Please allow me to say something here to all of the Fathers on here,,and the future Dad's..to become..Being a dad is the most taking and giving of your self,,that you shall ever be or do..Even MORE than your wife's love,,your feel your child's love even more. because you helped this life to be here, and God blessed them and you to be, when you didn't even realize they were here yet..There are no Bad Father's,,only Father's who care, or decide not to care about their children!
Your not born to know everything about being a good Dad? Its always that in your hands learning as you go,,that makes you a good dad and allows your baby to grow and feel your love inside them. All of you older dad's here KNOW this bond, and have learned your child through these first days and weeks of their lives.
Through every face, of laughter and painful cries,,they show YOU their deepest feeling inside them...And US DADS freak sometimes when we DON'T KNOW whats wrong and we worry and say,,,,,,HONEY----COME-MERE SOMETHINGS WRONG!:)
Then our wives show us or explain to us what it might be?,,,Thats parenting..and THATS the LOVE of you three to live, feel,and be. For all of you who might be avoiding those baby duties,,,,,,,STOP-IT,,,because trust me here fellas,,THAT BABY KNOWS YOU THROUGH THEIR EVERY CRY ANSWERED,,,lol.. For those of you who feel that you know it all,,,,NO YOU DON'T,and your wife is just as much if not MORE to the needs of your baby,,because those two shared an extra nine months together before your baby felt your hands and arms around them..:) So her involvement and yours go hand and hand. YOUR going to make mistakes, your going to make them not like you sometimes, your play the roles of doctor,medic, policeman, counselor, nutritionist, barber, make-up consultant, their dating chaperon. So many hats both you and your wife shall share through your child growing... And as I said earlier about them not liking you sometimes,,that does not mean their love you any less...THAT, they will always have inside their hearts for all that you both have placed within them.<3 You will feel that years were taken off your life,,when or IF your put through ANY accidents they have, or issues that effect their abilities to sustain life and living..But through those difficult times, they and you show each other your inner strengths of your forever love thats there.
Dads share the many MALE aspects of growing in a child's life,,the hero's thinking in your children,,that hard tough man with brutal super hero tactics and muscle, able to lift houses off their foundations,,,:),,WE don't really TRY to be this,,but in your kids minds,,through growing,,they may see us as,, ALL-THAT.
We dad's are the bad guys many times,,as our wives give us that hat to HELP them control the actions of our children when they are having some tempered issues arising from them not want to follow Mother's rules...But their father's rules as well
Then,,when you have both did your best, and your child graduates High School. Your so proud of them,,as the tears roll down your wifes face, as you turn and swallow and keep thinking,,I'm not going to do this,,(tears),,So you hug her and wipe away her tears,,knowing YOU could flood the halls with the ones your choking back.:) Then as they leave for College, or go out on their own to work and start their lives as young adults,,,,YOU DAD,,,will never be the same again,,inside you THEY shall ALWAYS REMAIN YOUR BABY....EVRY EVENT THAT MATTERS TO THEM IN THEIR LIFE, YOUR BE THERE,,and YOUR feel that same,,hold-back,,on them tears..and that SAME first loving infant you saw and held when they were first born.. Many Parents do not make it through to their child's being grown and an adult,,because they split-up and get a divorce..I my self went through this,,and THAT IS NO DIFFERENT to your child sharing YOUR LOVE WITH THEM..TO BE REAL HERE,,THATS WHEN YOU AS A FATHER NEED TO BE MORE INVOLVED WITH THEM,,as they feel your absents and NEED to know your BOTH STILL THEIR FOR THEM,,ALWAYS<3 I'm not writing this because I feel I was some kind of a PERFECT DAD,,because there is NONE of them ever born...:) But as for my thoughts to share with all of you whatever your feelings are about YOUR Fatherhood? You helped make this Human Life Be ALIVE,,and it is YOUR responsibility to see THEY KNOW AND HAVE YOUR LOVE, no-matter the struggles to MAKE THAT BE,,,You and your wife can slit-up,,and both get re-married,,MANY,MANY TIMES if that is the case,,but your babies made,,NEED YOU,,in their lives,FOREVER ..and for THAT,,YOUR child will have that look of love always within their heart and eyes for YOU...I was as GOOD a FATHER as MY CHILDREN HELPED ME TO BE,,and THEY HELPED ME WITH ALL THEIR HEARTS..
I just needed to express this today,,as father's Day arrives Sunday,,Many of you may be in difficult times in showing or knowing your children's thoughts of you?
So may I say congratulations Dad's for making your child or children KNOW YOUR THERE FOR THEM ALWAYS, by giving them your support and Love through a desired GIFT of HEART not because you ever felt YOU HAD TO..but because YOU FELT THEY HAD TO HAVE YOU IN THEIR LIVES!!!!