in a relationship? What is it you are willing to give up for someone and what would you want them to give up in return? What if they refuse to compromise? What would you do?

I don't think that you should be expected to give up anything, if you care for someone you will want to do whats right by them.

Unwillingness to compromise is a dealbreaker.

The Car and the Dog Stay, The Rest we Can Talk

If you give up something...then you give up yourself...

Compromise is a must..but there is a differece between compromise and giving up something.

If there's no compromise on their part whatsoever, you have to ask yourself: Do I want to be this person's slave?

If the answer is yes, then you should ask yourself: How much will therapy cost?

I dont want any kids (of my own).I can compromise on everything else

I look for a guy that will pay my way on the first date, who has a car, and who if we decide to date, will split the check or alternate paying. Also, someone who doesn't constantly text msg or talk to other women on the phone when we're out together would be a big plus, and preferably someone who is single, divorced, and has no drama with baby's mamas, etc.

Yes I agree With Lilith, No compromise no deal.

No pocket Mirrors?

What she said and wouldn't give up anything but would freely give my heart and soul for them

nope

Why should I have to give up something? I don't think anyone should. Unless it's bad for your health.

I'll take the heart and the soul and whatever else comes with it.

I would never ask someone to "give up" anything for me, and I would hope if they loved me they would not ask me to give up something for them. I do think each person must compromise though.

ditto Valerie7. There's some good ideas here. I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I'm looking for myself. I think the first thing I look for is the ability to make a connection, then I take things from there.

I'm looking for someone who's style of worship and belief matches mine, who's understanding and reasonable and I try to match the same in return. That's the start and the rest goes from there.

I think I'd be willing to compromise with someone. I'd be willing to go dancing and I don't dance.

My problems right now are finances and transportation. I wouldn't be able to go a lot of places or do a lot of fancy stuff to begin with and I'm spooked about taking my car a bunch of places so I'm trying to find people close by and people who'll visit me in my town and'd like me to visit them. Preferably, we could exchange some home visits. I like people coming to hang around with me, talk and walk and have a coke or two.

Probably someone matching my conservative views'd be preferable, too, though not an absolute dealbreaker, you know.

It's a good question and one I think about a lot!

It's an important question and I'll tell you a couple of related things, too.

I believe that the closer the partners' style physically, financially and etc. the better the relationship and the marriage will be. You have to come to mutual understandings and the more stuff you have to work out, the more your expectations clash, the more problems.

Romance is nice to have in a marriage, but if you have unexpressed expectations going into the marriage, it leads to trouble.

Just my two cents worth from someone who's been there and done that and gone into things where there were clashes. I've told myself that next time, I'll work things out better before I get so heavily involved and thought I'd give you a heads up so you can avoid the pitfalls! Good luck.

I'd advise you to depend on the Lord for help, too, and see what your family and friends think of your potential match. If your family and friends don't like your match, that can be a red flag, concessions or not.

NOW I remember what the second thing I wanted to say was:

If you go into a marriage thinking you're going to "change" something about somebody, it probably won't work, not unless the marriage is bibically based with a lot of mutual respect. Then, it MIGHT be possible. If you submit yourselves to each other and to the Lord and you don't withhold yourselves from each other without mutual agreement, it could work. If not, it probably won't.

Damn valorie, myself I always pay when I go out on a date, it would feel weird if I didn't. I never talk on a phone when on a date, that is rude, and I am single with no drama, just me, lol!

my way or the highway. If a woman cannot be completely submissive, then I want nothing to do with her

I don't talk on a cell phone during a date. I could understand someone I'm with doing a quick text or two or a quick (under a min) call or two but more than that is offensive and excessive and'd probably result in no follow up dates. Heck, at least go to the restroom if you're gonna do an extended conversation.

I don't mind the split the check thing. I'm not really going to go anyplace expensive to start with anyway. I don't have a bunch of money, but I'm decent company and can make someone laugh and smile a little bit and hopefully, that'd be good enough.

& a walk in the park and a smooch in the dark can make the world go round.