Nope; we are just friends. He is spoken for and very much loves his wife.

Well then I give up...Remember the movie Michael staring John Travolta?...I guess he is just an angel.... My neighbor is a total azzhole, you're lucky....

Actually, he is an angel and so is the other guy. They both have really big hearts and I adore them both. I just don't want them to ever think I would take advantage of their kindness. As you said; I am blessed to have them in my life. My neighbors are sweet. I left my garage open one day and they didn't know how to close it so they guarded it for me until I got home which was 9:00pm. For the rest of the winter; I shoveled their walk for them as they are both in their 70s.

Something's are easier to fix than to explain how to fix it.

I guess I didn't quite explain what I meant. I usually know how to fix or do the project but sometimes just want a second opinion on another way to tackle the problem. I am a lot smarter than I look.

Nope I gotcha.
I was just saying the other way to tackle the problem might be easier to do than it would be to explain how to do it.

Yes; this is true but even when my friends do help me; I am right there asking questions and working along side them. Can't learn anything if I am not doing it as well.

I believe it's just the circumstance. While some guys like to do the jobs themselves..others may have a hidden agenda.
I for one never would stand in the way of someone doing a job for me that they may be better at than me.

In this case; I don't think either man has any agenda unless I am just to dumb to see it. I agree that the person with the better knowledge would do a better job as there are things I can do that they simply don't have the skills to do but in the same sense I want to learn something. As well; I would rather not waste either of my friend's time.

I got no problem with women working and fixing stuff.

Hell, I'd be cool with them giving me piggy back rides when I wanna go to the store.

:)

No piggy backs but you could ride on my bicycle rack. LOL

Wow.. I have not had a piggy back ride since grade school!

Thanks for the tip. Now all I have to do is ask women how to make love. They'll want to do it for me!!

Fourteen years of dry spell probably broken.

Thanks, Navygirlie!! You gave me the best practical advice ever I got in my life!!

Well. Why do you think your friends trust you that you'd learn by their telling you on the phone how to do it? When they do it in front of you, and you could just watch them do it silently, you still ask them questions.

There is a lesson to be learned in every lesson learned. When the student inside the student is ready, the teacher inside the teacher appears.

Please don't ask me what this means. Just come over and I'll show 'ya.

I would LOVE to love you... no ulterior motives, like marriage and keeping you rich for the rest of your life and my supporting any kids you might bear for me. Promise!!

Come over, and I will love you. You could even watch as I do it. (You.) Just ask no questions, please, because those destroy my concentration.

;-b

Thbtttthhhh....

Nope; I have never just watched someone do something for me; I want a hands on approach and have them talk me through it. You can't learn anything if you aren't actually doing it as far as I am concerned. My friends should trust me to understand over the phone because after all the time they have known me; they should know what I am capable of. My one friend does work in the area where I work so on his break; he will come into the office and discuss things with me. Neither one of us is much of an artist but we will draw pictures to get the point across and that seems to work just fine. Also on the phone; you can tell if the person has or hasn't got a clue how to do something by the questions. I always either google the task at hand or look it up in a repair manual before calling my friends. I had a light to put in and just asked a few general questions and at this point he said he would come and do it for me. I stood my ground and said no; I will do it but if I can't then he could come over and help me. I did manage to get it done myself so it was all good.

I've found that many (not all) men don't like to just listen to problems. They want to fix it somehow. They think that's what they're supposed to do. I've talked to others about the same thing and have heard the same responses. Try telling them that you're just asking for advice in the beginning of conversation, not asking for them to do the actual work?

I don't think it's a common method used by women. I think it's a common misconception that men have, assuming women want them to do things for them.

Actually; I usually start the conversations by "I don't want you to do this for me; but I want an opinion". I am wondering if Leigh isn't right that they are just good friends that want to help. One of the guys here at work also said something interesting. He said the reason that they do keep wanting to help me is because I don't take advantage of them. Personally; I have way to much respect for people to take advantage of anyone. Maybe I am just reading too much into their willingness to help me.