Hi my sister in law and my brother 15 years ago lost there only child at the age of 25. My sister in law never got over her loss. Pat killed her self last week. So I wanted to share and ask how many other family on here are going this this?

I'm very sorry for your loss. Keeping you in thoughts and prayers.

Prayers going up for your loss and family. I think it is more common than you imagine. My ex husband:s younger brother killed himself. It was a huge shock for us all. I think the only comfort I have is that his pain is over. Pain is pain and real regardless of mental or physical pain. I will light a candle for all in a similar situation. Peace and love

You're not alone. Trust me.

One of my closest friends hanged himself three years ago. He was 23 or 24.

Several of my other friends' deaths are debatable as to whether or not they were accidental or purposeful.

I highly advise trying out free bereavement groups. There are sites that show free groups like this in your area. They can apparently be quite helpful. I used to go to different groups run by a woman that ran a bereavement/suicide survivor group as well, but I never went to that one.

Best of luck.

I am very sorry for your loss. Being a parent I could not imagine the pain she must have been going thru. Our minds just won't take us to where her's had been forced to go.

It is just soo sad. Your brother must be a very strong man

Mendy, im so sorry for your loss. sending you hugs and prayers

I deeply feel your loss...
.. and the question of why!!!.. that always haunt you.... and I hate to say this.. but the bitter resentment..
..... it still stings when I think about what they did..... the person I lost..
the person that lost themselves..
.. could not find it within themselves
.. to find a footing to hold on to..

Malarie Renee..may she fly with the angels..my daughters best friend..took her life..Nick....my nephews best friend took his...may he fly as well..both these kids were close to my heart...too young to die but to beautiful for this world..never will they be forgotten..as far as damned...not a chance...they are in a place where they have found peace...I hope that anyone that loses someone close to them in this fashion will never listen to those that speak of selfishness of those that do it..it's not selfish...it's meant to be...they are truly in a better place

Hi and you all. I was told by a friend to look up on line it called
International Survivor of Suicide Loss Day. It a web page and there a movie to watch on line November 22, 2014. Thank you all for your comments it help left my spirits.

I wish you peace love an happiness on your journey

Mendy2, I am so very sorry for your loss. And for your family, losing a loved one, is so extremely painful,and if it's your own child so much more agonizing. And contributing to that, with suicide many times don't know why it happened. Making it so much worse.We end up feeling guilty, I have my own story which made me want to write this,but putting it a little farther down the forum. Right now,it is more important for you and your family to get counseling, There are many kinds and places. Churches,social workers, ask around , Doctors. look on internet. Hospice social workers, they are so great, so unselfish with their time. It doesn't matter who or even what you believe, There is a place or person who will help you with your grief and sadness,and not knowing what to do,sometimes even minute to minute. It won't go away over night, but it will help you more & more understand how to deal. And most of all don't listen to people who tell you all the negative things. They will tell you all the reasons people do it. Don't listen. Walk away. They aren't in your shoes,or your Brothers shoes. They will make you feel worse. There is no judgement here. A true friend will listen, let you pour your heart out, help in anyway you may need, all with their arms around, holding you tight with heartfelt love. Also, you can check for local grief support groups. For some people support groups work better. I hope your family heals with togetherness. Sending prayers for your entire family.

My step-son committed suicide.
When the police called from Santa Barbara,
I took the call, my ex was golfing.

How to tell a man his only remaining child
had killed himself..his other child had
committed suicide years before.

It was so awful, there were no clues whatsoever.
He took his friends to lunch, then went home and
opened his vein for a needle full of the drugs
he used in his profession, he did heart-by-passes..
they said he was dead before he even finished.

He had all the goodies, his own home in SB, cars,
boats, all the toys. Good looking, he had built
his career (he got all 8 people who did
heart-by-passes in the area together and they sold
their services to the local 5 hospitals) and was
financially set.

We donated his exercise equipment to the hospital
for the use of his friends there. And his restaurant-
style coffeemaker.

They all wanted to know why.
As did we.
As far as we knew, he had it all.

There were no answers then, or ever.
Just..gone.

Somehow, you absorb it, you move along.
But the fear remains.
Life, indeed can be short, no matter how long it is.
Maybe we cherish it more now, I don't know.

The sadness can overwhelm those left behind.
I do not resent that he did what he felt he had to.
No more pain for him, is how I see it.
His choice.

RIP Scotty.

I have had two suicides in my family and some friends ...let me say blessings for your loss op ... sometimes some can take the negative and make it a positive for another to help them ... very hard on a mother who has lost their daughter leaving grand children ... but she did the best she could and gave them a lot of love and stayed in their lives until she passed away ... others have good days and bad days never really come out of it ... numb them selves as much as they can so not to feel the loss or pain ... and that is why some committed suicide to begin with can not except the pain of their life anymore ...others are on some very harsh drugs and can end up overdosing ... so many reasons ... but I believe she could not take the pain anymore and nothing was helping no relief ...thats why ... very sad but true ... and no one except her knows how much pain she was really in ... do not like to hear it is selfish to do that ... when some no nothing of the feeling ...

Thank you all and I am so sorry for your loss. It was my sister in law who took her life after Pat and Harvey my brother daughter died of a blood clot. So we are in shock for both of the daughter and mother my sister in law. I am trying to find my brother help in Zanesvile Ohio if any one know of a support group in that town could you let me know. thank you all

My dear friend took his life 5 years ago. The pain don't stop but all we can do is hold them in our memories.

It's been nearly 21 years since my best friend decided to end his life.
In front of his new wife, myself, and the woman I was dating .

Not a day has passed since, that the image of that hasn't replayed itself in my mind.

((( hugs)))

I lost some friends to suicide. will pray for you dear.

my family is trying to make it through the lost of my sister in law. But we get days we still ask why and a little angery. But we know she was in pain and she wanted out of it and so now she it.

I'm very sorry for your loss.