I think if a person even has to think about that, they are the last person in creation I would want to be around.

Love is not an emotion, it is what you do. Desire is an emotion.

Hmmm perhaps you should listen instead of arguing so much with this man,he offers you he's thoughts and his wisdom far above your own.It would make so much more sense to take it now and use it to your advantage as part of you arsenal in stead of finding out 20 years from now that his words were true.

You are right about that. Love is not an emotion.

I would not agree that love is "what you do" but it certainly directly effects what a person does and thinks and feels.

There are two things on this that I absolutely believe in.
1) A woman is the life of man.
2) Love is all the things that two people do together to maintain and promote their life.

Now a visionary likes to do things that will last forever.

I even go so far as this, both scripturally, and biologically, " A man" is defined as one male and one female.

I seem to be hopeless.

Everyone has male and female traits. The word Human, means God-man.

Hu meaning God.

We are all human.

(Well most of us are.)

Polyamory... it's possible to do, but it takes people who all have an open enough mind, similar enough wants, and the right level of maturity.
Monogamy is set by society as the standard and basis of how relationships should be, but it gets unrealistic to be the setup for all and it's certainly not the only way.

Unfortunatly...

anything IS possible.

Depends on the people involved.
For me......If I commit my "Love" to someone....
she is the only one I want to be with, and she has my undivided, undistracted Attention!!

there are different levels and types of love, so

its possible to be having sex with more than one person that you love


cheating, though, implies breaking a commitment, which I believe can happen in the form of a one night stand ,,,but not in the form of an ongoing second relationship,,,,when love is involved

Exactly.
I'd participate in an open relationship or where it's decided that we can have other partners... something to that effect. But I wouldn't cheat... going behind someone's back, being deceitful and untrue. That's unfaithful and despicable.
Open to polyamory, etc... Against cheating and lying.

Here, here.

Hummm it happens everyday....should it no but it does.....

Myself I focus on the one I'm with when it is time to move on then I move on before finding another.....

True believer if your satisfying the one your with, you don't have time to think of another.....

I don't believe in cheating. What is the point of being with one person if you have the urge or temptation to cheat on someone?

You are either an untrustworthy, cheating piece of schitt or you aint.

There are no shades of grey on this question.

I guess there are different types of people,

For me I could never LOVE someone and sleep with someone else, the 2 just dont go together.

I have been told by 2 husbands that it can be done, after they have done.
obviously they thought they still loved me, however as they knew it would hurt me, I can''t see how they could call it love. You don;t consiously hurt someone you love.

At the same time I cant speak for others, it''s just that my idea of love doesnt fit in that box.

My belief is that if you cheat it is more than likely a broken love that may or may not be able to be fixed.
Most likely the betrayal is so core that the answer is no.

People who cheat do it for many reasons.

My core theroy it is self hatred or even a learned long standing feeling that they are not loveable enough to sustain anything more than a short lived romance. They have seen one or both parents cheat, siblings or coworkers cheat and figure they are not going to be able to keep the romance they once had alive so move on to easier picings. Temorary relationships or drop by lovers don't have to have a lot of skill to appear tolerable.

Maybe like the youngster that seems to think his impression on women is so disposable to be nothing more than temporary fun in the country he is at for the moment. That most of the "girls" wouldm't probably care if they did know is sad but happens.

What is even sadder are the Children of the Dust that lead burdened lives as outcasts and often impoverished victims but who knows maybe he actually is sterile. One can hope. But of course things like that will never happen to someone so "in charge" of his own destiny. Or to the women who allow him to use then like human toilets for his drop by deposits. His distain for women in general is hard to miss. As is the distain he seems to have for his own life and saftey; think the "life is short" and all the hahahahaha" is pretty telling.

I do think some people cheat because they are starved for that "moment in the Light" feeling that they bever got as kids. they may marry but be kind of an accessory to their partner rather than a real partner so they keep seeking that "soul mate" , This kind of cheateris rare.

Or maybe got stuck in selfishness by a parent that makes them think they are entiitled to be the center of the universe. People who marry the Little Prince or Princess kind of get what they deserve but some actually buy into the whole being the "servant to royalty. Why I never know

Rarely some couples just get in a rut, Or overwhelmed by kids, bills, sometimes illness and feel forgotten or un-needed. Starved for 'comfort" they are easy pickings for the wolves of the world that will take what they can get. If the partner 's forgiveness is possible or self forgiveness and silence is possible I think a rare mustakes could be overcome. I have known long marriages where such failings were gotten past. A lot of people think of cheating as "only" sex but there are lots of forms of cheating on a partner.

But for one person to think that it is possible to love two people at the SAME time I think they are confuseing lust with love. As someone who has been divorced and even later remarried and widowed I can tell you from my experience it is not possible to truely love one person while you still have feelings for someone else. Even if it is only left over anger . It is much better to live alone until you are ready to truely love someone as the individual.
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Yes they can.

If you could cheat, you are seperating the act of sex from love. When you are truly "in love" with someone, you wouldn't, shouldn't even THINK of cheating.

Cheating isnt an option if you love the person your with...Its unfair to that person...Nuf said...

Cheating involves lying. They go hand in hand.

I was going with a guy who wanted me to be exclusive, then I found out that he was dating another woman. He brought her into the place where I worked. He wasn't even trying to hide it. I had really fallen for him too, and he did it on purpose. So at that point I knew that he was not serious about me.

So I called up one of my X-boyfriends and went out with him. It was an all nighter too. I figured if he was going to date other women, the verbal exclusivity contract was void. (We were not married.) He asked me where I had been the night before and I told him I went out with someone else.

Is that cheating? I don't think so. It was simply revenge.

Did I love him? I thought I did, but I guess I did not really know him, so how can you love someone you don't really know.

I found out much later that he was a psychopath and had no feelings of love for anyone.