Topic: Is it possible to love someone and still cheat on the person
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Thu 12/22/11 10:40 AM
For me personally…no but I believe that for some, it is possible.

There’s been enough research that supports a decline of sexual interest as a reason for infidelity. I have known both men and women that have cheated as a result of their partners disinterest or having a lower sex drive then themselves. I don’t condone cheating but I can understand why it can happen.

perpendicular's photo
Thu 12/22/11 11:35 AM
YUP, that's the reason why I cheatblushing

Okami04's photo
Thu 12/22/11 12:17 PM

when you are in love with someone, cheating isn't even an option


yea I don't know if I believe that, honestly you can do your thing and still love someone

and care for them.

But make sure you care of them enough to be smart about it and dont get caught lol

pyxxie13's photo
Thu 12/22/11 03:29 PM
Love and cheat do not belong in the same sentence! That is just wrong. noway

patsfan64's photo
Thu 12/22/11 03:37 PM

Love and cheat do not belong in the same sentence! That is just wrong. noway



Ummm...you just typed love AND cheat in the same sentence silly. :tongue:

Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 02:41 PM
cheating is just a bad label

like I said only cheating if you get caught

so love your partner enough to not get caught having fun on the side and it is all good.

Especialy if you are one to travel a lot man or women both you guys need someone to fool around with hahahaha

and having a relationship and having sex is 2 totally different things

there are many girls i have slept with that i would never want to LOVE

I am just being real here so let the haters start hating



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Fri 12/23/11 02:54 PM
Pretty good article...food for thought anyway...


5 Reasons Why Couples Cheat

One of the worst heartaches comes from being cheated on by someone you have invested all your trust, energy and compassion in. When a partner says, I can't explain why I did it, there was no reason for it, it means that they cheated because they simply weren't happy in the relationship and feel as though they are lacking in some part of the relationship. But for what reasons would someone enter a meaningless hook-up when they already have a stable relationship?

From an outside perspective it is uncalled for - so what is going through the mind of a cheater? There are always underlying factors evident that have unfortunately not been communicated and have managed to cause such a disturbance in the relationship.

1. Lack of Communication

Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it's the sex or the time spent together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and is making one person in the relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.

Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is problematic and is a main factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.

2. Different Views

When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid indicator of cheating tendencies.

In reality, if someone doesn't have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn't be in one. Such feelings only lead to cheating and heartbreak.

3. Lack of Effort

While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work, and when the effort in a relationship is unbalanced and is on one partner's behalf to rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.

It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the relationship to be successful. If this doesn't happen, one might cheat to find the romance they secretly desire.

4. Revenge

If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow. When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too. Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such complications. Of course this doesn't accomplish anything and is a waste of time for both involved.

5. State of Mind

Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the lack of trust and commitment in relationships.

However intoxicated an individual might be, they should still think before they act and in this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can't do this then they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.


HAPPINESS IS KEY...

You live, you love, you learn, and when it comes down to it, when you have found someone who makes you genuinely happy, you will not cheat. Of course, there is no such thing as the perfectly happy couple, but once you've found someone who you trust and can't imagine hurting, cheating will not cross your train of thought because what else could you possibly be searching for?

Cheating is a sign that you either don't want to be committed to that person or something is missing in your current love life that you think is only possible to find elsewhere.

Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:05 PM

Pretty good article...food for thought anyway...


5 Reasons Why Couples Cheat

One of the worst heartaches comes from being cheated on by someone you have invested all your trust, energy and compassion in. When a partner says, I can't explain why I did it, there was no reason for it, it means that they cheated because they simply weren't happy in the relationship and feel as though they are lacking in some part of the relationship. But for what reasons would someone enter a meaningless hook-up when they already have a stable relationship?

From an outside perspective it is uncalled for - so what is going through the mind of a cheater? There are always underlying factors evident that have unfortunately not been communicated and have managed to cause such a disturbance in the relationship.

1. Lack of Communication

Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it's the sex or the time spent together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and is making one person in the relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.

Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is problematic and is a main factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.

2. Different Views

When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid indicator of cheating tendencies.

In reality, if someone doesn't have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn't be in one. Such feelings only lead to cheating and heartbreak.

3. Lack of Effort

While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work, and when the effort in a relationship is unbalanced and is on one partner's behalf to rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.

It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the relationship to be successful. If this doesn't happen, one might cheat to find the romance they secretly desire.

4. Revenge

If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow. When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too. Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such complications. Of course this doesn't accomplish anything and is a waste of time for both involved.

5. State of Mind

Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the lack of trust and commitment in relationships.

However intoxicated an individual might be, they should still think before they act and in this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can't do this then they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.


HAPPINESS IS KEY...

You live, you love, you learn, and when it comes down to it, when you have found someone who makes you genuinely happy, you will not cheat. Of course, there is no such thing as the perfectly happy couple, but once you've found someone who you trust and can't imagine hurting, cheating will not cross your train of thought because what else could you possibly be searching for?

Cheating is a sign that you either don't want to be committed to that person or something is missing in your current love life that you think is only possible to find elsewhere.




pfft forget that I can be happy as can be but I can choose to do what I want as I said before as long as I dont get caught , my gf at the time wont be hurt and I don't feel guilt so that is convenient lol hahaha
nothing wrong with getting some extra action expecially if you travel a lot or are in a LDR

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Fri 12/23/11 03:08 PM


Pretty good article...food for thought anyway...


5 Reasons Why Couples Cheat

One of the worst heartaches comes from being cheated on by someone you have invested all your trust, energy and compassion in. When a partner says, I can't explain why I did it, there was no reason for it, it means that they cheated because they simply weren't happy in the relationship and feel as though they are lacking in some part of the relationship. But for what reasons would someone enter a meaningless hook-up when they already have a stable relationship?

From an outside perspective it is uncalled for - so what is going through the mind of a cheater? There are always underlying factors evident that have unfortunately not been communicated and have managed to cause such a disturbance in the relationship.

1. Lack of Communication

Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it's the sex or the time spent together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and is making one person in the relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.

Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is problematic and is a main factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.

2. Different Views

When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid indicator of cheating tendencies.

In reality, if someone doesn't have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn't be in one. Such feelings only lead to cheating and heartbreak.

3. Lack of Effort

While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work, and when the effort in a relationship is unbalanced and is on one partner's behalf to rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.

It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the relationship to be successful. If this doesn't happen, one might cheat to find the romance they secretly desire.

4. Revenge

If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow. When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too. Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such complications. Of course this doesn't accomplish anything and is a waste of time for both involved.

5. State of Mind

Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the lack of trust and commitment in relationships.

However intoxicated an individual might be, they should still think before they act and in this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can't do this then they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.


HAPPINESS IS KEY...

You live, you love, you learn, and when it comes down to it, when you have found someone who makes you genuinely happy, you will not cheat. Of course, there is no such thing as the perfectly happy couple, but once you've found someone who you trust and can't imagine hurting, cheating will not cross your train of thought because what else could you possibly be searching for?

Cheating is a sign that you either don't want to be committed to that person or something is missing in your current love life that you think is only possible to find elsewhere.




pfft forget that I can be happy as can be but I can choose to do what I want as I said before as long as I dont get caught , my gf at the time wont be hurt and I don't feel guilt so that is convenient lol hahaha
nothing wrong with getting some extra action expecially if you travel a lot or are in a LDR


Pffft...While you're out there "getting" all that acton, be sure you don't bring home an STD to share with your girlfriend....Also, don't let her read your posts..whoa

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Fri 12/23/11 03:12 PM
Sure it's possible. That doesn't mean it will be any less of a completely selfish act and cause a lot of pain to the one you love.

boonedoggy61's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:16 PM

Love and cheat do not belong in the same sentence! That is just wrong. noway








flowers flowers

Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:20 PM
hahahaha STD your kidding right lol
aren't those just christian myths ahahahahha

i hopes she does her own thing honestly while I do my own thing jut hope she is smart enough to get caught

it may be considered selfish but if you change your views it is not so bad , it is all on how you perceive things

there are 6 billion people , why would you even dream o settling for one when you can have many as they say in th spirit of xmas the more the merrier lol hahahaha


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Fri 12/23/11 03:22 PM

hahahaha STD your kidding right lol
aren't those just christian myths ahahahahha

i hopes she does her own thing honestly while I do my own thing jut hope she is smart enough to get caught

it may be considered selfish but if you change your views it is not so bad , it is all on how you perceive things

there are 6 billion people , why would you even dream o settling for one when you can have many as they say in th spirit of xmas the more the merrier lol hahahaha




I'm guessing you're between the ages of 18 and 21...Am I close?:laughing: :laughing:

actionlynx's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:28 PM
And people wonder why our country is so messed up...

"Everything is okay as long as you don't get caught."

That's a criminal mentality. whoa

msharmony's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:30 PM
love is not exclusive, it can exist along with all other emotions, from anger, to hate

certainly , during the stages of any of those other emotions, if they overtake the love , betrayals can happen

but they are still betrayals,,,

Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:33 PM

love is not exclusive, it can exist along with all other emotions, from anger, to hate

certainly , during the stages of any of those other emotions, if they overtake the love , betrayals can happen

but they are still betrayals,,,


why does love have to be exclusive and absolute

real talk I can honestly I say I Love more than 1 girl right now ....why is that wrong

msharmony's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:37 PM


love is not exclusive, it can exist along with all other emotions, from anger, to hate

certainly , during the stages of any of those other emotions, if they overtake the love , betrayals can happen

but they are still betrayals,,,


why does love have to be exclusive and absolute

real talk I can honestly I say I Love more than 1 girl right now ....why is that wrong




love does not have to be exclusive or absolute,, commitments are absolute though


Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:37 PM


hahahaha STD your kidding right lol
aren't those just christian myths ahahahahha

i hopes she does her own thing honestly while I do my own thing jut hope she is smart enough to get caught

it may be considered selfish but if you change your views it is not so bad , it is all on how you perceive things

there are 6 billion people , why would you even dream o settling for one when you can have many as they say in th spirit of xmas the more the merrier lol hahahaha




I'm guessing you're between the ages of 18 and 21...Am I close?:laughing: :laughing:


21 of course hahaha with my youth bring a new approach to life that I know many have not done before, haha

And of course everything is okay as long as you don't get caught unless you feel guilt but if your one that doesn't then even better ,

swingers been doing these things for year I personally like to be a little less open than swingers in my escapades but both seem to work fine

Okami04's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:39 PM



love is not exclusive, it can exist along with all other emotions, from anger, to hate

certainly , during the stages of any of those other emotions, if they overtake the love , betrayals can happen

but they are still betrayals,,,


why does love have to be exclusive and absolute

real talk I can honestly I say I Love more than 1 girl right now ....why is that wrong




love does not have to be exclusive or absolute,, commitments are absolute though




I can commit to a exclusive relationship with a girl as in living with her dating , us putting up with each others habits,

but that don't include me being absolute with one partner to sleep with nor go out with as friends

darkowl1's photo
Fri 12/23/11 03:40 PM
i never understood the concept really, hurting your best friend to get a nut? no, i don't get that.... at least give them the decency to leave first, yanno?

i do dislike self-serving ******** that think the world, and other souls are for them to do what they please. we are all sacred, not in a religious sense, but a moral sense, to the point that deep inside, we really know what helps and what hurts. (right and wrong are more stipulative and grey, because of situational issues), but pain is not...it's either pain, or not pain.

if one goes deep enough, their consience will overwelm them with their past deeds, even with decisions we thought were right at the time, and through learning, we find out we are dead wrong, and become devastated in our soul...

but some have to live it out and perpetually make that mistake...and lose themselves in it. pitty we have to be on their learning end of it sometimes.

i suppose you could love them.......but you'd be a very, very, very, selfish person.