I think after lot of thoughts topic become little complicated but I think a guy or girl can live their life as they want but they must take care that it will not make any bad effects on their loved ones.if extramarital affairs can give happyness and peace to someone than it is good but I dont think it can fullfil desire of love in a persons life.these type relations always have some sort of distance.There is only a way if relationship is not working,,and u think it will never gona work,, break it n go for new one or stop running behind love,,sometime people dont have love of partner,,but have lot of love in other form,,search for that.

Well Hello everyone.

I would also like to give my input on the subject here. I would go with it using my own experience. So here it is...

When I was 16 years old, I just met a girl who was just perfect for me. I took my time and proposed her 3 months later.

love wat u do...do wat u love...

Tia u sure girls don't do that??

see there are two types of personal involved. first one playing a planned drama of love for only to have intimacy. it is never ever attached with emotions even after very long duration.
next one also wants intimacy but not by making fool but as a result of his/her concrete steps towards life long believe. he may touch kiss and all other act but will keep patience for extreme.
even world is fast but girls beware. watch for them at least 1000days.also avoid to go in a lonely place. first kind of guy will always ask to do as such. so it depends on you. ....

What's true love according to u?
I think most people have their own defination of true love.

U r absolutely right tia. Everyone expect someone who can share our feelings, emotions and thoughts. And a frnd is the one and only who stands with us in every situation. Thanx

Having intimated encounter or think abt such isn't wrong its quite natural.

I love a girl
i proposed her 3 times.
she always said no,

a month back i got job, i proposed her to marry me. she again said no.

i just loved her and nvr evr had thoughts of getting intimate with her. nvr had bad thoughts abt her

love and intimacy are not different things.they are the half and half part of entire 1.
but love doesn't mean that intimacy is must, however in love we also want to intimate with our love. and if there is real love between a copule than intimacy and love both walks together and give real feeling of love and joy, and yes love is possible without intimacy,but it also depends on the copule does they want sex? or real love. I will give you an example - if a couple need to go for work for several months alone (alone means separated) than he or she should not intimate with other neither they will if they will love their partner truly, but now-a-days both are character less and they want to just intimate .
people only say that they love but there are only few that really knows the meaning of love.
Love doesn't mean sex, it is care, respect and the urge of giving her/his partner her/his each and every thing , even he or she ounself does not possess that thing but he/she desires to give that particular thing to her/his partner( instead of keeping it for their ownself) that is love

Cheer up...i think both of us are in the same boat. im a 37 yr old man having the similar problem. In my case my wife neither stays with me nor does she want to give divorce. She keeps the kids away too. My life is just work n lonliness, in this situation how can it be wrong if you have someone close to you ,to whom you can talk to and share things.

and if you have baby then think deeply that if you go extramarital affair then simply not only you also your baby will suffer. and out of marriage you can get only sex. and sex is not love. sex is lust and lust and lust. that's why government suggest that just after marriage we should not plan for baby.first understand each other and spend atleast 5 years. now c if you want to think about your baby than simply ask questions to yourself , that do you love your baby? if yes then ask what you want baby or your new life? if new life then ask will you keep baby alongwith you or leave it to its dady? if you want to start new life and relationship then it better you left it for its dady. and openly talk on this matter alongwith your and your husband's family. and just simply give up and openly talk to your parents and your husband's parents. cuze this relation is not going any where. either you or your baby will suffer in this.
simply open your problem alongwith your husband, tell him what you want and what not.tell him why you got married to him. marriage is not sex.and if he doesn't listen then tell your parents openly and tell them you cant live in this situation and rise your problems and questions openly.and give up as soon as possible nai to der ho jaygi samji.
it is out of understanding why people keep extramarital affairs. you know what not I did for my girl.??? even I purchased a gold ring from my scholarship and pocket money for her , but what I got? simply she betrayed me and I got her red handed behind my back having sex and relation with other boy. and in all that it was I who suffered.you can emegin what goes on heart when a person, whom you love and like most and whom you trust more than anyone else, and when he/she betrayed you then what happens. would you like to know what she replied to me when I caught her red handed? she said she had pity on others and situation made her to do so. mujsey puch ke dekho mere qa haal hua tha g kar raha tha ki usko ___________end. aur please me suggest karuga ki agar sadi se khus nai ho to divorce le lo.par kabi dhoka mat do. pati/patni ak dusrey par trust kartey he.wesey to ajkal na to pati dhang ka reh gaya he aur na patni. sabko sex chaia bus. meney us ladki ko dil se pyar kiya tha. jo merey pas ni tha wo b usko diya. acha hua usney dhoka diya. ab kam se kam koi dusri ladki to mileygi jo mujey us se jada pyar kareygi.wo mere layak he ni thi. please dhoka mat do apney pati ko.saf saf bol do ki tum qa chati ho. sex,pyar,care,saath, jo b chaia apney pati ko bolo. agar ni suntan to simply divorce lo. aur sadi karlo dusri. baby ka qa karna he wo tum socho. it will be better that you give it to its dady and move on with your life.and also it will be better for you and your baby.

yes true luv without intimacy can exists.....imagine true luvrs who liv e in gr8 distance wronging the belief that luv ca'nt be maintained in distance.....feelings are more important than being physical...most people break away becoz they get confused lust with true love...

Is divorce the way of solution

tia i think this is not a great place to get advise or opinion. you better consult a relationship counselor as they can give u professional advise. generally relationships and love are over rated its better to improve our own life in a way that we dont need to depend on someones love to feel good or happy.

Every boy n girl has right to choose their loving and carying frend....so it is natural thing nything special.

Love and intimacy go hand in hand.Love include adore, desire, prefer, possess, care for, serve, and even worship. To understand love in relationships, you must first understand how the self either enhances or inhibits your capacity to love. so my opinion is a true love needs intimacy :)