No. It's all about the picture. I have nothing bus gangstas and Harley dudes contacting me. Why on earth do they think I would even consider them?

They are hoping that they are the exception...LOL!!!

Yes, it can be very frustrating. There are a lot of scammers. Advice given to me was set your mail settings to 50 to 60 age and location must be within 50 miles. that should cut down on some of the spammers and scammers. Alas I'm too young and too far from you. You sound like a neat person though. I have decided that Mingle isn't a dating site but it has a great forum. I really enjoy the conversations here. Good luck

You know men don't know how to read. Men can't read but three letters: S,E and X.
Don't ask me why, I don't know... Maybe you can WOMANSPLAIN it for us?

Men read the pictures then wonder why they're ignored for asking stupid questions like, 'So what do you like to do?'

You know, then... They're just damn f'n asking for it.

Yeah. That's true that most profiles aren't worth reading and it's also true that even if you have read it you might still ask questions like, "What are you looking for?" because you're trying to have a conversation and just maybe you want to see if their messages match their profiles.

I'm sure that we would all love to have all of someone on the internet's attention and may even feel entitled to it but that's not really the way it works. Don't assume that your profile or emails are well written or that interesting. You may as well be a man and quite possibly could be for all I know.

I'm sure that we all get annoyed by poorly written emails that we get but why does someone's ability to correspond like this matter so much if you're looking for a real person with real interests and not just a penpal? You can't both have someone that likes spending a lot of time on the internet and somebody that isn't an undatable loser.

You will get better with spotting scammers as you go along. Language is a big give away. If they "want to know you more", ask more questions than they give information, want you to believe they are up in the middle of the night emailing you, or immediately ask you to go to another free site, giving or begging for a phone number right off the bat, tell you they are a widowed engineer with a kid you can bet they are bogus.

There are always going to be the guys on line that hope you are going to be the cyber version of the girl in the bar or hope to sex talk for free. Report, block, and move on without taking it personal. NEVER; EVER, give someone your home number or where you work. There are criminals on line. And they can charm the whiskers off a cat.

Legit guys are going to try and ask questions and probably want to see a recent full length photo but they don't usually give you a psychological profile or some flowery description of their sudden infatuation. Almost all men will tell you that you are beautiful sooner or later; maybe it is a safe answer or genuine but hey beats the alternative. And legit guys do not care if you are "perfect". Most are going to be as afraid of you being a scammer or blabbing their personal stuff as you are of them. Most are sensitive about someone trying to play them for money so be sympathetic about work (but wait for them to offer specifics) and those women that play head games. A lot of the best guys are parents, and good ones, but they will be pretty tight lipped about it for at least a while. Legit guys do read what is posted so if you are constantly breaking balls and whining they would rather deal with someone with less "bad attitude". A lot of decent guys do live with extended family during post divorce periods, especially if they have kids, because two families can not live as cheaply as one and they have out grown the "party animal" stage. There are a lot of great guys on Mingle on and off the forums. Good luck.

OK, I am just looking at the dating pool. My profile is perhaps rather negative, in that I am NOT looking to 'hookup' - just viewing the pool candidates..
The comments of emails I receive, it is pretty obvious to me that my profile is NOT being read at all, as the comments in their emails reference what a nice profile it is, etc... are you kidding me?did you read it???
Or are they just MANREADING it?
Manreading - look at the pictures and carry on anyway..
Hints about scammers would be appreciated..
Kat

that's just it but boys are more than men here

We read profiles. I like to read profiles :-)