After 40 years my high school sweetheart found me again. In the beginning never told me he was married. After I fell deeply in love with him, we live in two different states, have visited each several times in a year and half period of time.
He was begging me to move out here which I was planning on doing. after many many love letters, and time spent together,
he writes and tells me I can't lose my home or marriage its time to end this. When just three days prior to that he couldn't get enough of my love or loving me. My question is am I wrong in wanting to get even:

It's normal, although it may not be the best option to choose.

Take no vengeance - for vengeance belongs to the Lord, however do warn him that what he did was wrong.

Also stay clear of a married man!

wow...But right now getting even seems like the best thing...but its for the best not to

ooh, that's a tough one, let it go sweetie, it's best, hard, but best

Revenge is a dish best served cold...
However, vengence is mine sayeth the Lord....or something like that...

Um, the writer is upset that he was married and near the end admits she was too. Why the hell be upset? Both cheaters, who cares?

That is sad....obviously he is going through a mid-life crisis. On the other hand, perhaps he professed his love for you to his present wife and she proved to him that she was going to take everything and he does not want to be a burden to you.

Always, always keep in mind that if it sounds like something too good to be true....it probably is.

If you care to talk more or just vent, feel free to email me.

Let me tell you it takes all you have not to want to, but in the long run you have to ask yourself......is it really worth wasting more time on someone who doesn't deserve you putting forth the effort to make him feel what you are feeling right now? My husband cheated on me 7 out of the 8 years we were married and believe me I of all people know how you feel. I had to ask myself......could I live with doing that to someone even though at the time it would have made me feel so much better? There are so many more good things in the world for everyone and a little pain just makes you that much stronger.

I'm sure the pain is unreal, but he'll meet his maker one day. If the wife doesn't know what her husband is up to by now then, she'll find out some other way some how. Karma is real!

Because everyone has feelings.

Wait 6 or 7 months and just inform him you tested positive for HIV and he should get himself tested... let him wonder awhile

Call his wife and tell her. Or find another way to tell her

Cheaters, cheaters, pumpkin eaters....

and now you know why its so damn hard to TRUST people

Never a truer statement made

I'm with Mirror on this one...

some people have no morals or values .. you did nothing wrong he was the one who kept his marriage hidden..

a lot of singles have found out many things after the fact and were angry - you are not alone.

there is a way to protect yourself from this happening its as simple as running a name in court records in the county the person lives in you will be amazed what you find out marriages, divorces, speeding tickets, duis, criminal backgrounds .. I wouldnt say to just randomly do this but once it reaches a certain level towards serious sometimes its wise to avoid a person or you can see yourself if they are being truthful. Many of these records are online some are free.
You find out they are honest or not there is no hiding a public record.

Sometimes good people dont see that a person is pulling a fast one, hiding something, or lying because we wouldnt think to do what they do.