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Topic: obeying your husband
mom333 Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 1238	Wed 10/08/14 06:20 AM
if you were getting married now to the man you love would you choose to say the traditional vows. if you said yes to the first question would you live by those vows for the rest of your life. would you for the rest of your life honour, respect and obey your husband.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Wed 10/08/14 06:25 AM
Obey? Doesn't this answer depend on what he asks from you?

mom333 Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 1238	Wed 10/08/14 06:28 AM
Obey? Doesn't this answer depend on what he asks from you? if someone was planning on saying these vows then they would have to make sure they were marring a man that tried to live a good life and wanted the same for his wife and children. so a man that only had your best interest at heart not just his own.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Wed 10/08/14 07:05 AM
Since when are those alleged "traditional vows" mandatory? When my late wife and I exchanged wedding vows, there was no mention of her having to obey me.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 10/08/14 08:26 AM
I can't even get a woman to listen to me.. let alone obey me..

Rubicat Joined Sun 07/20/14 Posts: 103	Wed 10/08/14 08:45 AM
I would obey him if he told me to buy those new shoes I crave for sure

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 10/08/14 09:05 AM
I would have the "obey" taken out of the vows. I am not a dog and will not be commanded like one. I do believe in honour and respect as I would want to be treated that way as well.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 10/08/14 09:10 AM
I'm pretty sure if I told my girlfriend to obey me should would just laugh at me.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33259	Wed 10/08/14 09:19 AM
I wouldn't vow that. I'm not even sure I would do the "till death do us part" one to be honest. I am very serious about vows, cos I know most ppl suffer from vows taken in past lives, for instance vows of poverty, chastity, vows to be loyal etc. beyond death and so on and so forth. Don't think we had these vows over here anymore when I got married. Maybe it's more a church thing? I didn't do a church wedding. So as far as the Pope is concerned, I never got married I spose, lol

realcarebear Joined Sat 12/07/13 Posts: 6876	Wed 10/08/14 09:32 AM
Doesn't the man also make the same vow to the woman? I think so but I've never been married??? If so then yeah I have no problem making that vow. If your marrying God fearing man or (for those who don't share my belief) a man with good morals and such it shouldn't be a problem to vow to obey.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 10/08/14 09:42 AM
Doesn't the man also make the same vow to the woman? I think so but I've never been married??? If so then yeah I have no problem making that vow. If your marrying God fearing man or (for those who don't share my belief) a man with good morals and such it shouldn't be a problem to vow to obey. Sounds good but not every person always has good morals. Would you lie if told you to? Lie in a court of law; lie to friends, family, and employer, the police? Isn't that obeying him? I think we have to draw lines as to what you will and will not obey. Me; I am not religous; so I wouldn't blindly vow to obey a man as sometimes his motives may be questionable.

realcarebear Joined Sat 12/07/13 Posts: 6876	Wed 10/08/14 09:57 AM
Doesn't the man also make the same vow to the woman? I think so but I've never been married??? If so then yeah I have no problem making that vow. If your marrying God fearing man or (for those who don't share my belief) a man with good morals and such it shouldn't be a problem to vow to obey. Sounds good but not every person always has good morals. Would you lie if told you to? Lie in a court of law; lie to friends, family, and employer, the police? Isn't that obeying him? I think we have to draw lines as to what you will and will not obey. Me; I am not religous; so I wouldn't blindly vow to obey a man as sometimes his motives may be questionable. You're exactly right! When you marry you become one or a team. You depend on each other to choose good. If one chooses to do bad its not your fault you have to break your vow. There are always exceptions because you cant make anothers choice or thought for them.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45327	Wed 10/08/14 10:10 AM
I'm pretty sure if I told my girlfriend to obey me should would just laugh at me. If that's all she did..

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Wed 10/08/14 10:27 AM
I wouldn't choose traditional vows, however the concepts of honoring and respecting The One that I'd chosen to be with would be a given. Take a vow to "obey" one's mate?!? We don't even make children take that vow and they're supposed to obey us, since we're legally responsible for them 'til they turn 18. How the hell does one even come to expect that another adult should obey them???

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Wed 10/08/14 10:37 AM
sure op ...so long as he does not break them first ... I thought that went both ways ...can't even remember

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 10/08/14 10:46 AM
I had a boyfriend who once got angry at me and said "you don't even want to be told what to do!"...duh..really some men want you to obey them like a dog. Usually these kind of guys think they can do whatever crazy thing they want and lie about it. And then they get paranoid that you're doing the same things behind their back so they try to control you I guess.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 10/08/14 10:49 AM
I'm pretty sure if I told my girlfriend to obey me should would just laugh at me. If that's all she did.. I should've mentioned she would do the laughing after I regained consciousness.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Wed 10/08/14 10:55 AM
I'm pretty sure if I told my girlfriend to obey me should would just laugh at me. If that's all she did.. I should've mentioned she would do the laughing after I regained consciousness.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 10/08/14 11:38 AM
This is my question as well...what is a good wife in 2014? Does she obey her husband, does she do typical wifely duties, sometimes those conflict by the way, does she work and everything else as if single, it's just confusing me what being a good wife means? I just don't know what the role of a good wife is supposed to be in this day and age, and I've never been married.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33259	Wed 10/08/14 11:44 AM
If I remember correctly (movies etc) the man doesn't vow to obey his wife. He vows to protect her etc. which the woman doesn't do. Men & women have/had different vows. Think the only thing that was/is the same, is "in sickness and in health, till death do us part".