Topic: Handsome or Character
1Cynderella's photo
Fri 03/08/13 11:53 AM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Fri 03/08/13 11:54 AM




I only date men who I consider to be of good character, but also date men I'm attracted to. I don't care a wit if anyone else considers them handsome...but yes, I want a physical attraction to exist too.


Snow White had seven(!) dwarfs:laughing: and none were considered particularly 'handsome'...

True...maybe I should have used Snow White as my handle. bigsmile

Seriously though, I didn’t pick my username for its fairy tale significance. It’s actually a family thing. That decision made my “things I could have given more thought” list. slaphead



Nooo! Stop Thinking, I'm Already Looking 4 yur Lost Shoooooe! winking


Silly man! :tongue:

ruth74's photo
Sat 03/09/13 05:15 PM
I'm really surprised that no one has commented that "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". love


ViaMusica's photo
Sat 03/09/13 06:24 PM
Edited by ViaMusica on Sat 03/09/13 06:25 PM
My personal preference is for character, humor and intellect. But with all that said, I still want to be able to look at him and find him handsome as well, although that could mean in an offbeat sort of way.

I guess that's somewhat akin to beauty being in the eye of the beholder.

Bottom line, in my case: Great looks but nothing inside? That won't turn me on. Wonderful on the inside, but ugly as a mud fence on the outside? That's a problem too, kind of.

Meh... maybe my standards are just too high. Although even my male friends tell me that isn't the case at all.

minemine2013's photo
Sun 03/10/13 03:28 AM
Via you are right good character too ugly can't attract me. Very handsome no character can't attract me too. Also beauty is in the eyes of the beholder good character can make a woman marry ugly man

Imjustdandy's photo
Sun 03/10/13 09:46 AM
What about the ones who fancy themselves as handsome but in reality are not? Delusional I tell ya!laugh

minemine2013's photo
Sun 03/10/13 02:57 PM
Delusional I agree with you. I meet a guy tall and ugly but he thought he is handsome. He told me he is so handsome and no woman can resist him. Very funny lol.

indianadave4's photo
Sun 03/10/13 06:08 PM
Edited by indianadave4 on Sun 03/10/13 06:10 PM
Most men and women require some amount of physical attraction in a romance partner. Initial physical attraction opens the door but does not buy the farm. Both, men and women, evaluate their new SO over time to see if they get along with their character.

One good reason a woman should not have sex early in a relationship. If after a few months the guy doesn't like something about you he may leave: and he may not have been just after sex though, sometimes, he will be accused of it.

mikaxel80's photo
Mon 03/11/13 02:08 AM

What about the ones who fancy themselves as handsome but in reality are not? Delusional I tell ya!laugh

And self-obssessed too

Deavonne's photo
Mon 03/11/13 02:12 AM
I love a smart girl who isn't afraid to speak her, but she has to be cute.

Deavonne's photo
Mon 03/11/13 02:14 AM
I'm tall lol Jk....:wink:

minemine2013's photo
Mon 03/11/13 03:08 PM
Deav you are tall? Are you attractive? Lol do you have good character? Lol

Deavonne's photo
Mon 03/11/13 03:24 PM
Yes I do what about yourself???

minemine2013's photo
Mon 03/11/13 03:42 PM
Yes I'm tall pretty attractive and I have good character

ViaMusica's photo
Mon 03/11/13 04:41 PM
Not only do I want a man to have good character... I love it if he also IS something of a character! bigsmile I want a guy who will make me laugh.

PrintsCharming's photo
Fri 03/22/13 02:08 PM
Handsome is as handsome does.

Imjustdandy's photo
Sat 04/06/13 12:59 PM

Delusional I agree with you. I meet a guy tall and ugly but he thought he is handsome. He told me he is so handsome and no woman can resist him. Very funny lol.


OMG don't walk.... run!

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 04/06/13 01:30 PM
Handsome with good character. Who wants an unattractive person for a partner/mate, really!

no photo
Sun 04/07/13 01:53 AM
Younger men seem to be attracted to me and i think it is because I am still alot of fun. It works for me because i have found that men my age and older look older and want to tell me how to live my life. I am an idepandent woman who takes care of herself anf my children and dont need a daddy. I am grown thank you :) I have alot of tattoos. Which i need to point out to some men does not make women easy. Its how i have chose to express myself. I am really drawn to the 50's greeser style although i like that i dont expect to many other people to follow suit. Anyway i hope to hear from someone fun and someone who enjoys a woman with curves.

dmckinnon's photo
Sun 04/07/13 01:57 AM
I found it refreshing to read what minemine said, because at least she was being honest. Too many just say "Oh looks don't matter just character, blah blah blah...", but I know this is BS. Minemine, my hats off to you for being honest.

ViaMusica's photo
Sun 04/07/13 06:52 AM
Edited by ViaMusica on Sun 04/07/13 06:54 AM
Personally for me, if a guy who is only so-so in the looks department has a great personality and a fascinating intellect, those turn me on enough that in my eyes even his physical appearance is enhanced and I begin to see him as quite handsome.

Not saying it'll make him look like George Clooney, but then again I haven't a prayer of getting to George anyway. laugh

Seriously, I've found that beauty is largely in the eye of the beholder. And there is generally some physical quality in nearly any man that can be attractive or endearing if paired with the right character. It might be the way his eyes twinkle when he's telling a joke, or the quirky smile he has when he's amused. Maybe he has a sexy voice or an infectious laugh... or great hair or endearing mannerisms, or just a generally expressive face.

...And there I've gone, taking inventory of the qualities of any number of guys I've dated who might not have made the cover of GQ but who certainly managed to flip my switch. :wink: