when you get a message that says "hey pretty" IT IS A SCAMMER
you can easily verify if the person in the pic is the person you are hearing from. have the person post a pic of them self holding a piece of paper with some word you give them, like APPLE
if they cant do that, move on as it is a scammer
but if you get the message saying HI PRETTY
that is common scammer language

Even worse, getting a message that only says "Hey".

Its simply a case of your expecting too much from so many with so little. lower your standards and then realize its not possible to reach the bottom as men continue to lower the bar....

So yeah, my girlfriend of two years left me three months ago to go back to her ex-husband. They have two kids together and are separated for nine years! I have two kids also but I'm divorced. Here is my situation that I need help with. For two years when we were together I was on cloud nine, both of us. It was great I would sleep over her house four, five, six nights a week. Love was in our hearts and happiness was through the roof. Her kids and my kids got along great, My family loved her, her Family loved me. So I go on a business trip for four days and I come back and she tells me her and her ex have been talking and they're going to try to reconcile for the benefit of the kids, they deserve to see and have the family/ parents together. Her kids are 9 & 11. I said are you kidding me? Your ex-husband physically abused you when you were married to him, wasn't there in the hospital when you gave birth to either one of your kids because he was out doing drugs. He was a big drug head, cost your family $40,000 because he told the town you had an illegal basement apartment after you left him. And your family got hit with a 40k fine. How in the world can you give this guy another chance? Oh and they did try to reconcile one time within the nine years and guess what happened… he beat her then also.... so somebody tell me what in the world is going on? Because I still have strong feelings for her, let's be honest I still love her… I tried to go and speak to her so I could hear it straight from her mouth rather than over text and she she was crying to me and hugging me and saying she sorry but she thinks it's the right decision for her children. I don't understand it hence the reason why I'm divorced and not separated. There is a heck of a lot more to the story but it's been three months since we haven't been together and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and miss her. I'm respecting her and not contacting her since but it kills me every day.
Sorry for venting

..ok.. I'm making this topic because of something I read in another topic..
A very well-respected female member made a comment.. .. stating how she likes her man to be strong.. emotionally...

Ok... which got me thinking.. and you know this !because you can see the smoke Rising out of my ears .lmao..

.. how sensitive or open with his or her feelings do you like your partner to be?... can a guy be too emotionally touchy-feely... I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve.. which can come across as being emotionally weak.. but I don't perceive myself as weak.. I just can't help myself from explaining how I feel to my partner... and yes !. I know that can be perceived as a sign of weakness.... sometimes I have to stop myself and say ..okay! stop talking.. she's going to think you have a vagina instead of a set of balls..lol.. okay I don't hunt or fish I'm not very mechanically inclined and I do like to shop!.((.omg. ))..I do have a vagina..lol..... but seriously!! if a guy or girl is a little too emotionally sensitive.. do you automatically perceive it as weakness.?.. or do you think it's nice that they can share there feelings.. and are willing to open themselves up to you on an emotional level...

Or is it better we just tell you to make us a sandwich bring us a beer and then slap your *** and watch you walk away... well. In the meanwhile dying inside ourselves just a little bit!. because we can't tell you.. that we feel a little emotionally shaky... because our boss is breathing down are neck at work.. and on the way home we saw baby raccoon Roadkill... and yes !while watching Fried Green Tomatoes we quietly secretly choked.. back our tears...lol
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I consider myself a person that can share my feelings and I do get emotional at times because I'm human... but I also can be a very strong person....

So I'd like to find a partner to do the same....I think it is great when a man can feel comfortable enough to open himself up like that and show that soft side of himself.... and still show his strong side... My late husband held all of his emotions in when we first started dating and it made him seem cold.... we didn't date for too long because of that, but we stayed friends for a year before we started dating again because he learned how to open up and show his emotions to me........ so I would say yes show your emotions and your strength...

Sometimes I'm okay being told to go make that sandwich and being popped on the butt while you watch me walk away but I wouldn't want that all the time either....lol so I think most of us whether we are male or female just want a well rounded emotional person as a partner... It's not good for anyone to hold all of our feelings inside for to long...

Why do a lot of these lady's on here pretend to live on place but liver some where else its miss leading to the other person honesty is best

Is there such a difference in not like a politician or not liking political policies?


Many people who are very open in their complaints against government and laws and policies are quick to tell those who dont like a presidential choice that they should leave......

People I LOVE all have some things that they do or say that I do not 'like'

why do some not understand it is possible to not like some things about or some people in America without it meaning that you are somehow therefore not American enough to be here,, or should leave?


does anyone else see how silly this response is to the grievances of another ?

I'm 19 yo and I'm looking for the right man. Hopefully for marriage

Since I work on machines and repair them, I actually know where most of them go.

Socks can and do get pumped out of the washer with the exhaust water. And they can also slip around the edge of the dryer drum, and drop inside the dryer outer shell.

The way to prevent them from being "stolen" by your washer or dryer, is to buy one of those net bags, and put all socks in them before you run the wash.

Some few will still be taken by Borrowers, especially if you are in Britain, and some will show up in another dimension, confusing that alternate reality, but MOST of them will stay visible at least.

So if a guy says he wants to get to know you that means he's playing me? I don't know what you mean about communicating differently myself - I ask them questions based on their interests and am careful about what I say knowing that there are alot of scammers out there. So you mean I'm doing it wrong? I think this whole internet dating thing isn't for me.

Is being jealous healthy to a relationship?



No it isn't healthy.... and its a waste of time and energy....


Just look at it this way.... You can't lose something you never had anyway...... so don't waste time worrying about what they are doing or not doing....

Ya Know, I don't feel there is anything wrong with anyone's profiles. After all, I don't know them personally so I figure they include what they think is important to their task at hand.

When searching for someone to have a relationship with I think it is very important to include important lifestyle information. If fitness is one of them, go for it. If they think anything is important enough to mention in their profile, go for it.

Sometimes we feel we must state the obvious. I guess it all depends upon why they are here and what kind of match they are looking for.