A man trying to prevent the assassination of JFK.
I've seen that. I did like it.

Only thing wrong with it is the date. I assume it was November so it should be 2/11/63.
Now it says 11 Feb 63.

I agree with this UNTIL the bit about spanking. That is absolutely never no way the way to go!!
Certainly not spanking your wife in front of your kids.
But you do have to step into your masculine energy. Become a so called healthy masculine energy man.
What you're doing now is pointing fingers, blaming the situation (and thus your kids AND wife!?!). YOU are responsible here! YOU let it slip.

The thing is, when the man is gone a lot a woman will automatically pick up the slack and go into her masculine. She has to in order to get things done. That means when you get home you suddenly have two masculine energy individuals. That is going to clash, as you found out.
So what needs to happen is YOU taken the masculine energy onto your shoulders again and then your wife can shift back into her feminine energy. Problem solved.
The thing is, if this skewed situation has existed for quite some time your wife will be so stuck and used to being in her masculine energy that she will resist.
It's like quitting smoking for someone else.
So it will take some time.
That means you have to allow it time. And show up as the man, the healthy masculine man that is. NOT a demanding, needy, I-feel-sorry-for-myself man, NOR a controlling bully of a man!!

And I'd strongly suggest talking to your wife. She needs to know how you feel, she'll also need to know that you want to change things. Which will also be for her benefit -even though she may still resist and not see this!!!- as carrying the masculine load is utterly exhausting for a woman.
It affects her health, her happiness and joy. And most certainly is one of the big reasons a woman doesn't want to have sex with her man anymore. Or she doesn't really enjoy it anymore.

For you not being in your healthy masculine also affects your health! Did you know that?
Being in your masculine will raise testosterone and your nervous system will stabilise.
That in turn will raise estrogen in your wife and then her nervous system can stabilise as well.

What I would suggest is checking out Jake Woodard. He can explain it all in an easy to understand way. You can find him on FB, YouTube, Insta.
And if you really want to change things round -also for yourself and your health and so you can be a quality partner- you could consider doing his course for men. He doesn't ask top dollar and he's bloody good.
Dive into a bit and you will see exactly why things have gone wrong AND how you can change it. In turn you'll be happier & healthier and quite likely your wife will be happier & healthy & joyful again too, and wanting to have sex with you.

I see the kids and their disrespect as a secondary issue. And chances are that will improve when they see that mum & dad are working things out, working as a team again.
Kids need that!
Mothers cannot take care of everything. As I said, she'll get exhausted, likely gets short and annoyed, and so on, while a woman is the one who brings happiness, joy, warmth, playfulness into a family/relationship.
But this is impossible when she has to do everything by herself without the support of her man!
And yeah, you made yourself redundant. Don't blame her or the kids for that!! Be accountable. Women need that too. A man they can trust, rely on, feel emotionally safe with, who takes care of her, who provides (not just money!! Also stuff like emotional safety, support etc.), protects, takes decisions, takes care of chit in and around the house.
From what you say you have done none of these! And then you wonder why it went wrong?
If you still love your wife and your kids then become the man that they desperately need (even though they may seem not to, they do!!)
And in order to feel whole, like a man, YOU need it as well.

I'd flat out ask her about it.
In a nice way, not demanding, or angry or anything. But you do deserve her to be honest to you.
It could be she was afraid to tell you as she felt you'd get upset after all.
Could be the ex has shown a renewed interest in her which made her kind of question things.

To explain that... often when a woman feels good with a new man (you in this case) she exudes a wonderful vibe, has a different glow. We then often have an ex come up out of the blue with renewed interest.
That can be confusing, certainly in early stages.
So it could be innocent, but you have to know.

I'd ask, however scary that may be, and tell her you really need her to be honest and that you have to be able to trust her, especially if you're okay with her still dancing with that ex.

Depending on her explanation make you're decision.
If you want to continue with her you could possibly ask her to find another dance partner. You can tell her you're not comfortable with this situation, and rightfully so.
That way you allow her to do what she loves, just not with that ex.
If she's truly into you she will do this.

After the Statham movie I watched Grizzly Night.
Based on the 2 deadly bear attacks in 1967, in Montana's Glacier National Park.

I knew it wasn't going to be a pleasant movie in a way since it concerned people getting attacked, but what got to me, and almost has me in tears, is that they started aggressively killing grizzlies afterwards.
I knew that as well as it's what humans always do. Animals always bear the brunt for people's own FUs. Cause it was human mistakes and stupid behaviour that caused it to happen.
They hunted them down till they were almost extinct.
Disgusting.

That kind of stuff always gets to me.
Going to watch something lighthearted now to snap out of it.

Yeah, sometimes more old school is better.
There are definitely advantages when it comes to how you receive the news.


I am btw watching "Shelter" as we speak :)
So far I am impressed. Not a real fast paced movie but seeing him in action again, absolutely wonderful!
Like I can have a joygasm from watching someone ride a horse really really well, I have the same thing with good martial arts. The kind Statham serves :)

Hungry!!!
It's gone 6 and I haven't even made my dinner yet.
Did cut the veggies though :p
Best get going with it. My fave hobby...
But I'm hungry and eating is going to be bliss, hihi.

Oh well, maybe it's personal preference or not having a preference?
To me Grant is not a tv cowboy at all. He's been a cowboy his entire adult life. He's not an actor, never done any tv show before Mantracker. He's the real deal.
One of the things I liked so much is how well he can ride a horse, at one with a horse, regardless of which one.
I've always had a thing for horse riding since I always wanted to learn myself and wasn't allowed to. But when younger I spent plenty of time with/around horses as my bestie had her own pony. And I got to ride that under her supervision.
And I truly cannot recall ever seeing anyone ride as well as Terry Grant. None of his sidekicks either although most are pro cowboys too.

As for falling off... Grant was in a couple of wrecks, and a few times you can see that he very likely fell off, but then they cut the scene.
But by looking at the horse and his position on it in the last split second it is almost impossible that he could've remained in the saddle.
I think either he himself or the producer didn't want that stuff on tv.
He didn't always ride well trained horses either, and some he couldn't rope off of, which is what caused one of the wrecks when he did use the rope.

But again, probably personal preference or not having preference.
Like most fans, I simply didn't like the 2nd dude.

What I have learnt in the past 15,5 years of no news is that if it's truly important and I should know, I always find out about it one way or another.
Then I still do NOT watch the news as that has an emotional load (if that's the right word).
I then Google it to find an article about what's going on which I then read.
Reading printed/typed text hasn't got the emotional load (think voice, body language etc.) it's basically neutral.
Then I'm up to speed without any emotional coercion from the external.

I did the same when I heard that something was going on in the US.
When it matters, I always find out one way or another and then I can decide for myself whether or not to look into it.
Way better than being overwhelmed plural times a day when the radio is on or the telly. Hearing it once is enough for me, hihi.

The Statham movie sounds interesting! I'm going to look it up tonight :)
I too like Jason Statham, seen many of his movies.

Thank you so much for the encouragement! Very much appreciated!

I've never had the opportunity to watch the progress of someone's painting, except for watching a (semi) pro painter on YouTube.
Must say I do enjoy that!
Like watching Bob Ross. So captivating and almost meditative, hihi.
So I can kind of fathom what it's like.

And getting something as personal like that from your grandchild sure as heck must be special!
Mine are too young for such things, nearly 3 and the other turned 1 yesterday.
But who knows in the future... :)

Thank you, Zee. Does me a ton of good to hear!
And yes, I will keep posting :)
Not certain yet what the next one is going to be. I want to do another horse & cowboy scene, hihi, but also feel drawn to painting a buffalo/bison.
Not certain what I'll do next yet.
Haven't had the time yet. Yesterday was shopping for pressies for my granddaughter's 1st birthday...
Today visiting my girl to celebrate the 1st birthday of the wee one :D

Canvasses for either one have been prepped though, so if I feel like it I can start right away!

Joyful!
Going to my daughter in a bit so I will see my 2 li'l granddaughters as well :)

The youngest had her 1st birthday yesterday!

Thank you so much, Zee!

TxsGal3333, that's kind of what I meant by how often and what etc.
What you say is not really very often and can be just phone calls.
With the father of your kids I can totally understand as well.
I too was in touch with my ex, father of my kids, for quite some time after the divorce.
NOT because there was still love there. Over is over for me. As in 100% over.
But it had to do with the kids.
Every other weekend the kids were with him and sometimes he picked them up at my new home that I shared with my new partner. Sometimes his new partner came with.
Then we drank a cup of coffee, chit-chatted and after that he was on his way home again with our kids.

Having spent a long time with each other and having kids together can mean you still get along after divorce without any desire for getting involved again.

For me personally that's where contact with exes ends. And I wouldn't like a new men to still check in on an ex either. I should be his new responsibility as a man, not an ex.
But that's my personal view & feelings.
This stuff will be different for everyone.

Haha, I guess!
But I haven't watched -nor listened to- news for 15,5 years now. Like to keep it that way!
I rather watch fiction, far more relaxed :D

Just watched US Marshalls for the umpteenth time. Such a good movie.
And such a shame they never made a 3rd one.

You seem to misunderstand a lot.
I have NOT asked.
I thank you for not posting anymore replies in my threads. I do not appreciate personal attacks and insults.
This is a happy & positive thread and I'd like it to stay that way.

Thank you so much, Kristi!
Also for backing me up as an artist and with your knowledge.
As you say, it is beyond rude, and what makes it even worse is that he keeps that going with another tome under your reply.
I'm not even going to read it, haha.
I've had nothing but great & positive feedback from people, except from him and what he comes up with makes no sense whatsoever. What remains is the fact that it's utterly rude.

You do know what you're talking about when it comes to horses, the gear, and riding, which is far more valuable & meaningful :)

Come to think of it... also what 'staying in touch'
entails.
Is this the occasional coffee, and if so, where? Her place or his or a restaurant?
Or is it dinner or entire afternoons/evenings spent together?
So where, how much time, and how often do they spend time together? That also matters.
But still, most important factor is, how do you feel about it? Are you okay with it?

Depends. Not necessarily a red flag.
At a certain age most everyone has had more than 1 relationship and many stay in touch with exes.
I do believe in many cases it's meaningless, but then again it begs the question, if it's meaningless then why is that more important than a potential new partner?

But all in all I think it comes down to your own boundaries. What is okay for you?
I've been lenient with it in the past, also with men having female "just friends".
Since the last one I have now made it a boundary. No guy with female friends anymore and no guy who wants to stay in touch with exes.
UNLESS it's occasional for shared kids.

Again, figure out what your own boundaries are in this.

The legs are exactly as they were in the reference photo...

The dust cloud is exactly as how it happened

The dust cloud isn't somewhat transparent but totally opaque

The dust cloud was that big/long

The cinch is the BACK cinch which is ALWAAAAAAYS loose. The front conch is tight, not the back one.

You wouldn't -and don't- even see the the front cinch at this angle. The cinch isn't that close to the rear legs. So if you know your stuff you'd know it's a back cinch.

The way the knees bend... you cannot even see the knees because of the dust cloud?

The gait of a horse depends on whether it's stepping, trotting or galloping. It's doing none of these really. It's part stepping & slipping & sliding down.

The positioning of the legs depends on the split second you take a snapshot of its movement. It is exactly as in the photo.

The movement is more than clear and, as my fellow painter friend said, well captured.

So to me it seems all you're trying to do is to knock my work. Maybe do some research first before you criticise as all you come up with is based on nothing, otherwise called "BS".
And maybe refrain from replying if you don't like me and/or my work.