I don't knw wat gals think of a military guy but its like we r nt living in society nymore. The nature of wrk we do is cant be described in words. It is something dat gals shud b proud of. Then wats da prblm here...?
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For me I tend to stay away because of all the times I did try to get to know military men on these dating sites... it ended up they were nothing but scammers... another one I stay away from are engineers... for the same reason....

Now I just try to make sure they do live near me so I can meet them and know they are who they say they are....

Good luck to you though....

IMHO, after the death of a spouse... because we all grieve differently... to wear your band until you are ready to 'move on' seems ok to me.
I have a beautiful 'engagement' ring, which, when I wear it now, I wear it on my right ring finger, as a dinner ring..
works for me.

Name a profession that would draw your attention and make you more attractive to him/her

That was my thought exactly.... thanks for posting it for me.... lol


I was told by a neighbor(male by the way).. most men my age these days are only looking for a nurse or a purse.... lol


...and then you have the other side of the coin:

In Korea...if you go to sleep with a fan on in the room, you will die.

Welcome back wolfman


When I think of serenity as an ongoing journey instead of a destination with a pressing deadline, I actually feel less pressured and more serene :)

In a way , it is the journey of becoming your own best friend and cheerleader.... which involves the role of encouraging yourself to explore ventures that you could be good at, and applauding yourself for the effort. And then there is the other part of friendship which is inspiring and motivating yourself to work on the the areas you are weak at, and applaud yourself for that too.

Thankfully on the days we are too overwhelmed by life to be our own best friend , that's where supportive family and other friends step in

Thank you my friend, it is nice to be home again after a hectic summer of fires here and US.

The thread appealed to me so thought it would be interesting to hear others view points.

There isn't much for me in a life of serenity. I would rather things have a bit more of a mix-up. If you cant step out of your comfort zone,then there isn't much room for growth......

trying to find serenity over 40 years....Where is it?

Sure I'd love to have a conversation..
What would you like to talk about..
Hang on wait a minute !..my doorbell just rang I'll be right back.....

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.. okay I'm back... so what were we talking about?..
Oh that's right a conversation..
Hang on a minute I've got to go put the coffee water on..
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... okay sorry about that now what were we talking about..?..
.. oh yeah some kind of conversation..
Well you pick a topic.. I can speak to anything..
Wait a minute I got to go turn the TV down it's way too loud...


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.... so I'm back now did you pick a conversation yet.?...

You know what hang on my phone is ringing.....lol

HUH???????

so far I've run into nothing but ******** on here or any free dating site, which isn't the sites fault at all. but one thing i found to expose someone who may be trying to scam you is this...

request that they do a VERY specific action in a picture that is not normal fare....and the metadata (save pic, check properties/details) on the pic should be in a time frame after the request was made. now this will only prove that they are in fact the person you are conversing with, and nothing more. but sometimes that may just be enough. then you can get a feel if they have an agenda other than connecting.

here is an example:
request that they write something you tell them to on a piece of paper and take a pic of themselves holding it up under their face. be creative! if they think you are joking and repeatedly dance around doing that, then chances are they are not legit.

Well personally I would talk to them at least once on the phone...
Last thing you want to do is show up and find out he has a voice like a little girl.. or she has a voice like a man..
Creepy..lol.. but outside of that meeting each other face-to-face is kind of the end result of being online..
It's the finish line.. the prize in the box of cereal.. the o in..orgasm..
If you catch my meaning.. lol

If I meet a girl that soon, and she wants to sniff my neckline cause she just loves the smell of a good man????? Yeah. I am so moving to another state.

I personally don't see anything wrong with you meeting someone face to face rather quickly. I would recommend doing at least a Skype, viber, what's app, or Facebook, something video so you know at least he is real. I used to have an iron clad rule.... video and I would screenshot a pic if that isn't who showed up I was so out of there.

Also I would want a phone number, I mean life happens what if either is going to be held Up?

I wouldn't recommend relying on the site for a message, shyt happens site could crash, message doesn't go through, a whole list of things could go wrong.


Well I read farther down a bit. So this one is scratched. On to the next one

Have fun be safe

Some minglers actually advised me to get a separate number for online dating, so in the worst case scenario , you can discard that number without it affecting your other cell interactions.

And I also agree with babykriss. Im a firm believer in video chat. Too many people use fake pics or old pics that do not properly reflect the current incarnation of themselves.

Plus I get a better sense of my chemistry with a person through reading their body language while listening to their voice, and they can do the same for me.

There was a guy I met on another site and our emailing chemistry was great , and by the time we video chatted, the chemistry was really awful . A date with him would have been disastrous in my opinion.

That being said , meeting him in a public place without calling him isn't crazy . You dont have much to lose I think. At most it might be a boring or awkward date, which you have the right to cut short if it suits you. No biggie. Good luck to you, hope it works out the way you want.
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Peggy you are so right about chemistry...that is why I like to meet in person to see if there is any kind of spark going on... There have been some I met and had one drink and couldn't wait to finish so I could leave.. but then there were others that it was a very nice experience and we are still friends.. it just wasn't a love conection...