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Topic:
Why are you here?
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Zee
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Wed 03/11/26 12:10 PM
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to pave the dirt roads It's a long road. Hope ya have a big shovel. *Zee pulls a backhoe tractor from the shed* 
big enough Mo?? 
dang.. pic didn't work..  let's try that agin..
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I'm watching The Pendragon Cycle: Rise of the Merlin TV series and I'm having a bit of a time trying to get into it.. I'm a HUGE king arthur/merlin fan and anything dragons both onscreen and in books, but this show? not totally sold on it.. if this is what the written book series is like.. I am NOT reading it.. even IF it made more sense.. so far I give it a 4.5/10
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Zee's Pub! - part 7
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good mornin peeps'n lurkers
1/2 way thru the week, already? WOW 
time is zippin by.. feeling the "springy" anxiousness of wanting to get outside and start the work on covering my deck.. looks rather blah out thar tho.. freezing rain starting today and they're predicting gawd awful weather for the next 5-6 days   up side? I heard GEESE honkin yesterday in the sunny 68F skies.. the weather map looks like a yoyo.. one day warm (if you can call 52F warm LOL) the next cold (23F)
anywho.. chores are calling.. have a great day everyone
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Topic:
Why are you here?
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to pave the dirt roads
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Toxic and abusive behaviour
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you can't beat yourself up over what you did or didn't do.. I was married to an abuser so I get it, everyone had opinions.. but the decision to leave has to come from within, no on can make those choices for you.. it sucks that your mom influenced you to not leave tho, that wasn't her place, even if she thought she was doing the right thing.. thankfully it's history now.. time to move forward..
you shud take time to work thru this, you survived, so that strength is already in you.. I wud suggest rediscovering yourself & heal first, before getting involved with anyone else.. best of luck to you! 
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 hey stranger..
nice.. thanks for sharing!
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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71 here..... storms moving in for the evening. This part of Michigan had 4 tornadoes last Friday 
Time to relax 
whoa.. 4?? that's wild..
obviously you're okay.. right? hope that's the last for ya.. I know here the wind was pretty crazy too.. but not to THAT point.. thankfully! |
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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Near 70 yesterday, snow and rain mix due tomorrow or next day. Gotta love living in Wisconsin. we must be in the same weather belt cuz that's what north of the border's gettin too..
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tonight is smashed taters, carrots, pork loin with a side of apple sauce.. (made a bunch of chops that I gotta eat 'fore they go bad) ended up eating the left over beans with whole wheat toast instead, I'll finish the pork tamarra |
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Why are you here?
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to give Mo a lift to Uranus
 I had beans again for dinner
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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it was 84 here yesterday, supposed to hit 81 today... I HATE you 
send some this way please
we're dropping to 30F with rain, freezing rain and snow for the rest of the month per the weather network 
the snow's almost all gone too *sniffles* good job I haven't put away my snow blower
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tonight is smashed taters, carrots, pork loin with a side of apple sauce.. (made a bunch of chops that I gotta eat 'fore they go bad)
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Topic:
Why are you here?
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I was told this was the express line
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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good morning peeps'n lurkers
just a n'udder day in da hood.. suns up.. mild enough, yesterday it reached 68F but it's going down to under 30F by end of week..  oh well.. no control over the weather so, we deal
hope everyone has a wonderful day
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Edited by
Zee
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Tue 03/10/26 07:32 AM
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the "50's" way some men think of women OR, as you put it, their religions/cultures deem women as 2nd's is so far outdated, it's ludicrous.. many women today, whether men want to accept it or not, are far superior intellectually than them.. some women wear many more hats simultaineously, in many instances, than men do.. The treatment of women as secondary to men has deep roots in historical religious and cultural systems. Even though modern society often claims to reject those ideas, generations of conditioning have left those beliefs embedded in our collective thinking, almost like an inherited psychological reflex. In modern spaces such as dating apps, this dynamic can become distorted. As traditional forms of male dominance or social power weaken, some men struggle to adapt to environments where success depends more on mutual interest and communication than control. That loss of direct influence can provoke frustration, and in the anonymous, low-accountability atmosphere of dating platforms, it sometimes manifests as antisocial behavior, hostility, or attempts to reassert dominance in unhealthy ways. You brought up the fact that woman are now at a point that intellectually they have over taken men, but this has always been true and woman can very easily move past the physical part the interaction and look for the more meaningful connection through conversation and true interest not conquest. This is what guys don't get. It also doesn't help that evey few profiles sexual content and more is for sale. Thanks to everyone that has engaged till this point. I completely agree that it is not just in recent years that women have surpassed men intellectually, and that it has been true for a very long time.. but as you state, women have been oppressed for eon's and led to believe by men and society that they are inferior.. however many men today, as you have also mentioned, still do not accept that fact about women, or are very slow at doing so, that we are more than equal and although we can enjoy the physical aspect of a relationship, some prefer, and value, the intellectual connection far more. Speaking of my own preferences, engaging my mind first AND being viewed, at the very least, as an equal, would go much farther in creating a meaningful partnership, instead of thumping ones chest and swinging clubs in a demanding, neanderthalic way, ever could. Thank you Jay for sharing your thoughts on this subject, very refreshing!  I deleted a "quote" by mistake and it looked weird
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long read but interesting perspective..
I concur with much you have written, dating apps seem to encourage a lot of what you have described.. plus the online world emboldens many beyond the point of acceptable behaviour I've found that some men I've conversed with online, IMO, have been demeaning and demanding as well as seemingly taking pleasure in attacking women, then try to make it look as if the woman is at fault for responding to the mans opinions with their own.. which seems to fall into your #4 category.. am I to assume then that the lashing out is due to the results that stem from those failures? in many ways that would make perfect sense.. this kind of behaviour seems to be an insight into their deeper nature, and not only a total turn off, but one of the main reasons for many women choosing to remin single There are definitely mechanisms on there app's that are designed in such a way that rewards greed and been over stimulated in anything will change behavior. Non of the encouraged behaviors are healthy for anyone. Here guys don't have to take NO as an answer because they just move on to the next product. This creates new neutral path ways in the brain that you make decisions with. That gets repeated and guys have no issue asking for nudes of woman and if they here NO thats the end of the "date". This one of many behavioral issues form and it can spill over from the relative safety of been on the phone to real life. Not all but read the profiles of the woman and you will soon see that there is a lack of respect for woman in these app and tie that with the way some religions view woman as 2nd to men and some cultures this becomes a greater societal problem. Lastly you said that some men will lay the blame on the woman. so now we have cowards with no respect. There is a lot to discuss and Ill be done with my analysis on the habits and behavior opportunities of the female side of this mess. this seems very plausible.. personally, I hear "NEXT" in my mind when men speak of their encounters/exploits online.. as if women are lined up in a queue just waiting for a man to simply show them the time of day.. then they move on without a backward glance or a note of empathy when things don't go their way.. although it can be said the same of some women, I don't seem to find them anywhere near openly as crass as men.. the "50's" way some men think of women OR, as you put it, their religions/cultures deem women as 2nd's is so far outdated, it's ludicrous.. many women today, whether men want to accept it or not, are far superior intellectually than them.. some women wear many more hats simultaineously, in many instances, than men do.. speaking strictly for myself.. I say what's on my mind, I don't really care what people think because they judge without truly getting to know the real me first (thus "NEXT" comes quicker for men I simply converse with, however, that said, when I hear disparaging comments, OR they talk about their many exploits/conquests, I tend to move on quickly myself as I refuse to tollerate such behaviour from anyone, regardless of their sex) nor am I here to find a man, let alone "The One".. I'm fully aware that that is highly unlikely to happen so in that regard, have zero expectations.. I'm simply here to enjoy some banter, chat with old friends and new, and at times, enjoy being engaged in some stimulating conversation.. so to your point above, being attacked by cowards and masogynists simply reminds me that the choices I've made to remain single, are truly valid and justified! |
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long read but interesting perspective..
I concur with much you have written, dating apps seem to encourage a lot of what you have described.. plus the online world emboldens many beyond the point of acceptable behaviour I've found that some men I've conversed with online, IMO, have been demeaning and demanding as well as seemingly taking pleasure in attacking women, then try to make it look as if the woman is at fault for responding to the mans opinions with their own.. which seems to fall into your #4 category.. am I to assume then that the lashing out is due to the results that stem from those failures? in many ways that would make perfect sense.. this kind of behaviour seems to be an insight into their deeper nature, and not only a total turn off, but one of the main reasons for many women choosing to remin single |
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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good Monday mornin peeps'n lurkers
yet another week has begun.. today is fairly mild outside with sunshine and a few clouds.. OMG tho, they're predicting SNOW again this coming weekend.. looks like that spring blizzard might really happen 
they're predicting 35mm (about 1.4") of rain on wednesday too.. oh my but it's gonna be a weird week..
anywho.. hope everyone has a splenderiffic day.. it's TAX times folks.. time ta get'er done
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Topic:
Why are you here?
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to mow the lawn
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Topic:
Zee's Pub! - part 7
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CLOSING time... at least fer me it is.. locking up so if ANYone's in the pub? leave now or sleep on a sofa..
me? gonna kick back, watch a show, read, then get some shut-eye first up? gonna watch a lil coon feast.. the coons are awake, now that the weathers warming up, and chowing down on the deck, right outside ma patio door.. front row seats
have a good evenin y'all.. chowder
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