My take is that a lot of people get married for the tax benefits and the appearance they they have success socially.

In regards to what you say, I realize that my own view on marriage is confirmed by your comment. I WANT to get married but only to be eternally engaged...like you say it keeps us trying and the rejection is not as devastating as a surprise divorce.

Fearand Loathing

Men don't have feelings! Have you ever seen a John Wayne film with him crying in the psych office? No! Why?! Because men build things, then we destroy things to build more things!


dconexion

Why do I get the feeling you don't really believe that ?


And BTW, you forgot to say we build and destroy things for the love of women...

Sometimes watching tv all weekend is just what the doctor ordered. I try not to fight depression because that takes a lot of energy. Instead I just accept that I'm a lofer and try not to let anyone see me. I've been watching tv and daydreaming professionally for 5 years. No point getting more sick trying to integrate a disfunctional work environment. So I've found a chill job that let's me ...chill. I know something great is going to happen...it's a law of probability....you're very attractive by the way

Melody...that's lovely...really

I can't agree more

If I may ask timidly...what is it they can't give back to you ?
I ask because there is something I have trouble finding in relationships, so just curious.

cheers

Interesting point, you speak of skill and responsability when it comes to sex ... hmm Do you mean physical skill, like in sport ? And do you mean responsability as in obligation ?
Or perhaps one persons ability to please another regardless of the form it takes ? Personally I'm into imagination and reciprocity.

I consider myself a gentleman farmer in the city (relaxing and meditating with the trees outside my window, tending my garden, petting every animal I can, taking some time to chat with the neighbors)...I get pushed out of the way a lot, but country folk can be just as brutal

Personally I like women who know what to do with a man and don't just wait for things to happen.

would someone report my previous post please, it has nothing to do with romantic relationships


cheers

Is there a difference ?

I'm half and half. Love nature but country folk are tight knit so hard to integrate. Love the anonymity of the city.

That is SO true,

Hi thanks for the question.

Taking politics to the bedroom for me means treating your relationship like it was a political forum. As if the relationship itself was a social act rather than an intimate one.

Interesting, although I share your critical thinking, and do not defend the following argument, there is such a thing as the law of the people, you are saying out loud what no one wants to hear, of course you will meet violent repression (violent=controlling or demeaning)

I'm just putting my money on the women out there, like I have met many, who are against femini-faschism, who have a profound interest and respect for men, and not just for their material/ physical qualities or as entertaining accessories, and who can basically take out their own garbage.

Now, basic mechanics...after writing this, there will be a slew of outcry and the sophistics begin, it's men that do this, it's men that do that, but don't blame women for this...it's a human thing to put down the other side, we do it too, it's the basest of instincts, us and them.

For women to take their place in society they had to become politicized, and they took their politics to the bedroom (Machiaveli: the state is the only justification the state needs to justify itself.), so of course they hoot and hauler whenever you are the least bit critical, heaven forbid we should question the presumed natural order, they are people like men and you are trying to reason with the mass(this is a generic statement and not directed at the lovely folks on the mingle2 forums

Oh God will this neurosis ever end

I know my girlfriends wear my pants sometimes. I don't reciprocate.

It's fun to have SEX, with the person you love.

Single,

Searching for poetic love

True romance between the gentle eternity of sentiment and the immediacy of passion and desire.

To not be ruled by love, but moved by the complicity of lovers,
To not be a slave to love, but to serve it patiently,
To not be digested by love, but to savor it's fare with serenity,

What about you Chelsea...are YOU feeling loved ?

I mean 1h25 minutes a day ? That's how long it takes me to say good morning to my girlfriend !

Hmmm, I'm more into a day and a half every week, lets see

1h25*7=9h55
and 1 1/2 days = 36 hrs

yup...I like my program better

I'm sure you deserve more than that ?