers or rude people??? I just want a decent guy to share.my life with


Don't take it personal, these con artists are everywhere. Important is, to block and report them, and to set filters in your profile settings/mail settings.

Slim gym 's photo
Sun 08/22/21 11:34 AM
why look for a serious woman .... life is supposed to be fun huh??

no photo
Sun 08/22/21 11:36 AM
Serious about what?

Richard 's photo
Tue 08/24/21 04:14 PM
you know she's serious, when her BB gun, is a semi auto 12 gauge with an extended tube. ;-).

Farhaad's photo
Fri 08/27/21 11:10 PM
in start they will talk to u, when they know about your financial conditions, they will run away

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