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Topic: is this cheating?
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Wed 01/09/08 09:29 PM
worse than cheating, two faced lying, betraying scum.

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Wed 01/09/08 09:32 PM

It's amazing that everyone is telling you it is cheating yet you don't listen to any of us....Why Ask then?....

She doesn't really sound like his gf....more like his f#ck friend twice a month....Either way, everyone involved sounds like losers to me....you all deserve each other....drinker


It's not about me not listening to anyone. I am listening. I'm not making excuses, I'm just explaining the situation. If we were talking about sex and proclaiming our love for each other online, I'd say yes, it's cheating, but that's not the case. It's just casual conversation. It will never go anywhere. I call her his gf because he calls her his gf, yeah she sounds more like a eff buddy to me, too, but it's his label for her not mine. As for your little insult, calling me a loser? That's real mature. I hope I can toss out little barbs like that when I'm you're age.

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Wed 01/09/08 09:34 PM

if you so much as have a dirty thought about another, you are commiting adultery


Hmmm, now I'm checking to see if I mentioned someone having dirty thoughts...nope, was never mentioned. :tongue:

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Wed 01/09/08 09:38 PM
well yeah, i believe that anything that you have to hide from your partner should be considered cheating.

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Wed 01/09/08 09:38 PM
Anyway people, I just posted this to see what other people's thoughts were on the subject, because I like to get different perspectives. For those who say it's cheating, you're entitled to your opinion. I don't agree that it is, but it's a free country so you can think what you want. For those who resorted to name-calling and assuming we exchanged words of love and devotion and all that crap, all I can say to you is re-read the post. Me and this guy are just chat friends. That's all. There's an age difference, a race difference, he has a gf, and a kid, lots of other reasons we would never, ever consider being anything other than online friends. So yeah, thanks for the input. I won't be on this particular thread anymore, my research is done. Thanks to all who participated, and poo on those of you who are narrow-minded.flowerforyou

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Wed 01/09/08 09:43 PM
Men "cheat" daily, several times over in our minds. Im pretty sure women do it too.

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Wed 01/09/08 09:44 PM
cheating can be anything you do knowing your partner wouldn't aprove. if you cannot tell them, it's cheating

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Thu 01/10/08 12:07 AM
It's funny how in your Original Post you say this guy met this girl online & now we find out that you are the online girl....I guess you are good at the art of deception....and no you didn't listen to anyone that said it was cheating, choosing instead to stick with your rationalizations while spending hours talking to another girl's boyfriend....So if my comment about 'losers' include you, well the description fits and then some....I wonder if you emailed or called the gf to let her know you've been talking with her bf for hours on end how she would respond....because that is who you should be addressing, not us....frown


Okay, here's the scenario- this guy has a gf, who never has time for him, so he met this girl online and they spend hours and hours together, talking about nothing. Every so often they engage in cam 2 cam "activity". Some would say this is emotional cheating and therefore wrong, however, they have never met and more than likely never will. Also, allegedly, emotional cheating is worse than the physical act, because of the feelings involved. My questions are these: do you think what these two do is wrong, and is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating?

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Thu 01/10/08 12:15 AM

Men "cheat" daily, several times over in our minds. Im pretty sure women do it too.
we do, honesty is the best policy after all:tongue:

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Thu 01/10/08 12:17 AM
And one more thing....How do you know he is not lying about the gf or anything else he might tell you?....grumble noway

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Thu 01/10/08 07:59 AM
cheating is cheating..theres no loopholes or anything like that.

MyrtleBeachDude's photo
Thu 01/10/08 11:09 AM
I say go for it. People on here certainly won't persuade you either way.

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Thu 01/10/08 12:02 PM

Anyway people, I just posted this to see what other people's thoughts were on the subject, because I like to get different perspectives. For those who say it's cheating, you're entitled to your opinion. I don't agree that it is, but it's a free country so you can think what you want. For those who resorted to name-calling and assuming we exchanged words of love and devotion and all that crap, all I can say to you is re-read the post. Me and this guy are just chat friends. That's all. There's an age difference, a race difference, he has a gf, and a kid, lots of other reasons we would never, ever consider being anything other than online friends. So yeah, thanks for the input. I won't be on this particular thread anymore, my research is done. Thanks to all who participated, and poo on those of you who are narrow-minded.flowerforyou


If he has a child he should be using his secret chat time to spend more time with him. JMO Best of luck to you though. It is your life and you have the right to choose as you see fit.

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Thu 01/10/08 12:10 PM
Yuppers it's definitely cheating. Even most men feel anything intimate is cheating.

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Thu 01/10/08 12:12 PM
hell yes this is cheating in every since of the word

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