I have been with the same woman for 10 years, I have been 100% loyal and have never had any desire to be with anyone but her. I loved her more and more as time went on and never felt anything different. Just recently she lays on me that she doesn’t feel any desire to show me any sort of love or affection anymore and hates when I do nice things for her. I just want someone who appreciates being treated well, who enjoys the little things, who likes romance and being cute together. Does that person exist?!?!

Well, however difficult it may be to hear, love can just fade away.
And it never comes out of the blue. Someone doesn't stop loving you from one day to the next. Meaning the one who didn't see it coming didn't pay attention to how the other was feeling and reacting.
You should never take a relationship for granted, as a kind of status quo. Relationships are living entities.

As for appreciating the partner being loving and giving... Has it dawned on you that you can smother someone to death?
My ex husband did whatever to please me and boy does that wear thin! I couldn't even say, "Gosh, I'm hungry!" or he was in the kitchen making me some food.
That attitude began to annoy me, then irritate me, more and more and made me lose respect and with that my love for him.
People want a partner, an equal, not a servant, not a pleaser either.
You know the saying "if it's Christmas every day it isn't Christmas anymore"?
Doing something great and romantic regularly is cool. Doing it very often isn't.

I 'm no One to give you Tips on this Issue . There are Experts here who can Guide you well. In the meantime I'll just say ,Don't loose Hopes. Keep Going on. All will be Well Once again .

All I would say to you John is that we are all different, what one person likes another doesn’t. None of us here can really give you advice about your relationship because we don’t know you or your partner, only you two know what goes on behind closed doors, and there are two sides to every relationship story.

Yes it is possible for love to fade and to grow out of love, but I’m sure there is someone out there who is looking for exactly what you are offering, just don’t lose faith. Good luck

Sounds like the relationship has run its course, and that's okay. No sense sticking around when one of you is unhappy in the relationship. Although, we all know it hurts when someone stops loving us. I would say work on you right now...go on a self-improvement binge. Build back your confidence. Don't jump into another relationship just because you don't want to be alone. Become the best version of you, so that you are ready when the right one comes along. All the best to you!

THERE ARE DIFFERENT LOVE LANGUAGES, THE WAY WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE

IN

WORDS AND BEHAVIOR.....ITS SOUNDS LIKE YOU GUY'S NEED TO BE LOVED

DIFFERENTLY TO FEEL LOVED....PEOPLE GROW APART WHEN THEY DO NOT

GET THE LOVE THE WAY THEY NEED IT.....MY X IT WAS IN THINGS

SHE DID FOR ME...WHICH WAS NEVER ENOUGH BECAUSE I

NEEDED AFFECTION AND WORDS OF AFFIRMATION...THE BOOK ''THE FIVE

LOVE LANGUAGES'' EXPLAINS IT.....GOOD LUCK..

That's a good book.

IT IS A GREAT BOOK....IT SHOWS SOME OF THE WAYS MEN AND WOMEN ARE

NOT AWARE OF HOW REALLY DIFFERENT WE ARE....A PERSON GROWS UP AND

''GETS ALL THE ANSWERS'' FROM THE FAMILY THEY GREW UP IN.....THE

BIGGEST PROBLEM WE HAVE SEEN IS THE DESTRUCTION OF THE TWO PARENT

FAMILY....HEALTHY EXAMPLES OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE NEEDED FOR OUR

CHILDREN.....MY GRAND FATHER NEW MY GRAND MOTHER WAS DIFFERENT AND

SHE NEW HE WAS ALSO. THEY WORKED TOGETHER TO MAKE THERE LIVES

BETTER......

sorry to that but in this gen love starts from message and end on the bed so i think that if someone care about u so much and you ignore it then " in my opinion you are a blind person " if i say something wrong so forgive me ; it is my opinion

SEE WHAT I MEAN LADIES......

Does that person exist? Yes, me .

We obviously actively love someone the best way we know how -but that is not necessarily how another wants to be loved. It may not mean she does not like or appreciate the fact that you do things, but perhaps she would be happier if you did things differently.
She may be at the point of not wanting to be with you at all for whatever reason -otherwise, if you can communicate and see what she does not like, maybe you can learn to do things differently -or not do some things.

This is kind of a weird example, but I am extremely religious (biblical).
One might think that I would like any sort of music by those of similar belief, but most religious music makes me cringe. I would much prefer heavy metal with lyrics that simply speak the truth to most religious music. It just sounds way too sappy for me.
The same goes for songs you love -but you've heard too many times.

Guys are pretty thick -and not mind-readers, either. Women hate to have to tell us what they want or are thinking -but they often do have to do just that -at least the main points. If you can get the main points, then you can get creative with bringing new "music" into the relationship -or backing things down a notch if they are overwhelmed by your efforts.

( religious music I do like.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36Y_ztEW1NE )

I love music like that as well. Especially when inside a huge cathedral.

A friend once told me that his wife spent her life changing him, and when they were getting divorced she said to him that he wasn't the man she married. True.

Sorry to hear your marriage didn't work out, it does happen to a lot of us, and I hope you find the right one for you soon, good luck in your search.

lol

loving some one is priceless

Its better she was honest enough to tell you. Rather than you finding out you've been played. Sometimes communication is the best thing to understand each others needs

I can understand your emotions John..not to worry.. it's time now to take care of yourself well.. don't immediately trust someone or try to get along with any as you might not have been healed now n there are chances you might get hurt very badly if the other person fails to understand you..take your time, try to get self happiness, travel or execute your hobbies, some mild workouts can also relieve stress, spend a lot of time for yourself.. you will feel some peace within you soon. it also gives clarity on what's next in career or life or friends.. take care..blessings n prayers for you..

Welcome to M2... Start anew, have a good life...
All the best

It's certainly more than just you.

Same here but with a 13 year old child in between and my very nasty diagnosis.

Let's blame Netflix and somehow move on, I still don't know how either.

Bottom line is, emotional parasites are selfish in their very nature, just like that scorpion from fairy tale about a creek.

She will find someone she can ignore, finding someone who isn't is a much harder task.

Look at it this way; you always have a choice.

I would move somewhere else asap, personally I can't so I threw 90% of the apartment's stuff out.

There is no point in lingering to memories that were fake.

Love does not run it's course, primitive human need to be more important than they are does. You are a victim, not a part of "life's consequence".

No magic sauce there, your pain has to run it's course.
It will. It's also so hard to be wronged by doing nothing.

I won't share any toxic positivity now, time for grief is in front of you, sooner or later. Projecting this hurt to those around you is currently your biggest challenge, especially if you decide to hide behind work or a hobby.

Own it instead for the sake of who ever comes next to your life.
Yet I know, none of this means anything to you right now.

It maybe will in a year's time if you ever come back to read it and I wish you eventually will.

It's "one second at the time" mode for you now, it will turn into minutes and than hours...