Reason I say this is because I have met some women and its been a total disaster. One totally did not look like the pic she posted and the other ended up being pretty psycho. Other than bars whats a good place to meet single women?

Dating disasters can happen no matter how you meet someone. It isn't solely an online dating issue.

Get involved where you live with activities you enjoy. You'll meet people with the same interests that way.

I've been trying to figure this one out for years.

I don't drink, so I don't go to bars.

Dating sites haven't worked at all for me. I've met 9 people from dating sites, and they were all horrible experiences.

The only "luck" (and I use the term loosely) I ever had with meeting people was when I was introduced to someone by a friend. Since I moved to Indiana, and I don't have any friends anymore, that option has disappeared as well....

I think Mingle2 is a great place to meet
people for dating.

When you are exposed to more potential dates,
you will have more no-goes.
It's the odds.

I met a few horrid guys for lunch, I didn't
want to, as I did not know them well enough
to like them any. But they insisted, and it
went as I thought. So I stopped doing that.

Went for knowing someone better on the forums.
Worked just fine :-)

So I feel good recommending you involve
yourself in the forums, meet potentials,
sift, weed, and settle on the ones who
make you feel good.

Because, even if there is no chemistry,
you may make a genuine friend.

Volunteer with some local charities... there are *real* warm hearted, caring, kind and considerate people there.

food banks can use help sorting and/or delivering donations
animal rescue centers can always use help feeding/cleaning/exercising
groups get together to clean parks and along highways
soup kitchens can use help serving/cleaning

that's just a few



The *bonus* part is that you come away with the most fantastic smile, and that smile gets passed on to everyone you meet.

two thumbs up!

On line dating is...Place your cliche here...

Sure it is fraught with disaster dates, you have to weed through the creeps, stalkers, liars and pervs. Yet after you have "kissed a lot of toads" and "threw back all the fish in the sea", keep the faith and play the odds, on-line, real life, one day you will meet the "one".

me too have found many players here but i think they are in the wrong field they should be in the playing grounds. lols

me too have found many players here but i think they are in the wrong field they should be in the playing grounds. lols

Bin here 7 months now, when i started this online dating. I thought well how hard can it be? I'll just prop-up that decent photo and whalla, abracadabra, chassam and that beautiful hearted lady would appear and we'll meet and ride away into the sunset happily ever after.
I never knew it would have bin the hardest social experience I ever had! WOMEN ARE PICKY if you're the fisherman you better bring the perfect bait. I can't blame women these days after Mr right broke that heart, that bar expectancy goes sky high, plus the perverts,players add to the mistrust. For those who are genuine like myself,this only make it harder for those guys! we all want that perfect person and that's the foundation of happiness, weather financially,culturally or any ally.;-)

Keep the faith, you have no been here very long. Join in the discussions on the forums and you'll meet wonderful people. At the least you can make some outstanding friends. And don;t expect too much when you do "click" with someone. Let things happen naturally. Be open to the experience and it can happen. And fair warning-- It its too good to be true, It probably is. There are scammers on EVERY website-- although the moderators are pretty good at getting the ones from on here banned. So relax and just meet new people. You never know what tomorrow may bring.
Good luck my friend!!

Yes, online dating is hard. You're absolutely right. How about support groups? A dance class?

A month ago, i was new to a different dating site, and definitely serious in finding a real relationship on the net. I decided to meet up with this guy and trust me, I got the shock of my life, when I met up with a man totally different in person, than the picture that was on his profile. It would take time, to trust again. Lesson learned... video camera up please! lols

the upside of the internet is you can actually establish whether there is INTEREST in something beyond the physical alot quicker,,,

the downside is you dont always know if the physical will be how it is presented

its good to probably talk some over the phone, possibly exchange pics from known recent events or even webcam(Im hesitant to do so because of personal historical reasons),

but yeah, basically you have to TRUST a person when you meet them
online you have to trust that they look like their photo

in person you have to trust that they are who they are telling you they are...

online dating is not really all that hard...you just have to be willing to do what it takes to make it work,if your serious

I agree. Volunteering is how I have met some of my best friends. When people put themselves out there to do good for others, they tend to be amazing people.

It's not working out too well with me as well. Online dating sites, I don't use the proper words in the proper places (so I was told). Though I try my darnedest to spell correctly. I don't take the right pictures of myself. I cannot take photos of myself - period! When I do, they will be goofy photos.

In person I seem to have issues with the so called "swagger". My vocabulary stinks so I was told. Most likely I don't use the "F" word enough. Most people I have been around use the "F" word at least 3 times per sentence.

I was told my clothing choice is another problem, I don't dress right. I typically wear heavier shirts with jeans and boots. I've been told to wear clothes that are more in line with the latest style trends. I don't follow trends or latest fashion styles. I am me and will follow my own tastes. I don't wear dressier clothes as most seem to think my taste in the dressy attire is all wrong. I prefer dressier clothes to be more relaxed fit. I kinda like fabrics like silk and especially rayon.

The vehicles I drive are another problem. I've been told that I must get something larger in size that speaks volumes to "money" and "wealth". I'm a conservative, I drive an old rusty, but very good running front wheel drive car mostly for the winter months. I paid $250 for it 2.5 years ago. If something happens to it - big deal! Isn't no total lost to me. I also have a compact (rear wheel drive) pickup I financed at $7,200. It's very near pay-off. It's a stick shift (highly partial to manual transmissions) with a standard cab. It's all the truck I'll ever need to haul the stuff I need hauled. It gets great gas mileage too for a pickup, typically gets 28 mpg.

yes i agree its really hard to find someone who is real online

I don't know what to think of this yet.
I can tell by some peoples profiles they have no business dating anyone, and should probably seek help.
What is up with girls taking the half naked pics? Trying to attract the wrong kind of attention? Or Maybe thats their thing.
Do people ever write each other back and forth? Nobody has responded to me sense I have been on here. I will be patient. I hope I'm not wasting my time.
I know I'm not what most woman want, and thank God for that! I know a woman who wants the right things will recognize what is here and take my heart someday.
Until then I would consider any useful tips.. I do plan to add more pictures, when I can get some one to snap a couple.
I haven't found a good way to take a picture of myself. You always get that armpit shot, or you have to stand funny trying to hold that camera way out, and you can't see what you look like, so there is always some odd facial expression. Or the picture into the mirror idea. Flash. Nice ball of light with arms, or the no flash is better but still seems to make a bad picture.
I sure home I'm not the only one who has tried this stuff, I'd feel kind goofy. That is a normal feeling for me though.
Also I don't have a clue what to write in the about me section. I don't really talk about myself much. Is is better to say nothing, a little, or a bunch? What if you say something stupid, or something that is misunderstood?
I've been alone so long I don't even know what is what these days...
Thanks for the help!

Dating online can be complicated and even scarry. But then again so can real life dating. Just take your time post in the forums . . .their are alot of wonderful people here. Welcome To Mingle :)