It seems some people's perception of what 'is' is different from reality. If that makes sense.

Something I used to do when younger, after getting out of flings or relationships - day dreaming about 'that one' that doesn't really exist. Qualities you want bundled into a perfect 10. Basically an imaginary person created by Hollywood.

After a couple of years online, reading and writing different women on dating sites, it seems as though 'they' are letting certain men that would fit them perfectly pass by. And guys do the same thing, I'm sure.

Online dating is like window shopping, or a meat/flea market. Everyone holds up this 'type' of person they are searching for, and they keep searching, and searching..........

In some ways, online is more difficult than in the real world.

I haven't turned into a pessimist by any means, these are just observations. And just my opinion.

Chemistry is real, that perfect one is not.

Agree, disagree?

P.S. what a clustermuck of thoughts. Decipher to the best of your ability.

I totally hear ya & to reference another thread, physical attraction is 80-90% of what makes someone "go into the store" rather than continue window shopping! Either way, there's some great folks on here & I like the forums so the window shopping continues!

Idk, but I just joined some kind of friendship site, earlier today. Apparantely some guy is really interested in me. Him telling me he would love to get to know me. We'll see how it goes I guess. Probably a blessing, if it helps take my mind off missing someone. I can't rule anything out. I take risks. After all, if you don't ask, you may not recieve. It's early days.

chemistry is key, totally agree. but if something doesn't feel near perfect together, that
just seems like settling. i'd rather think perfect exists than to settle. imho. and welcome :)

Thank you.

I have met several men inperson from different cities. I am not looking for any Perfect Man, just the right man for me. Of course he has to possess the qualities I desire in a man to Match with Me. No real match Yet.

I look at it like trying to fit two puzzle
Ices together. The qualities of person A may fit better with person C, than with person B. but it takes time to try all the sides out to see what fits best. Lol.

Mostly, it's about not getting bored!

Of course they are real. They are more often than not though, nothing like what you expect or picture.

I don't actually have a type, other than someone whose a great fit for me.

I can list qualities I'd like him to posses, like kindness, because I would not be atracted to a meany, courtesy, because I wouldn't be able to fall for a rude man...and etc. Those are all givens though, because I date the attitude before I know the man, and those are the attitudes I'm attracted to.

But what he's going to be like; his personality, his sense of humor, his habits...good and bad...those things are a wonderful mystery. I can't wait to find out what he will be like.

How can a person really know another if they don't stick around to "see" how they REALLY are though. Kinda gotta take a risk on that and let the relationship go on for a little bit, y'know?
Gotta be patient and let everything fall into place.

I don't feel that anyone on or offline is going to find their ideal perfect person. However, finding someone to get to know and be able to communicate, with honesty, is that out there? Really, why lie to make a impression, be yourself.Ppeople can take you as you are and vice versa right?

I don't feel that anyone on or offline is going to find their ideal perfect person. However, finding someone to get to know and be able to communicate, with honesty, is that out there? Really, why lie to make a impression, be yourself.Ppeople can take you as you are and vice versa right?

Hmmmm, ok back on the cloud she goes:)