I see this in profiles all the time "not into game playing" does anybody have a idea what this means? Maybe if I knew what it means I could avoid it.

If you saw my taxes it would be laughable.

Most of those ATCs should have retired along time ago they just stay working for the money. If you ever few into Palm Springs Ca or Santa Barbara Ca Im the one who keep those radars and computers going. The guys behind the scence get no credit but the pay was good GS-12.

Its high stress the controllers have 20 year retirements.

I would care if you made a mistake.... if you were doing my taxes unless it was in my favor.

you would probably put me to work cleaning up after those goats.

The last time I was in pa was a few years ago its a long drive thats for sure something like 16 hours. I orked for the FAA no way Im flying I know how he air taffic control system works.

I got my lottery ticket just wanting for my numbers to come up.

while your waiting for that right person and the right time you can rock my world just for practice j/k

Like I would have known the difference I think Im dyslexic

your right is more important for me not working but I could get a job just to fill the time.I have been thinking about taking a job at the gym. they need a opener from 530 to 800am .I might be a good way to meet someone thats concerned about getting exerise.

In your case since your so busy I dont see where you have the time for someone else in your life.

You may change your mind once your start living alone after your daughter goes to college. once she gets a boyfriend Im sure her Priorities will change and her calls will be less.

I have a dog you have goats we both know thats not real human contact. I have neighbors but hardly ever see them. at best I might talk to someone from my family once a week. Now you know why its important for me to find someone.Im sure you will see it the same way once you start living alone. having your daughter living with you is important and letting her go wont be easy.

Most people that are paying into SS should be worried about retirement its not going to be there for them when they need it. My kids are already planning n working till dead.I tried to get them to invest in their futures but who listens to their parents.I went shopping today I got my lottery ticket...without hope you have nothing



It happens in real life not everyone in family is going to talk and get along. since you only have one daughter this may not be something you may see but in my family which isnt different that most everyone isnt so friendly. Thought my divorce I have been able to keep on good talking terms with my 3 daughters but two of my daughters dont talk. one of my daughters doesnt talk to her mother. I the father have no control over who likes each other and who talks. all I have control over is my own actions. when I first got a g/f 2 of my daughters took a dislike for her for no other reason than she replace their mother. This really wasnt a big problem becasue I dont have alot of contact with my kids they dont need to talk to me daily or weekly or monthly. We do love each other and talk its just they have their life ,work kids and their own problems. I dont feel a need to define myself through my kids. Im my own person living my own life . I dont need then to watch and care for me.

to answer your question my daughters and I can have a loving family realationship thats just between us and not with the women whos most important in my life and not their mother. One thing I have learned in life is you cant make everyone happy.The mistake i think your making is thinking everyone has to get along ........its just not so in real life.Prefect families are hard to find.

whos put words in whos mouth now? all i said i wouldnt let my kids come between me and the woman of my life.if she didnt like my kids she doesnt have to have contact with them. her relationship is between her and me not them. we could still put each other 1st without my kids input. I did put my last G/F on my will with my daughters . She got a larger portion because she comes 1st now if she complained about not getting it all then shes the wrong woman. That reminds me i need to get her off my will I hope I dont die soon what a mess that will be.

is that rocking chair comment a insult or what? do you think all retired peope do is sit around rocking in chairs.I dont even own a rocking rock. somehow in your mind you must think once you retire you must be dieing. Im active just like alot of older people. I go places do things and have fun. I have many different hobbies.Just becasue I would like to do them with someone else doesnt mean were going to be here in the house stareing in each other eyes all day long. We all have work to get done I just dont get paid for my work. Retirement isnt for everyone some are self starts some cant seem to get out of the chair. those are the ones that wont last long.

When does your committment to your daughter end? Im thinking never. She goes to college she get married or has a boyfriend she has kids. she gets divorce she needs you to watch those kids it just never ends for some mothers. I have seen it before.Till shes out of her 30s dont count on being free from her.Im not saying to turn you back on your daughter right now or ever. she is number one in your life and she should be. making her independant is the goal. Kids bounch back home at times mine sure did but now for me they have all their lifes in order and its my time to enjoy life not go throught another set of problems. we are close to the same age but I had my kids when I was young .I have grandkids almost the age of yor daughter. You started your career when I was ending mine so this may be were our views differ. I did my parenting and to take that on again when it isnt neccessary for me would be a bad choice.At some point you have to say its my time in life to enjoy it.

Married people do whats best for their kids but they are backing each other up everyday and those kids are their blood not kids by a second marriage. raiseing kids is no easy task . then if you have marriages with mixed childern from different marriages it even gets worst. Whos kids get that 1st treatment? Thats why I never divorced at a young age. I wanted my kids to have the best start they could and its paid off for me now i dont have to worry about them and any problems.

Committment to your daughter is one thing committment to the man in your life is another. Its just a matter of fact one does out weight the other. I love my kids but if I did find a woman to be in my life I sure wouldnt let them come between us.

I like the way you think...it might be that I finally found someone that agrees with me.

I read your profile the long verison and was impressed. It was just alittle short of being a book but I have no doubt in my mind what your looking for. Now if everyone includeing me had your skill of writing then finding a match would be a lot easier. I especially like the part on what men need to know about most....sex....at least your honest

your entitled to your opinion I dont see it the same way. insecure is someone who cant let go of the past if all they know is their family and kids thats all they will be. If you found aother person to think like you then you wouldnt need or want each other so why even think about looking for a man in you life.You are looking arent you? Kids and family have a place in your life but if thats your number one concern then living the rest of your life and growing old alone may be your only choice. Im not demanding to be first in her life Im saying we have to be first in both our lives their is a difference.That means she just wont be a sometime thing. Its called commitment. I know thats hard for someone to do when they have been wronged so may times. who says you cant have your own life just because you have someone that cares about you. some how your idea of commitment is givng out and not recieveing anything in return.

A secure man wouldnt settle of being second best and would be able to live just fine without being needy or taking 1st thing that came along.If all you want out of life is single men with no commitment Im sure there are a lot of them out there.

I guess Im a anybody ...so yes were ae you? maybe its too late at night to find someone to talk with.

I was a pretty heavy drinker till my mid 30s I never thought of myself as a alcoholc but other might. when I was in vietnam I probably drank a half a quart of wiskey a day. It never made me abusive thats something you either have or you dont. Im what you call a happy drunk just brings out the nice guy in me.I know some drunks are fighter you have all kinds of people that cant handle drinking.I did ok even in my heavy drinking days,I gave it up for health reason I just couldnt handle it with my aging the hangover were killing me. I didnt drink anything for about 8 years not one drop then started just have a glass of wine everyonce in a while when they started saying it was good for yor health.I dont drink every day. a gallon bottle could last a month or more. sometime I even forget to have a drink thats now less I could care about drinking. If i didnt see any health benfit i probably woundnt drink. one glass is nothing I get no effect from it. might as well drink grape juice only thing its sweeter.

as far as dateing heavier women I have no problem with that as long as they are healthy without medical problems. You forget I have been over weight all my life why would i use that for a lock out factor. who knows over weight better than me. I didnt get divorced from my wife because she was over weight it was becasue we didnt love each other. life is getting shorter its not worth spending it with someone you dont love anymore. now the distance thing is something thats hard to overcome. till two people meet in real life and see if there is some kind of chemistry you never know if your matched. all the photos in the world and emails cant do what nature can do in 30 seconds. any man that only looks at a woman on the outside isnt worth even considering . Most need to look in a mirror and see what they look like. Unless they have loads of money they shouldnt be so picky . the same goes for those women looking for mr right or their prince charming . some are prefect and can demand more. others have to be more honest with themself. but just like you they shouldnt settle for less than they will be happy with. Being healthy is my main weed out factor. I have spent enough time visitig the hospital. If a person has good health that usually means they are eating right getting exerise and not smoking or drinking too much.If a person has to drive around a parking lot looking for the parking place closet to the entrance rather that parking out back in the lot then they are avoiding a little exerise.

I read something in your profile which is probably a bigger weed out factor than distance that would be whats first in your llife.i know its your daughter and rightly so it should be that way. I was the same way thats why I stayed married so long, that and all my wifes medical problems. I learned a lesson from trying to live with some one if you dont come first in their life its not going to work. I would put who ever i lived with first even over my family now that they can care for themselfs. I see so many profiles with women listing what come 1st to them and if its not a man in their life they arent seriouly looking for one. they maybe just wanting a friend or someone to take them to dinner who knows what else . to me dating and friendship has to lead to something for what other reason was man and woman put on the earth than to live togeather and enjoy each other company. once the kids are gone the ture test of the marriage is there right in your face no work to hide behind.I think some guys work till they are dead just for that reason maybe some women do too. so we were doomed from the begining even before all the other factors came into play.

Yes Im doing ok and it wont kill me not to be considered by you or any other woman who dosent like a person who has a drink once in while. Dont you think that might be the problem with a lot of people here. They wont bend or flex and are too ridged in their wants and desires. Im thinking I could flex alittle on a few things but not on all of them. smoking is one of my lock out items but I have been known to over look that just to get to know the real person.I have this idea in my head that if a person really loves you they could give up a bad habit. like a drink once in awhile if it bothered someone. I sure would. Having that drink isnt as important as having someone in your life. They wouldnt be changing us we would be changing ourselfs because we wanted too.whats wrong with asking someone to stop doing something we cant handle? It might just show we care about them and want them in our lifes.

Concerning our hypothetical date that was never going to happen it would be considered incest..... remember Sis

oh yes one more thing a abusive person is just that they dont need a excuse.... drinking or not. so your not protecting yourself there that much.

she hasnt been back since she started it so doubt she cares me messed it.do people really put duct tape on their bad knees?

I see why you dont want to be around anyone that drinks now. Ok the dates off now huh? at least it wasnt because i was too old,too ugly,over wieght ,etc I can live with that I have a drink once in awhile.See how easy it is to chase me away.

edited to say what if I didnt drink on that date would it make any difference? I dont give up easy. give some credit I could have said I never drink... how would you know ?

you might have to explain that one it went right over my head. I have in my mind someone with duct tape on there knees

wait a minute are you saying your a alcoholic thats why you cant drink one drink? are you saying becasue I drink one drink Im alcoholic?believe it or not im no alcoholic and I can have one drink and not have another. your confuseing me here. what your saying is everyone who drinks is a alcoholic that doesnt make sense.