IMO It appears this kinda relationship will work out quite well, if both parties have been seriously hurt , in all ways , including abuse , multiple times . so the experience is there and it's real ...
So why take the risk of going thru all that again !!
From a man's point of view ... why would he want to lose half his stuff again ... Women also have their own point of view , but There , I am clueless !
The point being , if you are happy living this way ... just enjoy and do it !!!!

@ Slim

Many Men these days married has less material wealth than their wife here in USA.
So if she's going for money she should definitely choose a Man who has wealth or very High pay employment.

Appox.Maybe before 1970 Many Women stayed home as homemakers and totally dependent fiancially on Men.

I think its a good idea, both will have their own space.

Men have such blinders on when it comes to such matters.
How does a woman not lose half her stuff, but the man does?
I have never lived with a man who had proper stuff. I was the one who basically owned everything that was decent & good, from furniture to towels, pans, curtains etc. etc.
Yes, when I moved out his house was bare, but that was because he didn't have Jack chit when I move in but threadbare towels, settee that his dog dug a huge hole in etc.
I just took what was mine. All things that I myself bought after my divorce with my own money so this 2nd partner had no right whatsoever to any of it.
I took nothing that was his, wouldn't have wanted it either.

With my husband -which is longer ago- we divided things when we split up. So I lost half just the same.

Men always think they're the ones that get done over, but it's the same for the woman.
Men usually also think they're the only ones that got hurt. Women got hurt just the same, sometimes worse.
So typical men feel the need to make out that they're worse off and women gain by breaking up.

@crystal !!!
Perhaps you were that exception .... come to think of it ... pretty sure you were !!!
My point was we all lose something in the break up of our relationships , so why the risk of doing that again !!
Hence , the living together apart relationship, could be considered the ideal kinda one for people with that mindset . It has nothing to do with man versus woman .....

In a way, yes, but then you got two damaged people in a relationship which thus can never be whole. It could be enough if both aren't willing to work on healing etc.
I mentioned all that in my post on pg 1, and the thing is that if you want a truly healthy fulfilling relationship you have to be willing to risk getting hurt again.
If you don't you keep most of your heart closed, protected and shielded.
That does keep you from getting hurt up to a point (not entirely!) but... it also keeps you from being able to feel love and to receive love.

Love is simply a thing that requires an open heart and with that the willingness to risk get hurt.
It's the only way to experience love.
Everything is just a shallow thing, not a full on love relationship.

That's not to say LAT relationships can't be that. But then it'd be between 2 healthy people with open hearts that for another reason wish to not move in together.
And financial reasons are also based on fear of losing & lack, so these don't count in that sense.

An okay reason could be that one for instance needed a house with garden in a village or small town to feel fulfilled and at piece, the other hates that, wants to live in an apartment in a city.
That's totally not related to any fear of lack, losing, etc. that would have the heart mostly closed.

Sadly, with the current divorce rate in the UK at 50%, maybe this is why some people are choosing the 'Living apart Together' option. Is marriage today becoming less life long than it was a few generations ago. Should their marriage fail, division of assets is simple and no one need to move out. If they already live separately before they marry, it would just mean they continue to do so after they marry. There are clearly multiple reasons why some would choose the LAT option after marriage.

I don't see what is wrong with a couple living separately. I don't want a lot of stuff. I like my little house. I have to be on one floor with not many steps to get inside. I don't think many men would like my house.

There are also a lot of benefits to moving in together which I don't think anyone has mentioned...

The joy of seeing each other every day, cooking & dining together, sleeping & waking together, having someone to talk to, to laugh with, to watch movies with, do fun stuff together, the intimacy of course. Not just sex but also daily hugs and cuddles and kisses, fleeting touches maybe.
Someone there to talk to if something is up, to help you out with XYZ...

You're really together in every sense of the word. You can furnish the one place together with things you both love and enjoy.
In that sense it offers so much more emotionally & psychologically etc.

When LAT-ing you miss out on all that good stuff, you only have it occasionally...

And then there are the financial benefits: only 1 rent/mortgage instead of 2 meaning you save a helluva lot of money each month that you can then spend on the great things in life.
Insurances for only one house too... maybe it's possible to only have one car...

At my age and disposition , I would absolutely love all those benefits you described .... occasionally.... so LATing is gonna have to be my poison of choice ....
Thanks Crystal for the input on this topic .... !!!!

Crystal is needy and controlling at the same time. Slim gym and Crystal should be together.

I like those 'Tiny Houses', very economical in many ways, very cosy. Does anyone know if there is a maximum distance apart, when Living apart together?

Ha ha .... you are very funny Cat ..... but this is not the 'Matchmaker ' thread.... but I hear you !!!!

Tiny homes are nice but they are expensive here in USA.
Housing market keeps rising because of the government.

I own a large home.

I always live apart if not married.

Tiny homes are becoming popular in my area ... 500sq feet of space ... very compact , but good enough for one person and an occasional guest ... Problem is it's expensive to build a community of Tiny homes ....and so far there is no Group of developers doing the needful ... So seasonal trailer parks are putting aside large lots , for people to put a Tiny home on ....and charging ridiculous amounts. as yearly maintenance fees ...and it still will be designated as a Mobile home ...

What a peculiar thing to say. Certainly odd coming from a recluse and socially very awkward woman. I don't think you're in the right place to make any sound judgements, nor is it your place.
You don't even know me.

Many of the tiny houses I've seen are even smaller than a mobile home.
Mobile homes, or permanent caravans as they're called over here, tend to have 2 bedrooms and reasonable living space, some even have a larger bathroom.
The tiny homes don't have any of that.
I'd go nuts in one of 'em. I don't need a huge house, but a tiny home is too extreme.

I agree with the "it's not for me part" - for different reasons. I think nothing is being built and I don't see how things can grow, and if it does, it is very slow.

This might be off topic a bit, but using your rationale for why it wouldn't work - does this mean you'd be against a prenup?

There is such a thing as small houses (not tiny houses) that you can buy or rent. You have to search for it. You can live alone if you want.

I'm seeing this topic as, a couple has to get married and live together. The other side is two people are dating each other and both happy with how things are... then what?