Ive been a christian for about 13 years now...Ive felt strong for years but as of late Ive been feeling a little jaded for a while now....I dont know if this is a phase or has the milk and honey ran out....Its just not fun anymore and Im tired of denying myself at times, not that Im givin up(never that) but Im struggle pretty bad......any advice for me out there?

something needs to change ??

It's always a struggle. That's how you grow,!!!!!!

Explain some more about the jaded feeling.

Why was christianity fun for you in the beginning

why did you become a christain? and if you weren't a christain for all that time where would you be now. alone i'm lost with my savior i'm hopeful.

I suggest Meth Amphetamines, or crack might work. Work your way to the bottom, and you will realize what a wonderful place you are in right now.

It is ok to be a Christian but not live like monks or nuns. It is also OK not to run to church every five minutes for a confession .
If you have the dialogue with Him on a daily basis that is a fundamental requirement which you seem to have.
Ask questions you will be delivered answers.

Funny, your profile doesn't mention your 13 year christian lifestyle.
If you're not feeling the joy of living the life prescribed in the bible, then what, you're being lured by the redefinition of fun as published by the 'other one'.
The christian in you (13 yrs correct?)knows you are simply being tested and knows what it needs to resist.

At a fork in the road, your answer is simple.

Make a decision. Which way do you turn.

To your faith? Then return to the ones responsible for your guidance. Get the needed strength to resist the foolishness from HIM, Your religious leaders and fellowship mates.
Make HIM happy and you know your strength will reurn.

To you need for gratification? Then go to it. Indulge. surrender. enjoy(?). Make the other one happy and you know . . .

Years and years ago , I found that religion is a man made rubbish and something full of contradictions and control .
When I have a toothache I see my dentist ,when my testicles bother me I see a urologist ....etc. I have no need to go to a place of worship and I do not want to live in myths and contradictions of any religion . Good luck for your search...!.

The committment of Christ to you is not in question.

He lets us walk towards our attentions but never leaves us.

The dryness can be because of a lack of nurture.

love, love, and love, sister.

love on the Lord a little.

Joy springs up and rejoicing follows.

The pressures of those that have not our anchor can be distracting and seem endlessly insufferable, but we have so much more and are blessed to know that.


The Lord inhabits the praises of his people.(psalms 22:3)

Sound familiar?


peace and love and grace to you.

Well actually you need some renewal. You aren't satisfied with routine things anymore & that's a good thing.

The Bible says Wake up O sleeper.

God is calling us to not be satisfied with our humdrum lives but TO something more. His kingdom come in all its fullness. We should not be satisfied with anything less.

It's time to desire that to the point of crying out for that something more. The time of passivity & indifference is over.

definitely understand that but Im tired of it lol

I would be a mess, great perspective

......I'll pass

so true Quikestepper
i believe you are at that Y junction in ur life where the lord is calling u to go deeper and really search for him he desires to give you soo much,more than u can dream of, for u to be fulfilled in your life. you see God want to have adeeper relationship with you he wants you.Return to your first love.
You will make it be strong and lean on almighty God

I dont feel like I need to broadcast my christian life style...If you know me you no my convictions and thats the important peace for me

thanks for the advice, trust and blieve I read the bible and have a some what of a understanding of Good vs Evil but at the end of the day, Im still human and I still struggle with sin as do most christians in the bible...its never a open and shut cast....ask moses,david,salamon and the like...have great day

thanks you so much for a encouraging word sister...peace and much love to you

Hmmmmm I never thought of it that way...thanks

long story short my friend...going to church day and day out for 13 yrs can get boring(same old same old)...there are only so many things you can preach about....Its hard for me to even read my bible anymore(read it three times already lol).....not to mention Ive been hurt by christian but I expect that, doesnt mean it dont hurt ...

Im actually looking for a chruch as we speak, the one Im going to is not working for me, the word is great but the fellowship is exteremly boring......Its missing/or Im missing something I just dont no what it is........

I guess what made it fun in the begining was the joy of being renewd, building quality christian relationships and having a desire to really live the bible out....As time goes by life has a way of harding a person.....I wont go thru the entire list of crap Ive been thru but its been a hard 3 years.....I left my church,got divorced and had to start my entire life over again and thats the PG version lol........over all Im happy (about a 7 on the scale of life) Im just stinkin it up spritually and wanna get the heart I once had for GOD!!!!! Better is one day in his house then a thousand elsewhere

I don't expect you to reveal publicly what you'd like to do that you feel you can't do as a Christian. But I can't help buy wonder what it might be.

I'm not a Christian, yet I can't honestly say that there is anything I do that would like to do that would violate the biblical laws of Christianity.

Other than fornication (not adultery!), just sex out of wedlock. That is about the only 'sin' I would love to commit!

Unfortunately I haven't been presented with opportunities to commit it anyway. Life doesn't always go as planned.

But this is why I'm curious. Because I don't really see Christianity as being all that restrictive, unless your gay maybe? I really feel for you if you are truly gay and you're being held hostage to a religion that refutes your natural desires.

I can't imagine what else you'd like to do that would violate Christianity. Unless its something like adultery (which I would highly recommend not doing just on logical grounds even to an atheist).

Or murder? Or stealing? I just can't imagine what it would be?

Other things too like polygamy would be more along the lines of being gay. If you have a desire for polygamy why not just change over to a religion that believes that way? Why let religion hold you hostage to what you feel a natural inclination to be?

You say you are denying yourself because of Christianity?

You just have me dying to know what that could be?

Unless, like I say, it's pure fornication. Then I feel for you because I personally think that's a really sick rule in the first place. I just responded in another thread about how I don't believe a true God would be against fornication (not adultery!). I merely talking about sex out of wedlock, I'm not talking about cheating on commitments!

Personally I see nothing wrong with that. But I can see how Christianity can lay an unnecessary guilt trip on people.

I don't believe that God expects single people to go through life being sexually frustrated all the time. I just don't buy into that one!

Of course, you're probably thinking about something entirely different. I'm just at a loss as to what it could be is all.

I just don't see Christianity as being all that restrictive. I didn't leave Christianity because it was too restrictive. I left it simply because I don't believe it's true. And for no other reason.